Am I allowed to be upset by this

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My partner is one of the nicest people you have met . He is kind, considerate, loving and generous.
He is annoyed at me because I'm upset that he hasn't got me a card for Christmas.
I've said I appreciate all that he does for me . He does alot small and big things . He would give me his last penny.
He has been to three shops today to try and get a suitable card but no luck.
He says hes annoyed Im pissed off . Ive said I'm not pissed off but I am upset that he hasnt got me a card.
He says " but you know I dont do cards " I know for a fact he would be rightfully upset if I didnt get him a birthday card.
So tell me strait AIBU
When I say upset I dont mean crying and the like I just mean Ive gone quiet but not in an angry way.
Oh and he has got me a present.

The replies on this thread are mumsnet pure gold. “You know there’s a pandemic on?” I remember a teacher saying to me “do you know there’s a war on?” (Gulf war, 1991)

Three shops? Where is he going?

you need to get a grip my love

It's only a card! An expensive piece of card that does in the recycling by new year. What's the point in them really when you are there with a person to say happy Christmas. Post it off to someone you can't see but they are with you... Just seems like a waste of money and a waste of trees to me. I wouldnt be at all bothered, especially during a pandemic. There's only been 2 shops I've been going to since March and neither had much in the way of cards so unless you just wanted any old crap, I'm with him really.

WTAF is wrong with you?

Recycling bloody hell no cards are kept here from our loved ones

I hope you have moved on but

You need to sit down calmly together and talk about what your "mutual routines" are! Do you want to:

*give each other cards? Xmas? Birthday? Both

• give each other presents? Xmas? Birthday? Both?

*Agree to buy a mutual present as a treat for Xmas? My DH and I agree a special outing each year as our present to each other. It works for us but may or may not for you

We do buy a card for each ohter birthday and xmas because they are important for my DH, though not so much for me. But we discussed it and agreed what works best for us both. That is what you need two doi!!