I’m broody at age 47

[Blackcelebration12]

A friend of mine is pregnant with her first at the same age as my me (47) using donor eggs and it’s made me broody & longing for the baby/young kids phase again as mine are older.

It’s bonkers & selfish though right? I do feel too old but also feel like I’d like to do it all again. Maybe that broody feeling never leaves you does it?

In my rational moments, I really don’t want a teenager in my 60s as I don’t think it’s fair on the child. But then I see babies & get the longing.

Aibu to ask if any of you have felt like this? Talk me down- I know it’s perimenopause too & my ovaries giving it a last burst of broodiness.

Give your head a wobble and have a word with your ovaries love.
I had dd3 at 39, having had first 2 in my 20s. Lovely and all but it has had a real impact on our 50s so far. Couldn't fathom it into our 60s

@Charleyhorses yes, I do need to wobble my head I think

Ha ha I feel the same way but I know that, at 46 and much more grumpy these days, I really couldn't cope with the sleepless night again!!

@Constanttaxiservice it’s a bit like heart vs head isn’t it? I am not even sure I enjoyed the baby years but yet I am pining for them

I think it’s normal to yearn for those days, your brain has forgotten the monotony and sleepless nights and sore nipples, and instead remembers the cuddles and little hands holding yours... not saying for one second your feelings aren’t valid but that its normal to be wistful for a phase that’s gone by.

@OrangeSlices998 I know- and to be fair my DD is only 8 and is full of cuddles and love and hand holding still anyway. I think I am going a bit bonkers in middle age!

You'd be close to insane to have a child at that age.

a baby at 47 ?? sorry, but i feel sorry for the child on so many levels. it comes across as terribly selfish for a child to be out with a parent who will be mistaken for their grandparent and let's be honest what happens at school ? some kids will have a field day with that.

When she has the baby and he/she becomes a toddler, offer to accompany your friend to soft play....you'll be so happy you didn't have another then!

What do you want to be told?
To go ahead and try for a baby?
Talk you down??
Examples of late mothers where it turned out to be wonderful, although the child is only 3 now.....?
It is selfish.

I think I’ll be broody forever in a way I’m sick of it. Cant stop it
Literally each time as I’m leaving hospital I’m looking forward to the next one
I cannot stop 😱
I’m so tired but it drives me it’s a real problem and I seem to be ultra fertile so I can see myself with 10 dc 🤣🤣🤣

I think it's biology and totally normal.

I find it quite sad that the baby years can be so tough and you lose yourself in the sleep deprivation / monotony.....and then they are over in a flash and you wish for them back. Life in general just goes by in a flash.

Sorry, that was a bit maudlin

You know the answer OP, you don't really want it. But I understand the feelings!

@needabus

I think I’ll be broody forever in a way I’m sick of it. Cant stop it Literally each time as I’m leaving hospital I’m looking forward to the next one I cannot stop 😱 I’m so tired but it drives me it’s a real problem and I seem to be ultra fertile so I can see myself with 10 dc 🤣🤣🤣

How many kids do you have??

6!!!!

I’m hoping the broody feeling just goes at some point tbh as it’s overwhelming

@AurorayRuben I think I was just starting a conversation as i wondered if others felt the same/ had experienced the broody stuff/ had actually had a baby.

I don’t think I would actually have one - just acknowledging my feeling about it

@needabus

6!!!!

how do you manage that? Is day to day not almost impossible? How old are they / you? How big is your house?

I love the appeal of a big brood but I just don't understand how people do it.

@needabus

I think I’ll be broody forever in a way I’m sick of it. Cant stop it Literally each time as I’m leaving hospital I’m looking forward to the next one I cannot stop 😱 I’m so tired but it drives me it’s a real problem and I seem to be ultra fertile so I can see myself with 10 dc 🤣🤣🤣

i was the same, even when i was having c sections i'd be thinking, i'll be back in about 18 months and i was i have 6 dc too

You have to remember that your friend is pregnant only by virtue of the fact she has used another woman's eggs who are probably 20 years younger than hers. She will have no genetic connection to the baby. Just because we can do something doesn't mean we should.

@tuttifuckinfruity
I agree! I remember myself desperately needing sleep and a minute for myself with my two babies (I had them just 18 months apart). It was incredibly difficult, and it seemed like every day lasted forever. However, now when they are school aged, all the baby struggles are forgotten and I blame myself for not being happy enough back then. Truth is, I wasn’t happy. I loved them to bits and will miss cuddles and kisses so much, but it was so difficult.

Newborn,2,7,10,15,18
The routine and how busy things are is actually good for me in a way as due to health issues I need to keep active where I can. Sounds bizarre but also being so busy is a good distraction on bad days
House is 5 bed not massive though but enough space. Plus older dc are very good and don’t necessarily help out but they do clear up after themselves etc so things run smoothly.
That says and as broody as I always am I am TIRED. Some hard decisions to make with health and I need a rest tbh but the broody feeling is all consuming so I try to push it aside and I’m trying to look ahead to things now I physically need a break. My dh has a business and I’d also like to help out with that in the future so having more isn’t sensible but it’s a feeling I know I’ll have to really fight !

@Blackcelebration12

A friend of mine is pregnant with her first at the same age as my me (47) using donor eggs and it’s made me broody & longing for the baby/young kids phase again as mine are older.

It’s bonkers & selfish though right? I do feel too old but also feel like I’d like to do it all again. Maybe that broody feeling never leaves you does it?

In my rational moments, I really don’t want a teenager in my 60s as I don’t think it’s fair on the child. But then I see babies & get the longing.

Aibu to ask if any of you have felt like this? Talk me down- I know it’s perimenopause too & my ovaries giving it a last burst of broodiness.

I never feel like this, in fact if I found out i was pregnant (unlikely at 45) I would be utterly horrified. There is no way I want to go through the baby and toddler years again.

I can't fathom having 6 kids or s bsbyvin my late 40s. I'm currently pregnant with DC2 and know I am done! Knowing I will be going through the sleepless nights and leaky boobs again (not to mention childbirth) is enough to know I will stop at 2.

I told DH if I ever lose my mind and talk of having 3, to shake some sense into me.

@warmandtoasty2day it’s mad isn’t it I was the same. Pushing the little cot round the ward to the kitchen in the night to get a cup of tea ....hearing all the babies crying and yet it was the loveliest place in the world to be and I’d be thinking how I couldn’t wait for the next time

Maybe I should hide this thread 🤦‍♀️ I have my little dd asleep on me all cosy and now I’m thinking how much I loved those times which isn’t going to help 🤣🤣
Maybe I need to look forward to grandchildren in a few years