Is your husband's / partner's personality like your dad's?

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I was reading about women choosing partners who are like their dads. Is your male partner like your dad? Or your female partner like your mum?

I was just talking to my friend about this the other day! Both our partners are very similar to our dads in personality. I didn't really see a future with any previous boyfriends and they weren't anything like my dad. My current boyfriend, I can really imagine spending my life with him. I have a good relationship with my dad so maybe it's down to the fact that the similarities indicate similar values, lifestyle etc. I'm also very like my dad in personality.

Nope, not at all

No. My DSis has married someone like our dad though and it makes me a bit sad to realise it.

My dad was very stubborn and could never admit when he was wrong. DH I wouldn’t say is stubborn, but doesn’t like being caught out when he’s wrong! So they’ve got that in common...otherwise they’re complete opposites.

Absolutely not, in any way.

My ex's were till I worked that one out. DH is now the polar opposite to my dad in every way, and I am forever grateful for it

Not at all, no.

Nope, total opposite

No, direct opposite. Tbh I'm not sure that was a wise move either. I should have picked an unrelated personality type altogether.

No, not at all. Both are lovely men, but they’re very unalike.

No. Direct opposite. Watching them do diy is painful. Dad a quick bodge “it’ll be alright” Dh a careful perfectionist...

Both absolute miserable bastards

I don't think any of my partners have been massively like my dad, but I like men with quiet confidence and my dad is like that.

Similar, both are family orientated and hard working, and they can both be a bit too lax with the DC (leaving the discipline to me and DM)

Dad is quiet though and loves nature, DH is very sociable and will go for walks but be bored on them.

I'm single but I wouldn't know if any of my exes are like my dad as I don't know my dad. Maybe that's why I'm single

On the face of it, no, they're very different, however there are some similarities which I can see. All my partners have definitely had some common character traits which I attribute to loosing my dad very young. Sigmund Freud would be happy with me confirming his theory

No, almost polar opposites. I'm sure its a subconscious factor too.

My dad is a complete extrovert, emotionally incontinent and social blowhard. Clever and good company until he's not but very selfish and self-centred.

My bf is sociable but less extrovert, not a blowhard at all, but comfortable in his own skin and far more emotionally intelligent and very caring.

Having grown up with a high charisma, dazzling extrovert father I've seen the downsides of this for the women in their lives and have always avoided men like this.

I suppose there are ways in which they are similar - they are both “men’s men”, very sporty, and fundamentally decent people. But my dad is the most easy going person in the world and will put up with anything for a quiet life, whereas my partner is very driven, forthright and assertive. I think subconsciously I hated how my dad just caved to my mum on every issue (my mum is generally lovely, she just likes her own way and likes a lot of attention, and I think his life would be a lot happier if he stood up to her every now and again) and went for the man least likely to ever be labelled a pushover!

DH is absolutely nothing like my Dad. There are similarities between me and DH's Mum though.

No not at all - I’m like my Dad - my husbands the opposite

In some ways yes both don't like showing their emotions much.ExH was totally opposite of df though.

My long term partner is completely different from my dad. Vastly so.

My DH’s personality is more like my mum’s... but my personality is more like my dad’s.

My dh is very similar. My dad is a kind, simple, generous, loving man who has always put his wife and kids first. He champions us always and is the best person to have in your corner. My dh is the same and I am beyond besotted with him. I am grateful to have found someone who is my biggest cheerleader and will always support me to achieve qnd vice versa. The only way they are different is that dh is more religious than dad otherwise similar. They look very different though thankfully!

Very much so.

My dad was a lovely man, and modelled a very good relationship with my mum for me - they were very happily together until he passed.

I'm very pleased to have met my OH, who shares the kindness, good humour and gentleness of my father and I feel very lucky: he is my best friend, as well as my partner. As my mother said, "Meet somebody who makes you laugh every day."

My one great sadness is that my OH and my father didn't get to meet.