Not to buy gift for rude godson! Who wld u blame

[Highfivemum]

It was my Godson birthday two weeks ago. I bought him a lovely jacket from Next. It was the type I see him wear. I bought him age 11 as even though he isn’t a big child for his age Next in my mind is small fitting and rather bigger than smaller. I ordered online and then wrapped and messaged his mum to say his gift was their porch. I didn’t hear anything. Then this morning I received a card from him. It said “ thank you for the present that didn’t Fit ! I am 10 not 11 OK!!!!!! “
That was it. I was shocked to be honest. Must have read the card over and over again.
His mum has not said anything to me. I could have exchanged it.
His mum must have sent the card though surely. ?? whether she knew wot was written I don’t know.
I have said to my DH I am not buying a Christmas gift. DH said he is a child and not to get wound up. WWYD?

I would call his Mum. She might not know what he wrote. Very rude.

He’s only 10. Obviously he didn’t handle it as well as you would have expected an adult to, but I think you should cut him some slack.

That's fucking rude.

I'm surprised the parents didn't check the card.

Shockingly rude. YANBU, a ten year old should know that that is rude. I wouldn't buy him another present again tbh

My god that is rude. But if he is a little immature for his age, he could have taken the wrong size as meaning you didnt know his age and he might have felt upset by that.

Id have done what you did. I have tall children and always size up.

Fucking hell I would be mortified if my child acted like that! I’m hoping the mum had no idea what he had written.
I agree with you I wouldn’t get him a present for Christmas, he sounds like a nightmare and could do with being pulled up on that behaviour- especially if his mum is letting him get away with being so rude.

I think at 10 he shd no that it is rude ? To be honest I never usually get a thank you card so when I did I was pleased until I opened it. !!

You need to have a word with his parents. Either they are unaware he sent that card and need to have a discussion with him about it, or they do know and you need to have a discussion with them about being rude idiots.

He's 10yo, he's still learning the complexities of social interactions and think many of us can remember instances from childhood where we got it wrong. Its likely his mum gave him the card to write and then posted it but didn't check what he had written so mention it to her in a non-confrontational way - "godson let me know his jacket didn't fit because he's ten not eleven, I was sorry to hear that" - and see what she says. I think it would be mean spirited to not get him a Christmas gift over a small issue like this, in my house this would involve a correction/discussion on why it was rude and I'd expect an policy but I wouldn't give a punishment for it.

Policy - apology

Speak to his mum. She might not be aware if what he wrote.

Though a child writing a thank you card is a rare beast indeed! Most excruciating thing to do as I remember it.

It was rude, but perhaps he's upset because he thinks you don't know his actual age?

I would phone HIM and speak to him to explain and see what he says. Thereafter talk to mum about the tone of the card so she can pick up on the discipline side of things.

Definitely take this head on, no beating around the bush, but calmly.

FWIW, my parents wouldn't have checked my stuff as that age as a pp suggested.

Take a photo. Send it his Mum with the message "I could have swapped it if you'd told me".

Leave it. Unless you get an apology dont send anymore gifts.

I'd ring and tell his mum and that you'll come to collect it. Then no Christmas gift. 10 is old enough to learn to be gracious or get nothing. It wont kill him.

That is very rude. Then again it's very rude that he doesn't normally acknowledge a gift nor that his mum didn't thank you.

I'm guessing he was made to do the thank you card despite not being happy with the size. Normal reaction from a 10 year but he needed an adult to guide him through the situation.

Another for just letting his mum know

Yes, check with the mum!

Children do need to be actually taught this stuff, sometimes they pick it up through how parents behave.

Make it clear to mum how disappointed you are, although if she's decent the ground will open up below her on that response.

He's not used to writing cards.
Why are you using txt type?

I have just text his mum. Not nasty just saying I wasn’t aware the jacket was too large. Will see what she says.

I’d speak to the mum and tell her what he’d written. I’d also give her the receipt so she can exchange it. That was very rude. Generally though the 10-11 year olds I know don’t really like getting clothes as presents but that’s no excuse for rudeness.

That's appalling! I always buy clothes for children on the large size.

Found a gorgeous Italian silk dress for mu then 18-month old goddaughter in the Harrods sale. Smallest size they had was for a 5 year old. I hung in to it for a few years and gave it to her for her 4th birthday. Wanted her to get as much use out if it as she could.

Give him a charity gift for christmas.

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Take a photo. Send it his Mum with the message "I could have swapped it if you'd told me".

Leave it. Unless you get an apology dont send anymore gifts.

This. Neither of my DC would have been that rude at 7, let alone 10. His parents should know what he wrote.