Pissed off at being volunteered

[goodwillcunting]

NC as this has just happened so very outing but I'm so fucked off I don't even care.

I was going to post in craft section but I genuinely can't tell if IAB(totally)U and thought it would be helpful to get non crafters views too.

I crochet for relaxation. I enjoy it, I don't sell anything but I do gift it sometimes if someone specifically asks for something but I tend to prefer just to suit myself. I was showing a friend a little project I was doing for my house last week and she's just informed me she's 'sold' a few for charity. I couldn't hide my WTF response but have ended up agreeing to do the ones she's committed to but no more.

yanbu that is some cheeky fuckery

Yabu It wont take that long and it is for charity

I feel so pissed off but at her reaction I'm not sure if I need to stop being a grinch

She's sold items you haven't made?? YANBU that's cheeky and weird!

YANBU. Tell her to do them herself if its so easy to just knock a few up.

hang on, she's sold some you are making for her???

Definite cheeky fuckery. A lot of non-crafting people have no idea of the time it takes to make something, especially something to a standard that people will be willing to buy.

Is your friend willing to contribute to materials? I would make it clear that whilst you're willing to make these ones (if indeed you are) you don't appreciate being treated in this way.

She saw what I was in the middle of making myself (not even a completed project) and then 'sold' some to people in her work on nothing more than a description.

She's constantly telling me to sell my work because she has no appreciation of how long it takes and doesn't get that I do it for my own enjoyment.

Had she sold them on my behalf just for profit I would have said no but it's for a charity that she knows is close to my heart

Wtf! Had to reread that as I first read it as she's stolen your design and made them herself.... But she's actually sold things that she wants you to make?

Bit strange! YANBU.

You don't have to do it.

YANBU. Cheeky cow. Are you sure it's for charity? I would want to see proof. I hate to be cynical but have seen something similar happen and the cash was pocketed by the generous cheeky fucker.

Do you actually know the money she sold them for has gone to charity? If she is such a CF then maybe......

Your friend should not have voluntold you to make the items; I'd be annoyed too, but would no doubt have crocheted them - as you're going to do.

Well the easy answer is to ask her how long she thinks it will take her to make them , charity or not id have just said no .

You don’t have to make the things. She’s not sold anything because the items don’t exist yet, and it’s up to you whether they exist or not. She’s rude has hell though.

I’d tell her exactly where to go!
It doesn’t matter that it’s for charity - it wasn’t her place to volunteer an item that 1) isn’t hers to begin with and 2) hasn’t even been made yet. So essentially she’s made herself look good but your doing all the uncredited hard work behind the scenes?

She's a cheeky fucker but honestly, you need to go back to her and tell her no or you'll be a doormat.

Tell her you've had time to think it over and appreciate she wants to raise money for the charity but please find another way to do it. If you wanted to sell the items you made, you'd do it yourself.

I bet she's asked for a pittance compared to the time, skill and wool it will have taken too.

1. Bin her
2. Let her sort out the web of lies
3. Do nothing.

Just say no. She can give people their money back or just ask them to donate.

Did you remember to tell her not to EVER do it again.

She's a cheeky fucker but to the best of my knowledge not a thief. This is totally outing but she works in a school and the teachers each have a target this year for the charity so this will go towards her tally.

I'm thinking of doing a scaled down version and she can explain she got the description wrong or do it her bloody self. It just feels so disrespectful like I have nothing better to do. I probably don't and if she'd asked I would have no doubt agreed but this just feels like she's taking the piss.

You are right @DelphineWalsh I could just not do it. I am tempted but feel petty.

Who made her your boss ? Is this how she is usually? She wouldn't be my friend for long if so. I'd not be doing it, as even if it's for a charity close to your heart ,it's up to you how, when & if you donate. Words need to be had about boundaries & friendship norms.

She may have volunteered you, but she has no idea of how busy you are at the moment - soooooo busy. My guess is that she doesn't realise how long these things take in the first place.
By all means do maybe one, as she's promised, but take your own sweet time over it; explaining to her "customers" that they're not ready yet is her job!

Is she at least paying for the wool or whatever else you need?

She is being cheeky beyond the extreme.

I would say no, she can't sell them because you don't have liability insurance etc.

But definitely do a rough guestimation of how much they should sell for (factor in £15/hr for your time plus materials) and then tell her that would be the going rate for them. Do you know how much she's sold them for?

Ah, cross posted with you OP. So she's using you for her charity 'tally' or target. Thats not my kind of friendship. Is your friendship based on your usefulness is what I'd wonder .

That is absolutely outrageous - I would be furious!

Oh my goodness. Your friend has gone too far. But really you need to be more assertive and say no otherwise people will continue to treat you like this.

It’s perfectly OK to renege on this arrangement given your friend’s assumptive stance.