Toddler drank wine-fuming

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This morning my dp went out to get milk and I was in the kitchen taking my vitamins with my back to my Dd-2.6 years old. When I turned around she was drinking wine out of a carton. Our picnic basket was on the floor by the bridge and it had been put in there by dp.
Luckily it was hopefully only a sip and two hours later after careful observation, she seems fine.
Aibu to be completely pissed off with my dp for leaving it there? He’s now upset with me and says accidents happen and he wouldn’t be angry with me. I was full of anxiety this morning after it happened and was really upset about it.
He says he put it there to ‘Hide it’ as I go on about his drinking, sick of the bs, just wish he’d grow up like we all have to when we become parents, surely?

@frazzledasarock I know, I’ll have to start planning now

@CookieMumsters

why can’t he just drink a glass of wine at the weekend like normal people.

I don't know many people who only have a glass at the weekend so its hard to say of your expectations are unreasonable or if DP drinks too much.

This was exactly my thoughts.

@123becauseicouldntthinkofone I didn’t mean one singular glass but maybe just drinking within a more normal standard

I am always get odd when a post gets negative comments and then the OP starts to add further messages dripping feeding adverse remarks to get ppl on side. I just find it very suspicious, espcially here where the drinking habits seem to be getting worse slightly better and worse.

Anyway back to the original issue, Accidents happen and kids will get themselves into allsorts of scrapes. Relax, cause I am sure there will be more as time goes on.
But if you want some one to blame than it is 100% you. You turned your back on a 2 year for 2 minutes. If it wasnt the drink it could have been a button she choked on or anything.You need to be aware of the situation at all times.

@Cheeseandwin5

I am always get odd when a post gets negative comments and then the OP starts to add further messages dripping feeding adverse remarks to get ppl on side. I just find it very suspicious, espcially here where the drinking habits seem to be getting worse slightly better and worse.

Anyway back to the original issue, Accidents happen and kids will get themselves into allsorts of scrapes. Relax, cause I am sure there will be more as time goes on.
But if you want some one to blame than it is 100% you. You turned your back on a 2 year for 2 minutes. If it wasnt the drink it could have been a button she choked on or anything.You need to be aware of the situation at all times.

The thread moved on a bit from the initial question. It helps to read it.

And blaming OP for not watching a toddler every single second is just as daft now as it was 100 comments ago.

@Cheeseandwin5 You sound like a nice person..

There was no intentional drip feed, I was upset and didn’t explain the full situation in the first post and as I was asked more, I answered those questions.
I’ve posted before under my original name and was pretty shocked to see some really nasty comments, I’ve no idea why, it made my situation feel 100% worse at the time, as I had hoped I’d get some help and advice, which I’m so grateful I did in the end from lots of lovely posters.

It’s still upsetting and baffling to me how people would just deliberately be nasty on a thread. You’ve no idea how fragile that person may be feeling at the time.

[quote Nomechange]@Cheeseandwin5 You sound like a nice person..

There was no intentional drip feed, I was upset and didn’t explain the full situation in the first post and as I was asked more, I answered those questions.
I’ve posted before under my original name and was pretty shocked to see some really nasty comments, I’ve no idea why, it made my situation feel 100% worse at the time, as I had hoped I’d get some help and advice, which I’m so grateful I did in the end from lots of lovely posters.

It’s still upsetting and baffling to me how people would just deliberately be nasty on a thread. You’ve no idea how fragile that person may be feeling at the time.[/quote]
How are you today OP?

How are things at home? Is he still angry?

@AccidentallyOnPurpose Hi, thanks for asking 💐

I ended up sending him a long message at work yesterday, often an easier situation as prevents arguments. He messaged back that I’ve opened his eyes to things and that he does sometimes drink a little too much but doesn’t believe he has a problem and is going to stop everything...
I apologised for being so anxious about the wine being out and that bad as it was, any of us could make a mistake, but that it the last straw in a line of behaviour etc..we’ll see 🤷🏻‍♀️

@AccidentallyOnPurpose

Whilst its true I havent read all the pages, I did read enough to know think something was amiss ( and apologies to the OP if I have got this completely wrong). If you did read my message, and feel free to check yourself- of all the gripes the OP has said, would leaving Alcohol on the floor be the top one, would it even be in the top 5??

@Cheeseandwin5 What are you on about? Just reading this thread, don’t you have any sympathy? Pure nastiness from some on here

I was going to comment more fully but then I realised there is no point as you are so sure you are in the right as is evidenced by the repetitive nature of your posts and yes, I did read them all.

Maybe, your husband feels similarly so has resorted to hiding in the toilet to escape the constant disapproval and attempts to control.

This won't lead anywhere good but you won't believe that so no point in saying it.

Best of luck to you because you are going the right way about ending up trapped in a foreign country on your own.

[quote Nomechange]@AccidentallyOnPurpose Hi, thanks for asking 💐

I ended up sending him a long message at work yesterday, often an easier situation as prevents arguments. He messaged back that I’ve opened his eyes to things and that he does sometimes drink a little too much but doesn’t believe he has a problem and is going to stop everything...
I apologised for being so anxious about the wine being out and that bad as it was, any of us could make a mistake, but that it the last straw in a line of behaviour etc..we’ll see 🤷🏻‍♀️[/quote]
Stop the drinking or the hiding?

I wish you good luck. Obviously,it's best for everyone if things improve and the relationship survives, but if they don't you'll have some very hard decisions ahead of you, for your sake and your daughter's.

@ChocolateCherrybomb

I was going to comment more fully but then I realised there is no point as you are so sure you are in the right as is evidenced by the repetitive nature of your posts and yes, I did read them all.

Maybe, your husband feels similarly so has resorted to hiding in the toilet to escape the constant disapproval and attempts to control.

This won't lead anywhere good but you won't believe that so no point in saying it.

Best of luck to you because you are going the right way about ending up trapped in a foreign country on your own.

Nasty and unecessary

@ChocolateCherrybomb Wow, how unkind are you