So bored with my friend humblebragging

stanlet · 2020-12-23T14:44:03+00:00

She'll send pictures of her messy play/craft set up and then say something like 'no wonder I spend all day tidying up!' It's not just things like that but that's a most recent example. I can't bare humblebragging!

namechangefail2020 · 23/12/2020 14:44

Nowt humble about that

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 23/12/2020 14:45

Make a creation from your recycling bin and send her a picture declaring it her Xmas gift...

Whynotnowbaby · 23/12/2020 14:46

Agree, I have a friend who does those. I have never replied but am always tempted to take them at their word and make suggestions about how to make things tidier or how to train the children to tidy up after themselves!

Planet42 · 23/12/2020 14:47

Just reply in the same way ‘wow that is a mess! Good luck!’

MaskingForIt · 23/12/2020 14:48

bare humblebragging

My boobs are so big it is so hard to get bras to fit!

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stanlet · 23/12/2020 14:51

It's always the same.

Videos of my child singing/reciting the alphabet etc saying 'she just won't be quiet today' when my son has been in speech therapy for a year.

It's so annoying

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akerman · 23/12/2020 14:54

Your last example is more than annoying, it’s bloody insensitive. Who does that?
I’m sorry, OP.

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stanlet · 23/12/2020 14:56

@stanlet

It's always the same.

Videos of my child singing/reciting the alphabet etc saying 'she just won't be quiet today' when my son has been in speech therapy for a year.

It's so annoying

I meant 'her child' not 'my child'

Yes it's insensitive and opened my eyes to her silly behaviour

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Djouce · 23/12/2020 14:58

Take her entirely seriously and respond with a prim 'Oh, dear, that does look as though a typhoon has passed through your house. How unfortunate. You must feel desperate as you don the Marigolds yet again', and and even primmer 'Gosh, how annoying. We find the naughty step works very well when our little X gets out of control.'

TidyDancer · 23/12/2020 14:58

YANBU.

Put her on mute and don't reply. If she asks why then tell her but I wouldn't bother otherwise.

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stanlet · 23/12/2020 15:00

I do tend to ignore. Which is a massive shame because we were such friends.

Until they were toddlers there was none of this shit. I honestly don't know what happened!

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stanlet · 23/12/2020 15:00

@Djouce

Take her entirely seriously and respond with a prim 'Oh, dear, that does look as though a typhoon has passed through your house. How unfortunate. You must feel desperate as you don the Marigolds yet again', and and even primmer 'Gosh, how annoying. We find the naughty step works very well when our little X gets out of control.'

Haha! I do this sometimes.

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gypsywater · 23/12/2020 15:02

I ignore any humblebrag posts and messages. Dont reward with any attention.

BrutusMcDogface · 23/12/2020 15:03

That is terrible about the speech thing. Yes, who does that? She isn’t a friend. My son was severely speech delayed and it broke my heart seeing others his age chatting away, and then when he started speaking, no one could understand him for a while. I’m so sorry!

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stanlet · 23/12/2020 15:05

@BrutusMcDogface

That is terrible about the speech thing. Yes, who does that? She isn’t a friend. My son was severely speech delayed and it broke my heart seeing others his age chatting away, and then when he started speaking, no one could understand him for a while. I’m so sorry!

Thank you. Hope your son is doing well!

Mine is progressing nicely thankfully! But I had an awful year with worry. Waking up everyday worrying about his speech.

Yes it's hard hearing other kids chatting away. Especially when it's bragged about by the adults.

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LadyFoxtrot · 23/12/2020 15:07

If that was me I’d write ‘looool humblebrag much’ and leave her to scramble her way out of it

TweeterandtheMonkeyman · 23/12/2020 15:07

Since having kids I’ve realised that a lot of people are very annoying on the subject of their own kids. I send them love and light 😇 ... but I also unfollow on social media , and in one case unfortunately let the friendship fizzle out.

TW2013 · 23/12/2020 15:07

'Poor you, I am so lucky that loves to tidy up so my house never gets quite that bad.

slipperywhensparticus · 23/12/2020 15:09

Ahh yes my dear little "nursery aged child" can only count to fifty how are they going to COPE in reception....my year three can't get past counting to ten and I'm pushing for a special school but still you feel the need to tell me how "behind" your nursery aged child is constantly because I shoukd know how it feels having a child who is behind "too"

Sent pictures of all the mess and shite left over from a marathon long making memories session what did ds do today hun? Created a 6 level fortress on minecraft complete with moat turrets drawbridge (and a load more stuff that I zoned out on) aww hunny poor YOU! Dont you feel like interacting with him would help? Maybe he wouldn't have learning difficulties if you played with him more? Yeah go suck glitter up your Dyson hun my son can't really read can't really write but he rocks like a boss on minecraft 😎 and he loves making stuff for me on there

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stanlet · 23/12/2020 15:09

Perhaps the speech issue made me realise how easy it is to slip into bragging so now I hardly mention his achievements except to the grandparents.

I think some forget that their children aren't as special to others as they are to them.

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TW2013 · 23/12/2020 15:10

child singing/reciting the alphabet etc saying 'she just won't be quiet today

Ah bless I guess not everyone can be destined to be a chorister, but at least she is enthusiastic

HighSpecWhistle · 23/12/2020 15:12

"Oh no, I couldn't live with that mess! I grew up in a cluttered house and it did my head in"

GruffyLove · 23/12/2020 15:12

I have a friend like this - had a major complex with white being better than our own race. So will say what are you having for Xmas dinner I’ll say doing x y z food from our culture and she’ll be like oh no we have duck Turkey etc or things like oh you grew up in a really Brown culture city - I was the only brown face in my town - my family is really white in it’s attitude!

Smacks of literally and allegorically - insecurity! Looking for affirmation all the time - sometimes I ignore my friend other times I get all brown on her to embarrass her to have some respect for her culture

WorraLiberty · 23/12/2020 15:12

@stanlet

I do tend to ignore. Which is a massive shame because we were such friends.

Until they were toddlers there was none of this shit. I honestly don't know what happened!

That's probably where you're going wrong then

Call her out on it every single time, especially over the speech thing.

Moondust001 · 23/12/2020 15:15

Maybe it's just me, but why are there so many threads from people complaining about their "friends"? Perhaps I have a different definition of "friend", but my friends are people that I like. If I don't like them, what they do, or their children, then they aren't "friends". I certainly don't whinge about my friends and what they do because they are people I like. Perhaps if their messages are so boring/unpleasant/unwanted, you should not be "friends" and tell them so, then they won't waste any time on you either?