I’m broody at age 47

[Blackcelebration12]

A friend of mine is pregnant with her first at the same age as my me (47) using donor eggs and it’s made me broody & longing for the baby/young kids phase again as mine are older.

It’s bonkers & selfish though right? I do feel too old but also feel like I’d like to do it all again. Maybe that broody feeling never leaves you does it?

In my rational moments, I really don’t want a teenager in my 60s as I don’t think it’s fair on the child. But then I see babies & get the longing.

Aibu to ask if any of you have felt like this? Talk me down- I know it’s perimenopause too & my ovaries giving it a last burst of broodiness.

@LisaLee333

To the posters getting upset at seeing (many) posters saying 'hell no, I would never have a baby past 41/42, so many reasons not to, you'll be in your 60s when they're a teen, so many negatives to it...and so on..' The posters saying these kind of comments have obviously hit a raw nerve, so I suggest you avoid these older mum type threads in future.

People are entitled to their opinions and views, and many people would not choose to have a baby in middle age, and will state the reasons why on threads like this. So if you are going to get upset at people opinions on threads like this, then don't come on the threads.

Not at all. Well me anyway. As I said it’s neither here but there what some people think. Easy to disregard.

Especially as all good here.

Plus if people do want to post that they are irritated they can. They don’t have to avoid it just because a poster says they should.

[quote Blackcelebration12]@AurorayRuben I think I was just starting a conversation as i wondered if others felt the same/ had experienced the broody stuff/ had actually had a baby.

I don’t think I would actually have one - just acknowledging my feeling about it[/quote]
I'm the same age as you and I feel very broody a lot of the time too.

It's mostly biology - mother nature is very keen on keeping this species going so we are basically drugged across our fertile years by our hormones into 'baby longing' - and then as you head towards menopause all the hormones start going a little haywire and you get flooded with extra ones of all sorts at different times - and most weirdly all this hormone fluctuation can give you a burst of extra fertility towards the end just before it all peters out.

Keep reminding yourself it's just the hormones.

A few decades ago we'd mostly already be grandmothers by now so would be able to indulge the broodiness by nurturing the next generation.

But as I have a 10-year-old I expect it will be a while before I get that pleasure!

I have 3 dc. 6, 4, 11 months and broody again. Like really broody!!! Does it ever actually go away? 😂 I'd love another 1 or 2.

Christ no. My youngest will be 18 when I'm 47!! I can't imagine having a newborn at that age. Absolute madness.

Ok some things are for a covid free world ...think about ....
Airports/ planes / holidays with toddlers arrrrgghhh
Restaurants with high chairs , nappies , changing bags , crying, rushing your food
All the equipment you have to take everywhere
Car seats ! The faffing
Bottles/ milk / formula/ weaning
Sore nipples
Shopping centres, pram , buggy, in and out of the car
Night feeds
No sleep
I had the broody feeling when I was about 43 , couldn't have been a worse time...totally silly but the need was real and strong.
I'd split with ds dad and was looking for a new job , our home was in jeapardy etc luckily I had no man so it didnt become a reality. 2 years later I realise it would have been madness, I made progress in my career (before covid !) And ds is nearly 7 everything is so easy. When we go out of the house we put our shoes on and go , no equipment needed or last minute nappy changes. We have nice holidays where I actually get to relax .

So if you are going to get upset at people opinions on threads like this, then don't come on the threads.

If you are going to get upset at people disagreeing with your opinion, then don't come on the threads.

I am 57 with two teenagers and yes I am shattered but i am actually enjoying the teenage years much more than I thought I would.

@LisaLee333

To the posters getting upset at seeing (many) posters saying 'hell no, I would never have a baby past 41/42, so many reasons not to, you'll be in your 60s when they're a teen, so many negatives to it...and so on..' The posters saying these kind of comments have obviously hit a raw nerve, so I suggest you avoid these older mum type threads in future.

People are entitled to their opinions and views, and many people would not choose to have a baby in middle age, and will state the reasons why on threads like this. So if you are going to get upset at people opinions on threads like this, then don't come on the threads.

Not upset.

No intention of either seeking out or avoiding these threads

I have been a mumsnetter for some years now.

Just think guys, before you post, "Do I mean to be so rude?"

I'm 47 and most definitely done!
Live your username OP - a classic album.

@DryRoastPeanut

Broody at almost 50? Don’t worry, you will be a grandparent all too soon

How old fashioned are you? If I was a grandparent aged 50 I would have needed to have subsequently adopted since at 45 I have a 3 an almost 5 and an almost 7 year old with plenty of friends having had or having babies at similar ages to me.

Where I live grandparents in their fifties would be the minority

@MissBaskinIfYoureNasty

Christ no. My youngest will be 18 when I'm 47!! I can't imagine having a newborn at that age. Absolute madness.

go tell mother Nature that. It's what happens naturally. To some of us.

Good God. I can't think of anything worse. I'll enjoy being a grandma I'm sure, but not yet! I'm just hoping that teenage ds's don't settle down too early/young, and live a bit before having kids.

@middleager I love that you know what my user name is! A classic album indeed!!

If you want a baby at 47, have a baby at 47.

I'm not going to police your body and neither should anyone else.

No way do men get judged as much! My DH is quite keen on another baby and he's 45. I don't think being too old would stop him for a second.

Having a child is inherently selfish. Having a child when you're ill-equipped to be a parent is selfish. There are so many terrible parents out there. I feel age is such a small factor compared to some of the very damaging parenting I see. Looking at it from a pro-life perspective, abortion is selfish.

Sorry I feel a bit ranty about this. Your body. Your choice. That's as true for deciding to have a baby as it is for abortion.

In the days before reliable contraception, women naturally had babies into their 40s, so nothing wrong or unnatural about it. Often the older children would start having babies before their mother was finished.

Having a child IS selfish. The most selfish thing anyone can ever do. No matter what age you are.

You're not doing it for the good of the uncreated being. You're doing it to satisfy and fulfil your own biological and totally natural desires.

Who is to say that you will be unfit and infirm in your 60s and 70s? Being a good parent is not about age. I'm sure there are plenty of crap parents in their 20s and 30s.

People are living longer now but death can come at any age.

Yes you can have kids in your 20: and enjoy your middle age. Or enjoy your youth and then become a middle aged parent.

It's a very personal choice.

@Cleverpolly3

Where I live grandparents in their fifties would be the minority

PMSL, gotta love a bit of old-fashioned mumsnet snobbery, from the faux middle-classes!

'Nooobody in MY area has baybeees at a young age! We is not CHAVS you know!' 🤪

[quote LisaLee333]@Cleverpolly3

Where I live grandparents in their fifties would be the minority

PMSL, gotta love a bit of old-fashioned mumsnet snobbery, from the faux middle-classes!

'Nooobody in MY area has baybeees at a young age! We is not CHAVS you know!' 🤪[/quote]
I’m not remotely middle class.

I’m just saying that I don’t see many grandparents in their fifties where I live they are mostly mid to late sixties and a good few in their seventies.

I don’t judge people who have children very young incidentally. As much in the same way I don’t presume someone who is 47 is on average about to be one a grandmother

@Cleverpolly3

I'm not saying you ARE middle class. 🤪

I said FAUX middle class.

I’m looking forward to having grandchildren. Try and focus on the future it must be lovely !

[quote LisaLee333]@Cleverpolly3

I'm not saying you ARE middle class. 🤪

I said FAUX middle class.[/quote]
I know that
Which I why I offered clarification as I possess zero credential or eligibility to even aspire to such a dreaded state

Have you considered fostering ?

@LisaLee333

To the posters getting upset at seeing (many) posters saying 'hell no, I would never have a baby past 41/42, so many reasons not to, you'll be in your 60s when they're a teen, so many negatives to it...and so on..' The posters saying these kind of comments have obviously hit a raw nerve, so I suggest you avoid these older mum type threads in future.

People are entitled to their opinions and views, and many people would not choose to have a baby in middle age, and will state the reasons why on threads like this. So if you are going to get upset at people opinions on threads like this, then don't come on the threads.

Suggest you follow your own advice and take other people thinking to are talking shit on the chin then

*thinking they are

I have soon to be 5 in my 30s all under 5 🙈