To ask if you have all DS’s??

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Considered Nc for this but I’m just going to own it. Please be kind not looking for abuse.

I’m 12 weeks with number 2 and starting to feel gender anxiety ducks for cover it’s come from nowhere. Never thought I’d mind as long as baby was healthy.

I have a very small DS already and I’m sure this is another boy. It’s just a feeling. I don’t think one gender is ‘better’ than the other at all and understand that kids don’t always follow ‘gender norms’ (although the majority do at a young age- I’ve spent a fair amount of time around kids).

I guess two of one gender just isn’t what I imagined. That doesn’t mean it’s bad just I’m struggling to picture it. I see mess, fights, mud everywhere, fart jokes, dinosaurs EVERYWHERE and football on every weekend.
(I grew up in a family of boys and it was exactly like this ^ I felt so different and left out)

Can people with all boys possibly share how amazing it is? The unexpected upsides? The non stereotypical stuff?

Everyone and Thor dog is telling me ‘how lovely it would be if you have a girl this time’ but no one and I mean no one seems in any way positive about the prospect of me having another boy! It’s so deflating.

Think hearing some positivity would make a huge difference xx

I have two boys and felt like you when I found out I was expecting the second one. I told myself that we would just wait a year and have a third so that we would hopefully get lucky.

As soon as I he was born, all those feelings just went away! They are as different as chalk and cheese and I never have any pangs for a girl. They are close in age, play so well together, it's fab.

Yes, there is some sport on the weekends and I'm not sporty but I go to support sometimes and then consider myself lucky to have time to myself when I don't fancy it!

Love my 2 DSs. Never really sad to have no DD, and was instinctively fiercely protective of a possible 2nd DS and reacted badly to any of the ‘are you hoping for a girl’stuff. Family got the message pretty quickly that there was no way DC2 would be a disappointment if not a DD and if anyone had expressed as such they would not have been visiting. Mine are not at all alike in terms of interests- other than gaming. One loves football, car racing. Other is a much bigger reader and more into science and no interest at all in football. I have nieces and goddaughters - none stuck with dancing so my fantasy of recreating my old interest in ballet with a girl would probably not have happened in any case. I know someone of an older generation who missed not having a DD but it has honestly never been like that for me.

1 boy and 4 girls here. If I had another id love another boy but a girl would be easier

For me it was because the matriarchal line fascinates me and I feel happy to extend that for now.

I have three sons of my own and a step son. They are so lovely. They fight, but tbh no worse than me and my sister growing up! They’re not muddy, they’re not that type. They are the most affectionate kids, even my nearly 12 year olds can’t get close enough to me on the couch!

I always knew I’d have boys, there are no girls on my husband’s side, and that never bothered me.

I have all boys and also grew up in a house of all boys.

There is plenty of bum poo willy humour which I mostly like.

Having all the same gender means they will play together with all the same toys but this can also cause arguments at times.

My boys are not into dinosaurs or sport but do like building things and how things work which I love.

They all also love baking and arts and crafts which are typically seen as girl things.

They all love being out and about in the woods, walking, the beach and have plenty of energy.

I’m really happy to have all of the same gender but I would have been happy with a mix too.

It’s hard to gender stereotype but I guess on the whole boys are more active, noisier and busy. I have not experienced any intense friendships and they seem to make lots of friends and play easily with most children.

They all completely love me and want their mamma more than anyone else in the world which I love (most of the time)!

I was a little sad not to experience having a daughter as I would have been if I did not have a son but I’m very happy with my boy gang 😃

I have 2 boys, if I were to ever have another I wouldn't really mind but deep down I'd like to always be a boy mum.
Like many others have said they're both so different. One is quiet and sensitive and loves pretty things and is a gentle soul, he's 5 and everyday says things like "wow, what a wonderful sunset" "look at those beautiful flowers" etc, he loves trains and space, not really into sports. His brother is crazy and loud and non stop, gets dirty and falls over in mud constantly and, isn't gentle, likes things that are traditionally more "boy", both are very loving and constantly want cuddles and love.

Both boys. Now teens. Neither into football. Both are transport nerds. I've missed the bus rallies, this year.

I have 3 DS's They're all different but all are Clever, kind and Funny and protective of me as I have a lifelong disability
Someone actually asked if I was disappointed on the birth of DS3!
I'm very proud and love them all in equal measure

I have 10yo dd. We have stupid jokes, she constantly roughhouses with DH, can create havoc in a tidy house in moments, is very physical and constantly jumping/doing gymnastics and is the purveyor of the mud all over my car from her horse. She has no interest in her appearance and trying to get her to have a bath is a battle.

Just because you get a girl doesn't mean she will turn out like Miss Muffet on a Tuffet

I have 2 ds's and a dd. I love them all to bits but as adults I am closer toy 2 sons than to dd. That might be because she lives 140 miles away though do I see her less. She is also more independent and organised and was even as a child. I think my sons are probably Mummy's boys. DH says they are anyway.

Thank you all so much for your comments.

I had such a odd few days feeling such strong feelings I never really expected. Had someone told me whilst TTC id suddenly want to cry at the thought of a second boy, or felt so down and overwhelmed by ‘dinosaurs, mud, mess and fart jokes’ I’d have laughed. Seems so trivial in pursuit of a healthy baby but here I was.

I feel like it’s subsidinga bit now. I’ve just woken up from a dream where I had 2 boys and it was lovely actually. Yesterday I even had a bit of a panic over having a DD because ‘I don’t know how to mum a girl. I have experience with a boy at least’ bloody hormones.

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I have 2 boys age 12 and 2, neither of them are into sport, dinosaurs or mud. Littlest one is obsessed with cars, trains and machinery. The older one went through this phase but now likes video games and anime. So, not hugely fighting any gender stereotypes, but also nothing especially dull or awful to cope with :o

I always wanted to have two close together of the same sex, I think they end up with a really lovely close relationship, at least my sister and I do and most same sex sibling pairs that I know do.