To think cheating with contraception is more common than I used to believe

[Thewithesarehere]

I am now beginning to think it’s more common. Recent threads haven’t helped this suspicion either. I wonder why anyone would do it and in what state of mind. It’s a lifetime commitment as it should be and stopping contraception without telling your partner should really be criminal. How is it consensual sex after all? Looking to hear your thoughts and share your stories of the CF women/men you know who have tried this.

@NiceGerbil

'I think there should be laws that ensure severe penalties for this. '

Severe penalties in law in the UK = prison.

Yep bonkers.

There are plenty of severe penalties that do not involve going to prison. And we are not frozen in time: we can create laws. You are being obtuse.

I'm being obtuse for saying it's bonkers to criminalise couples separating if there are children

I wouldn't have thought so, but since I became a parent and started mixing with lots of mums of young children, it is astonishing how many contraception fails there have been. Far more than I would expect statistically, if everyone is using their method properly. It mostly happens with the pill.

@NiceGerbil

I'm being obtuse for saying it's bonkers to criminalise couples separating if there are children

You are blatantly ignoring the point I have made many times so far: if a parent deceived the other partner in some way and it affects the other parent significantly, this should have consequences.

@PrincessNutNutRoast

I wouldn't have thought so, but since I became a parent and started mixing with lots of mums of young children, it is astonishing how many contraception fails there have been. Far more than I would expect statistically, if everyone is using their method properly. It mostly happens with the pill.

If the onus is on the woman alone, the risks are high and it’s unfair also. Both partners should take responsibility and should be honest about everything at every step. Fewer contraception options for men don’t help this situation either.