Is your husband's / partner's personality like your dad's?

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I was reading about women choosing partners who are like their dads. Is your male partner like your dad? Or your female partner like your mum?

Yes, unfortunately.

Both are quiet, let the women do the talking, reserved types. Both are very family focussed and put us first.

But the main clincher is that they both tell the same dad jokes... so much so that they're the only ones laughing at each other's jokes. It's very sad!

My dad was an abusive alcoholic, my partner is completely different.

My DH is like my dad but without all the bad bits (like my dad's abusive traits and rage). He's funny and very loyal as well as family-oriented, and he is great at DIY. Way less of a dick than my dad though.

Gladly very different. Even when I was as young as 7/8 I knew someone like my dad was the last type of person I would marry. He’s an ok dad but shit husband to my mum.

He couldn’t be more different, thank god.
My dad was controlling, narcissistic, violent towards me, my siblings and my mum as well as verbally and psychologically aggressive. He also had at least one affair, with my mums best friend.
My husband is kind, sensitive, understanding, honest and endlessly thoughtful. He proves I am his number one priority every day, and makes it clear how proud he is to be my husband.

I thought I had chosen someone with characteristics that were the opposite to my Dads, but as time went on other qualities started to show that reminded me so much of him that the relationship didn't survive.
I've also had some new friendships that formed quickly, and as time went on it turned out we had some odd childhood experiences in common.

My ex is completely different to my dad. Hence why I’m not with my ex anymore.

My dad is hard working, has the kindest gentlest heart, puts so much time and effort in to his grandchildren, has always had ambition, is excellent with money, very intelligent and takes a lot of pride in his home and his own appearance. He’s also there to make me feel better when I feel like times are tough. The way he treats my stepmum is absolutely perfect.

My ex is lazy, doesn’t work, used to emotionally drain me, used to hit me, doesn’t put anywhere near as much time and effort in to his children as my dad does, never had any ambition and just plods through life and dragged us all down, never has any money, not intelligent at all, was never bothered about making our home nice and he isn’t bothered with his own place now. Looks scruffy all the time and is an alcoholic.

Huge difference between them both. And my dad is one of the reasons why I thought I can’t settle for what I was going through. when my dad is a shining example of everything a man should be and that’s what I deserve to have.

Fwiw I’m not bothered about being a man with lots of money like my dad does. I just want someone who is hardworking in whatever he does and also has ambitions. And to build a life with someone who is on the same page as me.

Not at all. He's like his own dad!

Nope. I love my dad but I’m grateful my DH is nothing like him 😂

Yes, they share certain values but they are not the same. Df is an extrovert and dh an introvert.

No - could hardly be more different really.

On the surface they're very different but my dad was endlessly kind and soft hearted & my dp is the same.

Christ no! My husband is sweet, thoughtful, kind and would never even consider having an affair, yelling at the kids until they cry or backhanding me.

Don't get me wrong, I love my late dad but he had a furious temper and no respect for my mother.

No thank god

OMG, my DH is quiet, kind and helpful and humerous like my dad. Hardworking, practical in some ways yet romantic and sentimental too. Both love music and love to have a nice garden (especially if others do the gardening). Ha ha, I've been married for years and didn't even realise my DH has so many of my dad's qualities. I think it didn't click that they are similar because physically they are totally different to look at. (My dad is the handsome one).

Absolutely not. But my sister seems to have married a carbon copy of him personality wise.

Nope. My dad’s alright but DH is nothing like him.

One of my brothers has married a photocopy of our mother though. It’s a bit awks.

There's a fair few similarities yes! My dad is ace though so that helps.

The total opposite. On purpose.

My Dad was an abusive, misogynistic alcoholic.

My Stepfather is controlling, racist, homophobic and hypercritical.

My DH is lovely, caring, tolerant, nurturing, calm and stable.

My dad and my husband are both highly moral, kind and helpful men, who prioritise the happiness of other people. And the visual similarities have been remarked on.

I'd have to give the edge to my dad, because he's most likely to to actively put himself last as opposed my husband simply making sure everyone gets the same.

I don't think I'm much like his mum, on the other hand.

The main difference is that my parents are very frugal and his are very spendthrift. We sit somewhere in the middle - we're savers, but we know how to enjoy ourselves.

No. My dad was a nasty, violent, abusive alcoholic.

DH is kind, loving, thoughtful and a very hands on dad.

In some ways yes. Both quite moody, both always think they are right and both have a really annoying habit of wanting to shop in about 8 different places because this item is cheaper here but that one is cheaper there.
Other than that not really although occasionally I'll say don't do /say that. You sound like my dad.

No. My dad is very outgoing and assertive, but my husband is reticent and reserved.

Well they both spout absolute bullshit like it's the gospel truth at incredible length. But overall more different than similar.

Nope, both my bio and adoptive Dads were nasty abusive cunts.
DH on the other hand is a wonderful human, who is kind, loving and a decent person. Everything my parents aren't really. I am lucky to have him