To be angry my family just don't seem to care about mixing?

[hellymissy]

Turns out my 60 year old mom has been collecting my nephews aged 6 and 13 from school most days - both of which obviously are mixing With lots of kids.

Whilst she isn't in the worst health she has a mild underlying condition.

I told my brother my mom should be doing this and he seemed to get angry at me mentioning and said as mom isn't objecting he doesn't see what the issue is.

I've approached this with my mom and she said it's fine.

Do I just leave them to it? I don't want my mom contracting corona and feel she's getting pressured into it?

AIBU and should I just keep my mouth shut?

Just leave it, you have voiced your concern.

Leave them to it. Let them assess their own risks.

Fair enough I'll just drop it with them. I'll be soo angry though if something happens to her

Yeah sorry I think this is their decision and presumably for childcare which is within the rules.

She's chosen to accept the risk. She's within the rules if it's to provide informal childcare.
We are all adults here and capable of risk assessing our own lives

What makes you think she's been pressured into it ?
Has your mum always helped with school run pre COVID ?
If your in England childcare is allowed, many great parent's do it , my dc does abc quite frankly I'd be stuck if they didn't .

Grandparents that should say .

@islockdownoveryet because my mom is scared to stand up to him, always has been.

And just because the rules allow it's stupid. We all know the reason rules allow is because otherwise working people wouldn't be able to work and the economy would cripple. Just because gov said it's allowed doesn't men it's sensible

This is absolitely not your business. Yoir mother os more than capable of assessing the risk and chooses to provide childcare. Keep your beak out

Did your mum do childcare pre covid?

My 65 year old dad is doing some childcare for me. Life can’t stop and if she is happy then stay out of it and don’t cast blame if she does pick up a virus.

My in laws collect my DC from school once a week, because they want to and it helps us out massively. And because it’s allowed. Surely it’s up to your DM.

My parents aged 58 and 61 are doing childcare for my sister all the time. I wouldn’t dream of telling my sister or either of my parents how they should manage their own lives.

In fact, if my sister stuck her nose in I would say “great, what days are you helping if dad isn’t allowed to by you?

My parents are helping with my children. They go to the shops and don't lock themselves away. Having the children is risky but so is everything else.

Goodness, she is 60, not 90. Your Mum could be working front line for another seven years before she is eligible for SP. Instead, she is doing child care which is within the 'rules'.

If she did catch the virus it could just as easily have come from visiting a shop as from the GC.

Step back and let her be an adult, she has managed it for 45 years or so up to now. It infuriates me when adult children try to dictate to their own parents.

Nothing to do with you. My mum is looking after both my kids and my brothers. We have no other choice

I had a similar discussion with my mother during the first lockdown - my family own businesses and my mum interacts with 100s of people a day. She didn’t work intially in the first lockdown she’s 60 and diabetic. She takes precautions and being home affected her mental health.

Your mum is an adult, nothing to do with you.

Yet another thread of people trying to 'parent' their parents 🙄

And just because the rules allow it's stupid. We all know the reason rules allow is because otherwise working people wouldn't be able to work and the economy would cripple. Just because gov said it's allowed doesn't men it's sensible*
That's just your opinion though isn't it , and you didn't answer my question has she always helped with childcare?
How old is your mum ?
You don't get to decide what others should and shouldn't do .

Your mum
Could get Covid anywhere - stay out of it she’s an adult and can make her own choices

Sorry she's 60
Hardly old , you say she has a mild underlying condition.
Ok to worry but 60 is young as per my previous post your mum is a grown woman if she didn't want to do it she'd say .

Have you looked up the actual odds of hospitalisation and death for a 60 year old woman with her 'mild underlying condition'? You might find it very reassuring.

Personally, I think relying on parents for regular childcare is selfish, Covid or no Covid. It's hugely burdensome and reduces their flexibility and ties them into school hours.

That aside, your DM is an adult and capable of assessing the risks. She may also like spending time with her DC.

@CheltenhamLady

Goodness, she is 60, not 90. Your Mum could be working front line for another seven years before she is eligible for SP. Instead, she is doing child care which is within the 'rules'.

If she did catch the virus it could just as easily have come from visiting a shop as from the GC.

Step back and let her be an adult, she has managed it for 45 years or so up to now. It infuriates me when adult children try to dictate to their own parents.

This.

It's 100% none of your business