Am I allowed to be upset by this

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My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas.
I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card.
He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card.
So tell me strait AIBU
When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way.
Oh and he has got me a present.

Grow up.

Probably bring you home something a little extra like covid19. You know you’re being ridiculous, you don’t need to be told that.

You're being silly and you know it. If he went to three different shops , during a pandemic, to get you one, then that's silly too.
You're clearly sulking about it, it's caused tension between you but this is just daft.

I think you're being ridiculous

Grow up.

We bought each other and all the adult kids really expensive cards about eight years ago. They were put away and we put them out every year. The sentiments remain the same, why would we buy new ones every year?

OP, if your DH is a lovely man and good in every other way, then IMO you are being a bit hard on him, especially this year.

I just don’t understand this mindset. Why are some people obsessed with cards? They’re the cheapest, easiest thing to do and require no thought. Is that really what you want?

Pathetic

Very childish

YAB uttterly bloody ridiculous.

Is it normal for couples in established relationships to get each other Christmas cards? I understand if you're dating but otherwise u think this is odd.

Poor bloke.

Haven’t had a card for years and I don’t need one.

He doesn’t sound that nice and you both sound pretty immature.

@Noidea2114

Our first Christmas we hardly had any money so we decided that it was pointless and expensive to buy 2 cards. We were out one day and saw a card which said on the front 'to the one I love' it was blank inside and we bought it and every year we both write something inside with the year and put it out. (41 years and counting)

How lovely and one of the nicest things I've read on here in a while

I'd be upset if my DH didn't get me a card and we've been together over 30 years. I've kept every card he's ever given me. So it's up to the individual. You can't help being upset by something, all you can do is control what you do about it. Don't bother for his next birthday and see if his attitude changes then.

Get a grip. Cards are for people you aren't going to see over Xmas. You want him to go to numerous different shops in the middle of a pandemic to find you a christmas card ?

Surely Christmas cards are what you send to people you won't see at Christmas. If you see the person, you wish them a happy Christmas in person. If you're not with them, you send a card.

In any case, even if giving Christmas cards to people you live with is a thing, YABU to expect one when he's tried and none are available, especially in a pandemic when he shouldn't be out more than necessary. It sounds like he's made an effort to get you a card because he knows you hang some importance on it. He couldn't get one. End of story.

I sense that your partner must be quite the perfectionist if he couldn't find ANY card in THREE shops to suit?

Unless there's been a pre-Brexit run on cards?

Anyway, YABU. You should take a gander across the threads today to see what some posters are putting up with from their partners. This is beyond trivial.

You re definitely being most unreasonable! Your poor fella.

I honestly didn't think couples gave each other Christmas cards.

YABU But I see you have already acknowledged that. What gets me though is that he tried as he knew it was important to you and you are still upset and punishing him with your 'quiet' spell.

There was another thread about a partner not getting the op a Christmas card yesterday. Christmas cards are for posting to people, extending family and neighbours. I've never known a couple to exchange Christmas cards, what on earth is the point. It's not your birthday, it's Christmas

So you're sulking? Unacceptable.

You need grow up sulking over a Christmas card 😒

Good grief OP.