Pissed off at being volunteered

[goodwillcunting]

NC as this has just happened so very outing but I'm so fucked off I don't even care.

I was going to post in craft section but I genuinely can't tell if IAB(totally)U and thought it would be helpful to get non crafters views too.

I crochet for relaxation. I enjoy it, I don't sell anything but I do gift it sometimes if someone specifically asks for something but I tend to prefer just to suit myself. I was showing a friend a little project I was doing for my house last week and she's just informed me she's 'sold' a few for charity. I couldn't hide my WTF response but have ended up agreeing to do the ones she's committed to but no more.

yanbu that is some cheeky fuckery

Yabu It wont take that long and it is for charity

I feel so pissed off but at her reaction I'm not sure if I need to stop being a grinch

Crochet can take hours and hours of work, and the bloody wool costs a fortune too! Is she expecting you to donate all that time and cost? Tell her you don’t have time to do it, she will have to reimburse the people she’s sold your work to and if she wants she can donate the money herself to the charity. I don’t think I’d be friends with her for much longer.

YABU to have never heard of ravelry!!
It's amazing

I'm delighted to stood up for yourself and told her no. I crochet but do not sell anything, I gift or keep what I make,I've made themed blankets for my niece and nephew (Harry Potter, Spiderman etc) and angel blankets for newborns, my sil always says I should sell but when I explained the time it takes and how a deadline takes away the relaxation she understood. Hopefully your friend will have copped on, I think she just seen an easy way of increasing her fundraising tally and took a chance.

Just. Say. No.

She is going to have to go back and say she made a mistake.

Do one. Who's paying for the wool? Give her a bill at the same time as handing over the item: "Here's the crochet, the wool costs £x and I'll let you have it at the price I paid". Do her a favour!

Or tell her how much and which type of wool you need before you start making it. If she doesn't get it for you then you won't have to make it at all.

Jux, that's brilliant! The CF will almost certainly slink away at the thought of having to provide and deliver the yarn. 😁

I've been on Ravelry for years, but I've never thought about looking at the forums. I've joined the Selfish Knitters group (I crochet, can't knit). I'm not the first to have joined on the back of this thread

And just like that MNHQ is wondering why site traffic has plummeted.

For all that are new to ravelry, make sure to check out different groups/forums and patterns.

Greetings, my people. I, too, hate making something when I know someone else is waiting for it. And I've been on Ravelry for a few years: checking out a yarn on there & seeing what other people had made inspired me to try to knit a lace shawl or scarf, so I have a couple of instruction books & a bag of luscious yarn put away for Christmas.

I’ve been on Ravelry for over ten years and have made good friends in person and online through it.

Unfortunately the recent changes to the site gave me a migraine the first time I used it, only the second migraine in my life. Others get the same, and worse, including seizures. The temporary changes which can make the new site look a little more like the old (Classic Rav) will end in a couple of months, so I won’t be on there much, if at all.

There are accessibility discussions on this Ravelry thread.

Fortunately for me there’s MN, where I’m spending an increasing amount of time.

I craft, but never for money. Crochet is so time intensive and people don’t understand just how much labor is involved, not to mention supplies. Most people selling on Etsy or at craft fairs are earning a pittance.

It’s very easy for me to say no because I work by billable hours. I just explain that my billable rate at my corporate job is a much more efficient use for my time. If it’s for charity, I could do some work for a client and raise a whole lot more than I could with my knitting needles or my glue gun.

It's only a cliché because its true, but no is a single sentence.

[quote goodwillcunting]**@Fefifofaff* @RavelryReveller* @saltinesandcoffeecups

why have I never heard of ravelry I am in my element![/quote]
I love that you have discovered Ravelry off the back of this thread. At least something good has come out of the cheeky fuckery.

Tell to politely fuck off.

YANBU - What a cheek !!!!

I bet "friend" is totally beside herself and thinks she has done you a favour.

Tell her you are now allergic to your crochet hooks, and btw NO!

Well the easy answer is to ask her how long she thinks it will take her to make them.

Yes

Another one for the next CF thread

Ravelry is amazing - I’ve done several patterns from there (some free and some paid-for) - and it never ceases to amaze me how many free patterns there are - it demonstrates the generosity that is so common amongst yarn-crafters in my experience.

I’m on ravelry as DavidTennantsGirl (that’s what the DTG in my MN nickname stands for), if anyone wants to add me as a friend.

I would suddenly get a bout of RSI 👍🏻

Lend her the pattern.

Only do what you feel is right for you. Yes it’s good to make money for charity but putting yourself under pressure to churn out more items will put yourself under pressure and it may take away the pleasure and relaxation of your hobby.

YANBU.

Tell her again it's not on, explain why and tell her the next time she volunteers you, you will leave her hanging.

Tell her no , tell her why and that she shouldn't have volunteered your services without asking you first and that it has upset you. No way would I let a friend get away with it. I'm nice and generous but you know there are such things as courtesy , respect and consideration for others before u volunteer them to do things especially for free.

Fortunately the OP told her friend no several posts back & the friend accepted it, though she still doesn’t seem to have got the point. I crochet too & while I give my work away quite often, I’d never take paid commissions for all the reasons previous posters have listed.