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Not to buy gift for rude godson! Who wld u blame

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Highfivemum · 07/12/2020 08:46

It was my Godson birthday two weeks ago. I bought him a lovely jacket from Next. It was the type I see him wear. I bought him age 11 as even though he isn’t a big child for his age Next in my mind is small fitting and rather bigger than smaller. I ordered online and then wrapped and messaged his mum to say his gift was their porch. I didn’t hear anything. Then this morning I received a card from him. It said “ thank you for the present that didn’t Fit ! I am 10 not 11 OK!!!!!! “
That was it. I was shocked to be honest. Must have read the card over and over again.
His mum has not said anything to me. I could have exchanged it.
His mum must have sent the card though surely. ?? whether she knew wot was written I don’t know.
I have said to my DH I am not buying a Christmas gift. DH said he is a child and not to get wound up. WWYD?

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 10/12/2020 14:47

[quote Mcnotty]@Nanny0gg Continue making a pratt of yourself instead of acknowledging you’ve been rather silly in not reading the full thread that’s gone on for pages after the initial OP. There’s always one or two Hmm.[/quote]
I'm clearly missing your point.

I responded not long after the OP. And I stand by the fact that he's clearly learned his manners from his mother

What's your problem?

user686833 · 10/12/2020 16:55

Stop being an obtuse dick @SoupDragon. I'm telling the OP what I would have done in her situation. I'm agreeing with the action she took. It's not useless to respond to a post to say what you would have done in the event after the OP has already taken action. It validates their response.

WhyDoYouAsk · 10/12/2020 17:31

You would have sent a picture of the message to the mother who you already knew had seen it and approved it? Really?

I would like to think that I would message her with a picture & say:
‘Are you absolutely sure you saw this? Do you really think it’s ok? Got to say I disagree. It’s f’king rude’
In reality I would probably just ghost them forever more. Coward that I am.

WhyDoYouAsk · 10/12/2020 17:34

Note:
Would like to think that I would...
(Before I get any silly replies)

Throckmorton · 10/12/2020 18:12

Sod cancelling the cheque, I reckon you should cancel the coat... :)

Mcnotty · 10/12/2020 18:33

I'm clearly missing your point. I responded not long after the OP. And I stand by the fact that he's clearly learned his manners from his mother What's your problem?

I agree. You've completely missed the point of the thread, which is that someone starts a thread asking for opinions or advice and others join in to comment. Each time before you comment (unless you are the first poster) you are supposed to read not only the original post but all the other posts (even if just a quick scan) to update yourself on what has already been said or advice already given to make sure you are not out of sync with what's being discussed. This also applied to gaps between your own posts. You, however, decided to ignore hundreds of posts and posted something that had already been clarified several times.

When your mistake was pointed out, instead of you to just accept it, & move on, you decided to take offence calling people 'bitchy' Hmm. Your response shows your inability to engage with the full thread, either because you felt the hundreds of other posts were irrelevant to the OP or you felt your mind-boggling post was on another level to anything that could previously have been posted, only you know the truthSmile.

Nanny0gg · 10/12/2020 18:51

@Mcnotty

I'm clearly missing your point. I responded not long after the OP. And I stand by the fact that he's clearly learned his manners from his mother What's your problem?

I agree. You've completely missed the point of the thread, which is that someone starts a thread asking for opinions or advice and others join in to comment. Each time before you comment (unless you are the first poster) you are supposed to read not only the original post but all the other posts (even if just a quick scan) to update yourself on what has already been said or advice already given to make sure you are not out of sync with what's being discussed. This also applied to gaps between your own posts. You, however, decided to ignore hundreds of posts and posted something that had already been clarified several times.

When your mistake was pointed out, instead of you to just accept it, & move on, you decided to take offence calling people 'bitchy' Hmm. Your response shows your inability to engage with the full thread, either because you felt the hundreds of other posts were irrelevant to the OP or you felt your mind-boggling post was on another level to anything that could previously have been posted, only you know the truthSmile.

I still have no idea what you're talking about. My response, asfaik, wasn't that long after the OP I didn't think.

But thank you for your kind attempt to a)derail the thread with your long-winded explanation and b) teach your grandmother to suck eggs

If I did as you said I did, it was in error and I shall endeavour to do better in future.

Mcnotty · 10/12/2020 19:59

Apology accepted.

TikTokFinger · 11/12/2020 17:27

OP, while I am mindful that this is your life and not an internet soap opera, if you think of it, can you come back to the thread after Christmas with the CF’s reaction when she realises that you have not send a gift to CF Jr.?
I’m thinking it’ll be something like: “I think CF Jr.’s gift got lost in the post, did you have a tracking number you could check?” Or some such.

PerveenMistry · 12/12/2020 01:24

@TikTokFinger

OP, while I am mindful that this is your life and not an internet soap opera, if you think of it, can you come back to the thread after Christmas with the CF’s reaction when she realises that you have not send a gift to CF Jr.? I’m thinking it’ll be something like: “I think CF Jr.’s gift got lost in the post, did you have a tracking number you could check?” Or some such.
Yes, adding my plea for an update. Thank you!
GawjussPreMadonna · 12/12/2020 18:26

I would speak to his mum first. She may well have trusted him to write his own thank you notes, or perhaps been too busy to check them. If it was my child I would be mortified and make sure they gave you a proper thank you card as well as a sincere apology. If you get an apology from him then I would just put it in the past and continue to buy him gifts. If not then stop buying him anything.

IrmaFayLear · 12/12/2020 18:30

Can we have a rtft emoji ?!!!!!!!

purpleme12 · 12/12/2020 20:04

@IrmaFayLear

Can we have a rtft emoji ?!!!!!!!
🤣 👍
Lovaduck74 · 12/12/2020 20:06

Please!

Lovaduck74 · 12/12/2020 20:07

@Lovaduck74

Please!
For a RYFT emoji.
Ddot · 13/12/2020 19:41

I'd be fuming its rude, my dad would have dragged me over to yours to apologise and I do mean dragged

CoraPirbright · 22/12/2020 11:53

Any update OP? Have you had an email querying where the Christmas present has got to?!

CrankyFrankie · 27/12/2020 09:01

Sounds like his childish and materialistic mother is jealous of your relationship with her son and wants to filter it through herself/act as a conduit. You’re totally right in your measured and decent response. Just a shame, as it sounds like yours and your family’s influence in his life might be one of the only chances he has of not ending up a wazzock!

coldwaterfeed · 27/12/2020 09:55

@Mcnotty

I'm clearly missing your point. I responded not long after the OP. And I stand by the fact that he's clearly learned his manners from his mother What's your problem?

I agree. You've completely missed the point of the thread, which is that someone starts a thread asking for opinions or advice and others join in to comment. Each time before you comment (unless you are the first poster) you are supposed to read not only the original post but all the other posts (even if just a quick scan) to update yourself on what has already been said or advice already given to make sure you are not out of sync with what's being discussed. This also applied to gaps between your own posts. You, however, decided to ignore hundreds of posts and posted something that had already been clarified several times.

When your mistake was pointed out, instead of you to just accept it, & move on, you decided to take offence calling people 'bitchy' Hmm. Your response shows your inability to engage with the full thread, either because you felt the hundreds of other posts were irrelevant to the OP or you felt your mind-boggling post was on another level to anything that could previously have been posted, only you know the truthSmile.

Each time before you comment (unless you are the first poster) you are supposed to read not only the original post but all the other posts

That's asking too much. It's enough that people just read all of the OP's posts. Do you seriously read every post on every thread? That's crazy. It's annoying on short when someone just repeats what you've just said thoyugh.

LadyEloise · 27/12/2020 10:37

@Highfivemum
What did you do or not do for the ungrateful little *... at Christmas ?

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