So bored with my friend humblebragging

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She'll send pictures of her messy play/craft set up and then say something like 'no wonder I spend all day tidying up!'

It's not just things like that but that's a most recent example.

I can't bare humblebragging!

Yeah people with kids are horrible

Gosh one of my friends is the absolute worst at this. She recently sent a photo to our group chat (our friends have children with a range of learning abilities, and some clear barriers such as dyslexia and autism) of some craft activity she had done and she just happened to have them sat on top of a piece of paper displaying VERY advanced (for his age) maths calculations by her 6 year old 🤮 considering the photo was meant to be about the craft, the maths was very much the focus.

I laugh when friends do that. If she sent me a crafty thing I would reply 'are you mad' we are sat chilling with a cup of tea whilst the kids are on their tablets.! Sheer bliss!

We all do it even if we’re not aware of it....... it all depends what the recipient is sensitive about which varies with each and every one of us. I don’t think any of us means to upset any one else by touching on a sensitive subject but we can’t always know what someone else’s worries are. I know that other people have said things that have upset me but I also know they haven’t meant to. It’s more my problem than theirs.

@MaskingForIt you clearly have never had the massive pain and inconvenience of massive tits. If I’m telling someone I can’t get bras/ or clothes to fit then it’s because I can’t and it’s a nightmare. If you think that’s a humble brag then that says more bout you and your insecurities than anyone else. I for one am tired of holding my massive boobs just to run to catch a ruddy bus.

I'd never even heard of this term before I clicked on this thread. Perhaps she is just trying to reach out to you in the only way she knows how , through her child. Perhaps she is just sharing part of her day /life with you and is just wrapped up in having a toddler she doesn't realise how she comes across.

I have a few friends like this.. urgh.. like one friend who brags about how much money her and her partner have.. its not loads... we work together... but her partner is the bread winner id say.. decentish wage bit nothing amazing... they live in an average semi detached house but she talks like she lives this lavish lifestyle... "urgh he wants to book ANOTHER holiday! That will be 8 holidays in the last 5 years but i still dont have my michael kors purse to match my bag and watch!"

Two new mums suffering from what husbands suffer from after wives give birth, no idea what they're talking abut or doing and the mod swings are biblical

I have a good friend who is a single mum to 3 kids, one with autism, who posts this sort of stuff on FB and gets the “you’re such a good mum spending quality time with your kids” comments back from randomers. However her messages to me personally are more real, she shares her worries and insecurities with me and sends along the lines of “today has been rubbish, they are lucky to all be alive by bedtime!” And when it’s stuff she’s genuinely proud of she says so! I see the posts online and I like or thumbs up but don’t engage because I know it’s her social media existence and not her real life, and she knows I know that! She would never send the sugar coated humblebrags to me because I know her better, so I think maybe your friend is just being a bit annoying and insensitive sending these videos directly to you rather than having a normal, grown up conversation!

It’s not easy being a mummy and I’m so sorry you are still being challenged.
Perhaps suggest ‘in a friendly caring manner’ that Social Services have parenting classes if she’s not coping’
And
“Perhaps a Counsellor could help”
And
“Well we all have different standards - but I’m sure you’ll eventually cope”
Not all in the same conversation.

@CottonHeadedNinyMuggins

I'm so sorry to hear this love. I have a friend who is very similar but about the "new detached house" she bought and the "new double garage door" "new conservatory" "new huge dining table" "new carpets throughout" "new entire posh range of skin care" "new make up range I just had to hsve because it's christmas." "yet another award I've won" "call from the ceo telling me I'm so amazing" "wedding that's so many thousands of pounds I can't even mention!"

She's a lovely friend otherwise but the showing off constantly is very very grating and had dimmed my view of her somewhat. Its been incessant this past 2 years, she never used to do it before.

She sounds like the alpha-mum character in Motherland who turned out to be miserable and with a cheating husband.

I know a few people like this, and I often wonder how happy their home life actually is. I think "Who are you trying to convince? Me or yourself?"

I think my three year old DS is one of the most amazing, clever, handsome and wonderfully mannered children ever to grace the earth.

However I only ever point this out to DH who is in complete agreement.

@Wherediditgo

I think my three year old DS is one of the most amazing, clever, handsome and wonderfully mannered children ever to grace the earth.

However I only ever point this out to DH who is in complete agreement.

Same! We bang on about him almost 100% of the time.

Sounds annoying, but surely 90 percent of all messages and social media posts could be labelled humble bragging, or just normal bragging.

Here’s my Christmas tree.
Here’s me at the airport.
Here’s my dinner.
Here’s where I’m walking today.
Here’s me raising money for charity.
Here’s me being 100 and walking laps off my garden and becoming a National Treasure.

It’s all a farce really.

@cactusisblooming

YABU OP, I love a good stealth boaster. I used to have one on Facebook and I used to wake up every morning looking forward to her posts of faux concern over how incredibly advanced her children are, and how she was jealous of us mere mortal parents who had children developing at average rates 😂 Sadly she "did a cull, only true friends will remain" and I clearly was not fawning over her and her amazing offspring enough so hot unfriended. Facebook has never been the same 😭

🤣

Yanbu. Just own it.

I've spent all morning playing crafts.
I'm so proud she's learnt her alphabet etc.

@PuppyMonkey

Sounds annoying, but surely 90 percent of all messages and social media posts could be labelled humble bragging, or just normal bragging.

Here’s my Christmas tree.
Here’s me at the airport.
Here’s my dinner.
Here’s where I’m walking today.
Here’s me raising money for charity.
Here’s me being 100 and walking laps off my garden and becoming a National Treasure.

It’s all a farce really.

Totally. But there's something particularly irritating about humble bragging.

"Oh here's me on another transatlantic flight, I'm just exhausted, sometimes I wish I could just holiday in a caravan park like other people"

My son didnt speak until he was 8 and I never found it offensive people posting about their kids speaking. The rest I get though 😂

Sorry op just realised she sent you these directly. Yea that's cruel.

@knackersknockersknickers

Yanbu. Just own it.

I've spent all morning playing crafts.
I'm so proud she's learnt her alphabet etc.

Yes agree

@HotChoc10

I don't have kids yet but sometimes my friends and sisters send me pictures of the activities they're doing with theirs because they're cute and it's fun to see happy children. Is the brag supposed to be how good of a parent she is? I don't see a problem with the message tbh.

That’s because you don’t have a child about whom you’re a tiny bit concerned. A parent who does this to another parent they know to be struggling, is actually being pretty unpleasant.

Read one the other day
“Can’t believe it! My lovely caring Prince secretly run me a bath with rose petals and candles and made me a cup of tea! Blessed!”
He’s 6. If he really did light candles and boil a kettle alone without you knowing Janet, you need to be more aware of what he’s doing.

@angelfacecuti75

I'd never even heard of this term before I clicked on this thread. Perhaps she is just trying to reach out to you in the only way she knows how , through her child. Perhaps she is just sharing part of her day /life with you and is just wrapped up in having a toddler she doesn't realise how she comes across.

*and is just wrapped up in having a toddler she doesn't realise how she comes across

Rubbish. She knows exactly what she’s doing. It’s mean.

Humblebrags are more irritating than thrush.

I feel your pain.

Either be a cow back or just give a single thumbs up response/ignore

Or

No wonder I’m always tidying up

“Gotta get those Instagram likes somehow eh!”