Unemployed girlfriend

[Frannnnnasa]

(I'm a girl too btw, just so there's no debate about whether i'm a girl or boy).

We are both 26 and been together a year and a half. Both still live at home with our parents (suits us).
My job pays well and I am saving for a house deposit. Girlfriend was also saving for a house deposit so we can move out within the next 2 years.
Girlfriend found out 2 months ago she lost her job in a pub (covid-related).
She has since been looking but struggling to find work. She has had interviews but feedback is always she was a "close-second".

She is currently doing temp work as a supply TA whilst completing her masters but work has dried up the past week with christmas half term coming closer.
So that's an extra week of no pay along with the christmas half-term.

She has her masters finance coming through in around a month but she's stressed and feeling very anxious about.money. she has savings of about £4000.
I feel it's affecting our relationship because she keeps crying that she'll never afford a deposit. I love her but it's been so strained the past 2 months since she lost her job.
Temp work was going well but supply TA isbt amazing pay and it's inconsistent.
It does feel we will be at home witb parents forever. I can probably afford a mortgage on my own but how will her inconsistent wage affect me getting a mortgage?

If only oakleaffy's acorn of a son could post first, most threads' women's problems could be quickly solved. MNHQ could perhaps pay him? MGTOW and MN reaching out and working together to solve the internet, one thread at a time? But wait, would the MGTOW still be going their own way if they interact with women over the internet? Perhaps MGOTEWIMN (except when it's MN)?

She's been honest with you from the outset. Job satisfaction is more important to her than job earning.

You haven't been honest with yourself. You say you are OK with this. But every post says different.

Do you love her for her, or for your imagined version of her?

If you wants kids, there's worse things than a term time contract. On a pure earnings point of view that's a few thousands of post tax equivalence. Especially with doctor rotas. Especially when you are working in your super competitive field that you'll no doubt choose due to your upbringing focus on ambition. Chasing those CEAs, even as a consultant always doing more, conferences, long commute etc etc.

Two professional families often find themselves having to buy in all sorts of labour, so don't have as much time or money as they feel they should from their headline earning figures

But that's all imagining she stays a TA. She's doing a masters for a reason. Do you disapprove of whatever that reason is? Are you unhappy with her planned career?

She's having a 6 week earning break at a time that she has savings and is living at home, during a pandemic, going into a depression. She's not going to stop you getting a mortgage in 2 years time. What's the panic?

I agree you dont sound very supportive tbh, and her problems arent that deep so you siund quite spoilt privileged too. she sounds on track - studying, has savings. In a few years she could have a fat wage coming in no probs. Ok, she's been out if work two months, but thats standard thesedays and not a personal failing!? I know she'll be losing her mind though, i'm on month 4 but a very supportive partner (i dont mean financially im living off savings) he is keeping the faith that i can turn things around and ge knows i'll get back to saving when i can.

She sounds lovely , I think she could do better with someone more supportive tbh

Hopefully this thread is a wake up call that you're in the wrong relationship and you end things now whilst neither of you are tied to each other financially. Imagine if you were a few years in with a joint mortgage and she actually fell on hard times!

100% agree with bm2021!

@NoDontDoIt

I agree you dont sound very supportive tbh, and her problems arent that deep so you siund quite spoilt privileged too. she sounds on track - studying, has savings. In a few years she could have a fat wage coming in no probs. Ok, she's been out if work two months, but thats standard thesedays and not a personal failing!? I know she'll be losing her mind though, i'm on month 4 but a very supportive partner (i dont mean financially im living off savings) he is keeping the faith that i can turn things around and ge knows i'll get back to saving when i can.

And if the pandemic and the crap that goes with it means things take a little longer than they would in usual times? What happens if you run out of savings?