Am I allowed to be upset by this

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My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas.
I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card.
He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card.
So tell me strait AIBU
When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way.
Oh and he has got me a present.

Yes you are being very unreasonable.

Well that told me strait 😂

This is a strange problem - how could he possibly go to three shops and not be able to find a card? Has he got you a gift? I do think you're being a bit OTT to be so worried about a card if he's done you a gift - can't he write a nice message on the tag? DH and I never do cards for Christmas, but always for birthdays.

But it's Christmas, not your birthday. Why do you need a card from him, especially as you know he doesn't do cards.

I’d be upset about a birthday card but not a Christmas card to be honest; not sure how he’s not been able to find a card at 3 shops though. He should have just bought a card even if it wasn’t exactly what he was looking for.

YABU. Sooo unreasonable.

YAB ridiculous

We don't swap cards at Christmas, we live together. Is this a common thing to do?

So he's " He is kind, considerate, loving and generous" and would give you his last penny but your annoyed at him because he didn't get you a card? YABU.

As in a card that you will be recycling in a few days time? Seems bonkers to me. But then I hate cards. Seriously some people haven't even managed to get presents for the children and your in a huff as he hasn't managed to get a card?

Might just be me but I think you're being unreasonable.

He’s generous and thoughtful in his own way. He doesn’t do cards. That’s who he is. Read up on the 5 languages of love.

You're being a bit of a pain about a piece of paper that'll be thrown away in a few days.

It seems a very small thing to get annoyed about. It would be kinder if you told him not to bother, it’s not a good idea to be going from shop to shop at the moment.

Yabu. It sounds like he tried. Do you love together? Will you see each other over christmas? If so then you're definitely unreasonable. Just say something nice to each other. Why has been to 3 shops to find a suitable card? what is a suitable card? that makes no sense

I'd be upset if my husband wasted his time money and effort buying me a card when having him here to wish me happy Christmas and be with me is quite enough.

Cards are only useful to send to those you can't see.

Considering the year it’s been, I would let him off with not getting a card. I’m a card person too but we have agreed no cards this year there’s enough going on without the stress of trying to get to a shop with a 6mo to buy cards or spend a fortune for some online.

He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.

And you are upset? FFS. I'd be more bothered that he has gone to three shops to try and find a card for somebody who clearly think that a piece of cardboard matters more than their husband's health.

Quite frankly I think you are being pathetic.

This is weird. I'd never buy my DH a Christmas card...really not worth being upset about IMO.

Don't worry OP I know where you are coming from - I text DH to remind him about cards from
Him and DD last night- he knows not getting a card irrationally pisses me off/upsets me so wouldn't dare now. BUT I'm not sure I'd say my DH would give me his last penny so if he is otherwise very generous throughout the year and has genuinely tried to get one today with no luck id probably cut him some slack this time

I think my issues stem from one Xmas long before we were married when he clearly left it to the last minute and I got a generic one from a multipack 🤣

I haven’t got my husband a card for Christmas we have sent other households cards from us, but we will be waking up next to each other and will wish each other merry Christmas with a kiss first thing... what’s better than that?! I do get him birthday cards usually but we reserve Christmas greetings for people we won’t be able to wish them to in person. You know he’s tried, don’t think Christmas over this.

You are being ridiculous, are you aware of anything that is going on in the world right now? Having a tantrum over a piece of paper that says 'Merry Christmas', when he's physically there to say it to your face is absolutely disgusting behaviour.

Super unreasonable. Why on earth do you want a card? Is this a thing? I don't exchange cards with my DP, we live together

You do realise there's a pandemic on? Having your OH traipse from shop to shop is increasing infections of all sorts of things.

🤣 what on earth.

Give yourself a little shake. Poor bloke!

YABVU. And a little ridiculous.