Pissed off at being volunteered

[goodwillcunting]

NC as this has just happened so very outing but I'm so fucked off I don't even care.

I was going to post in craft section but I genuinely can't tell if IAB(totally)U and thought it would be helpful to get non crafters views too.

I crochet for relaxation. I enjoy it, I don't sell anything but I do gift it sometimes if someone specifically asks for something but I tend to prefer just to suit myself. I was showing a friend a little project I was doing for my house last week and she's just informed me she's 'sold' a few for charity. I couldn't hide my WTF response but have ended up agreeing to do the ones she's committed to but no more.

yanbu that is some cheeky fuckery

Yabu It wont take that long and it is for charity

I feel so pissed off but at her reaction I'm not sure if I need to stop being a grinch

I craft and I am so on your side, everyone has already said everything I'm thinking but wanted to add I'm so glad you stood up for yourself! People who don't make things by hand don't get it. Please do offer to teach her how to do it - be ready with materials next time you see her. Maybe tell her lightheartedly that you'll make one to donate to her charity if she makes one alongside you!

Crotchet a doormat. If you want a pattern check out the mirror.😠
She's not a friend she's a user.

@Childrenofthestones

Crotchet a doormat. If you want a pattern check out the mirror.😠 She's not a friend she's a user.

Harsh! Op has replied to say shes not doing it .

Jeez. I think you should talk to her about how inappropriate and rude it was to offer up your time (and money since she didn't even offer to pay for materials), no matter what the reason.

She needs to give her head a wobble!

[quote goodwillcunting]@Grooticle sorry that made me laugh, volunteered you because you enjoyed watching bake off?! Good grief.

Well I've had a response. Very light and airy , said that's a pity they'll be disappointed but they'll understand it's a busy time.

I'm still a bit annoyed that she doesn't 'get it' but will bite my tongue until I speak to her instead of text.

Thanks again everyone [/quote]
You could always respond with "don't worry, I can always show you how to do it! You'll need to turn up at mine having bought x amount of y and set aside z number of hours, but I'm sure you'll agree it'll be worth it if you don't want to disappoint!"

Disclaimer, I have PMS, this may not be a realistically good response!

For the exact reason that people will not pay for skill or time because they do not see the value of it, the just see the physical product.

This is the trouble - people expect to be able to buy crafted stuff for next to nothing because it's"home-made". They forget that the materials cost money and that if people were to charge for their time well - even at minimum wage rates, - the cost would be phenomenal!

It isn't "home-made" - it's "bespoke".

Charity or not I'd tell her exactly how I feel. I crochet, very slowly, but enjoy what I do but I wouldn't want the pressure!

no way. if you wanted to-you would...if..you do them,you mail them/drop off.ask which charity/adresses. absolute witch

I wouldn't do it, people just don't realise how long making things takes.

DH asked me to make ear savers (for wearing with masks) for colleagues in his department at the hospital. The operative word being 'asked' and I did this freely. I have made scrubs for the hospital and masks for hospice visitors but I would strongly object to someone else volunteering for me without asking.

OP has probably disappeared into the black hole of endless possibilities that is Ravelry 😁

Good for you for saying no!

@Fefifofaff I know, right! At least she’s given us her username so we can check in on her from time to time!

Ravelry is great - and OP, you might enjoy canyousewthisforme on Instagram, too. It isn't just about sewing, despite the name!

Make sure she knows to never do this again!

Maybe another text. "You could always learn to crochet so as not to disappoint anyone. Here's a link to a great YouTube/book/website. Please don't offer my time and crafts for sale again, I'm sure you meant well but I do it as a hobby to relax in my spare time, nothing else."

You must be joking! Why have you let her get away with this? She has created her own mess - let her get out of it. And it's not too late to back out now - you owe her nothing!

Find some old not very good yarn, print out the pattern, put them in a bag with a note:
Hope this helps. Just google 'earn to crochet' and you'll be fine.

And give it to her.

My late DM could get carried away with the urge to make the grand gesture, which was her choice, but......
One of my hobbies is making musical boxes. The movement itself costs, but then the outer shell is made from recycled materials: dressmaking scraps, empty boxes and the like, which cost nothing. It's very satisfying to construct dancers round a maypole or the like..... for my Mum's Soroptomist group, I agreed to make a raffle prize. Two Victorian carol singers under a lantern sharing a minuscule carol book, some details added under the magnifying glass. I enjoy making things once, then moving on to the next mental challenge.
The music box raised a goodly sum, and one lady who had bought a raffle ticket but not been lucky expressed her regret. My DM told her I would make another one, and wishing to please, asked a price which would not even cover the purchase of the musical movement. She had watched the painstaking construction of the first one, but was shaken when I pointed out that, at her asking price, she had valued my time and skill at less than nothing. She tried to make me worry about how embarrassed she would feel, but I left her to sort that one out.

Hi Op

Your school teacher is taking advantage of your kind nature, she should have asked your permission first/how you feel about making these crochet items for whatever charity designated.

Not just assumed 😡!!!

So she wants to take credit of coming up with this idea and possible the effort to do crocheting projects.!??

Lucky she remembered you watch bake off and not dexter...

PMSL! :o

@Fefifofaff @RavelryReveller @saltinesandcoffeecups

why have I never heard of ravelry I am in my element!

She’s batshit! You can’t volunteer someone else’s services!

@NewlyGranny I will check that. Funnily enough I dusted my sewing machine off this year. My sewing skills are basic but I really enjoy it too. No one would be trying to sell my wares though

Awful, explain that you won't ever do this again. My elderly aunt knits as a past time despite having rheumatoid arthritis. She knits when she feels well enough but was volunteered to supply a local maternity unit with baby hats. No wool supplied and no consideration given to the fact that she was shielding so couldn't get out to get wool.

I have found Ravelry! Thank you so much!

@twoshedsjackson your music boxes sound lovely.

As a fellow crochet'er for relaxation, I am outraged on your part! I am the same, I crochet to calm anxiety and sometimes I like to gift some of my blankets to friends. The second I HAVE to do it, it becomes stressful and takes the joy out of it. People keep telling me to sell them and don't get it when I say I can't because I can't work to a deadline. Some weeks I crochet every day, sometimes I can't. I think people who don't crochet don't really appreciate the amount of time one project can take up!