Pissed off at being volunteered

[goodwillcunting]

NC as this has just happened so very outing but I'm so fucked off I don't even care.

I was going to post in craft section but I genuinely can't tell if IAB(totally)U and thought it would be helpful to get non crafters views too.

I crochet for relaxation. I enjoy it, I don't sell anything but I do gift it sometimes if someone specifically asks for something but I tend to prefer just to suit myself. I was showing a friend a little project I was doing for my house last week and she's just informed me she's 'sold' a few for charity. I couldn't hide my WTF response but have ended up agreeing to do the ones she's committed to but no more.

yanbu that is some cheeky fuckery

Yabu It wont take that long and it is for charity

I feel so pissed off but at her reaction I'm not sure if I need to stop being a grinch

How many hours approx will each one take? How much in materials? and how much has she sold them for? Not that any of that will make her any less unreasonable, I just want to marvel at how cheeky she is. It’s funny how generous some people are with others time and resources isn’t it?!

No way would I do it if I were you. If you do you are setting a precedent and it will no doubt happen again.

Wow. That is some brass neck there!

Clearly she was hoping that the charity angle would guilt trip you into it and thus contribute to her tally. She thought wrong - good for you in putting a stop to it!

And absolutely yes to PPs who've said that people who don't make things have no idea of the time and money it can cost. I make a lot of jams, chutneys, jellies etc and the cost of good quality fruit, jars, labels, equipment etc, not to mention the cost of running a stove and oven for hours AND my time, racks up very quickly.

I have signed up to ravelry with the username notsogoodwill - felt fitting

Message has been received but no response as yet. I hope she takes it with good grace but that's up to her

I can’t believe the cheek! It takes me forever to crochet anything and this close to my youngest’s birthday and Christmas if anyone volunteered me for anything they’d be met with slightly hysterical laughter

I’m so glad you’ve told her you’re not doing it.

I crochet for pleasure. I don’t sell what I make however if I like people enough I do make things for them. The biggest problem is people who don’t craft have absolutely no idea just how many hours go into a project.

Ravelry is fabulous. It's such a great resource, it is a bit of a time sucker though. I sometimes pop on for a quick look and then surface later in a panic because I should already be on the school run. I wish there was a similar resource for quilting.

Just don't do it if she asks say you haven't had the to complete.

I'm delighted you have told your CF 'friend' you won't / can't help her. Such a cheek. The thing is with CF if you don't stamp down on their behaviour they think it's fine and keep pushing away at the boundaries of total CF. If you had agreed this time - heaven only knows what she would have committed you to another time.

I Like the sound of these Ravelry people - I only dabble in knitting and crochet, my main craft being pottery but might be able to pick up a tip or 2.

YANBU and to be honest I would be telling her you are not doing them as she should have asked first, they take xx time to do and you don’t have that time

I don´t think her not knowing about crafting is any excuse. You don´t sign up someone for anything without asking them!

I see you've sent a text already. Good for you. So cheeky.

But what kind of fresh hell is this??
This is totally outing but she works in a school and the teachers each have a target this year for the charity so this will go towards her tally.

This is cheek fuckery from the school too. What happens if the teachers don't meet the target? Stern talking to? Pay docked?
Enforced giving? Absolutely ridiculous

can you ask her buyers to contact you directly and then explain the situation to them - sorry they are not available as commissions, it was a misunderstanding etc. and then tell her separately not too ever offer your services without discussion with you first, in a firm but kind way?

YANBU

I'd love to know what she was charging them and what the items were. I bet it wouldn't even cover cost of materials.

I have people constantly tell me I should sell my work. Haha. I ask them how much they'd pay for it. Most of the time it's less than the cost of the yarn. People are totally clueless about this when their point of reference is mass produced garments from a manufacturer on the opposite side of the world from the UK.

@sonjadog

I don´t think her not knowing about crafting is any excuse. You don´t sign up someone for anything without asking them!

I agree, I don't know anything about crafting but aside from that being because it doesn't interest me, its also because I know it costs a lot - in time and money! I would never volunteer someone else's time and money like that. And I don't just mean the time it will take, I mean the time taken to actually learn in the first place as well.

I bet the friend wouldn't be happy at being volunteered for hours of free tutoring. She's the sort of person who meets a doctor at a party and tried to get them to come to the bathroom with her to have a quick look at something.

This is cheek fuckery from the school too. What happens if the teachers don't meet the target? Stern talking to? Pay docked?
Enforced giving? Absolutely ridiculous

This x1000

@stschiap

I see you've sent a text already. Good for you. So cheeky.

But what kind of fresh hell is this??
This is totally outing but she works in a school and the teachers each have a target this year for the charity so this will go towards her tally.

This is cheek fuckery from the school too. What happens if the teachers don't meet the target? Stern talking to? Pay docked?
Enforced giving? Absolutely ridiculous

I agree with that as well, where are teachers supposed to find all this time for charity? How does it benefit the kids?

I'm just here to say loving the username op. And god yeah. Bullet dodged. what a cf!

Enjoy your next project!

Thigh
My initial reaction to your post - was to disagree; why should the OP have to do the grovelling for her CF 'friend's CF? Thinking for a moment or 2 longer and I grudgingly agree as this way the OP controls the message. However there should be no kindness when telling her to back the f* off with volunteering others for anything.

My response when people try and pimp me out - "Wanna bet?"

She's a glory hunter, isn't she? You'd do the work, others would pay, and she'd get the glory.

I'd tell her you'll need her to purchase the wool/yarn you'll be needing to complete the projects she has taken it upon herself to donate 8and* take credit for without talking to you first. Give her a list of what she needs to buy you to complete the projects.

Tell the cheeky mare that she's welcome to donate to the charity herself, if she wants to. Outrageous!

I would tell her to fuck off. If you wanted to sell for charity you would have done so yourself

Tell her no, and not to do it again. It's a preposterous imposition.

I'd be curious to know how she priced the items. Did she factor in paying you for materials? Time? Or were you to spend your time making these things for absolutely nothing, and buy the supplies yourself?