Am I allowed to be upset by this

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My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas.
I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card.
He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card.
So tell me strait AIBU
When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way.
Oh and he has got me a present.

YABU
Cards are to go to different households. You don’t buy them for partners/children that you live with.

Really not worth being upset about. We’ve never exchanged cards, we live in the same house and can wish each other a happy Christmas in person 🙂

Christ, he's been to 3 different shops in the middle of a pandemic (yes, I said it) to find you a piece of cardboard that says exactly what he could say with his mouth?

YABU

But he’s got you a gift? So why does he need to also get you a card? A birthday card, yes I’d understand that one. But not a Christmas card, especially if you know he doesn’t send others cards.
Do you live together?

Don't you have one from a multi pack he could use? Or did you want a 'To my darling at Christmas?' Could he write that inside? Stop being silly.

Yabu. A card is a bit of paper with stuff written on it to give to someone when you cant say it to your face. It's a written form of wishing someone a nice Christmas. I'm really not sure why you care, and I'm not sure why you're punishing him by 'being quiet' when he hasn't done anything wrong and by your own admission he has got you a present and does lots of little and big things for you. Don't push someone important away over something that doesn't matter

Why is a card so important?

I think you need to ask yourself why you are placing so much significance on this tradition and he is not - perhaps it was the done thing in your upbringing but not in his? Insecurity about being loved? Unrelenting high standards? Setting traps for him? Dissatisfaction with him? And why are you making him run around rather than finding a better way to get over what should be a mild disappointment? And why the hell is he doing it? Christmas cards signify little to most people, they are for sending to people you won't see for most people.

That's assuming he lives with you by the way and can wish you a merry christmas to your face

Is this a wind up?

Im upset because he has always said " Id rather have a nice card with lovely words in than a present "
We have always given each other lovely cards.
When I asked him about his U turn on cards he said I love receiving cards from you but I dont like giving them or words to that effect.
Well this is bloody news to me .
He does ALWAYS put thought and effort into my presents and everyday life.
Im being AIBU arnt I

Our first Christmas we hardly had any money so we decided that it was pointless and expensive to buy 2 cards.
We were out one day and saw a card which said on the front 'to the one I love' it was blank inside and we bought it
and every year we both write something inside with the year and put it out. (41 years and counting)

You need to get a grip

You put this all in context in your post so I’m not sure what the issue is.

Never had a Christmas card in 26 years, they are such insignificant things. DH is crap at gifts so asks me what I’d like. I don’t take it personally as he’s great in every other way.

Yabu. Also, wtf is a 'suitable' card?

I don't know how to respond to this. YAB so U.

Yabvu

YABU. You don't need to give each other xmas cards, you live in the same house. Gifts are different.

I hope this isn’t a tedious reverse, sounds like one though..

To me this sounds crazy, I have never got DH a card for Christmas. Even if you are a Christmas card giving couple with everything going on at the moment I wouldn't be guilt tripping him right now. There are so many things to be upset about right now Christmas cards shouldn't be one of them.

I think you know yabu

YABU. Cards are a bit outdated and naff imo. I really wouldn’t expect a Christmas card from anyone and think the world would be better without them.

He is one of the nicest people
He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He does alot small and big things .
He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
he has got me a present

But you are upset he hasn't got you a card? Even though he tried.

Yes - YABU

YABVU.

I like doing cards for DH... he likes doing them back. But we do them because we want to, not because we HAVE to. And there have been random occasions where one of us hasn't got one, for whatever reason, and that's okay. It has to be, because if it's not, you aren't giving a card because you want to give a lovely card anymore... you're not giving it to make someone smile... you're giving it because you HAVE to.

Which is what you've now done.