to think that watching violent films with baby is wrong?

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I'm on maternity leave at the moment, our baby is 4 months old.

I take care of the baby during the day and my partner takes care of him when he comes home from work.

I take the evening hours to relax ( like taking a bath etc) as I still have a lot of postnatal health issues after the birth.

My partner is a very good dad, but he likes to sit on the floor, put the baby on his legs in his snuggleme cushion gently swaying him while he watches Samurai or Zombie films on Netflix. These films are all age 18 and I don't like them. He insists that he likes them and needs the films to wind down after a long day at work. He says the baby doesn't understand what's happening in the films.

I know our baby doesn't consciously understand what's happening in the films. Our son is quite fascinated by the lights on the screen and I worry that the grim content might influence him on a subconscious level.

AIBU to think it's inappropriate to watch these films when taking care of the baby?

Not RTFT but remember watching the news when DD was about that age and something had happened and they showed children crying and a woman and DD burst into years. She may have been more like 6 months. It was years ago. But she could recognise humans in distress so it's a no from me.

My baby watched 2 full series (120 episodes+) of Australian masterchef when I was doing night feeds. Can't wait for her to start knocking up some meals for me now. Didn't even think of the added benefits of watching so much at the time.

I don't think there's anything wrong with having the programs/films on but I always had the volume low so. Baby was facing me, not the screen.

My first I stopped when she was probably about 9 months when she started to notice the screen.

Currently have a 8 week old and rewatching buffy and angel.

I've personally never understood why it's worth the risk

There is no risk

Sure, at 4mo he probably won't be affected too much

He won't be affected at all.

Honestly, the things some people invent to get worked up about, and then wank on to others about. Get a life.

So you look after baby all day and relax in the evening.

Your dh goes to work all day, and looks after the baby in the evening. Does he get any down time at all? I don't think you can complain about what he watches on tv tbh. As many pp have said, the baby will be unaffected and unaware.

I do wonder about the frame of reference for people here.

If every child than grew up 'exposed as a baby' to films other than Postman Pat we would have a behavioural problem of astronomical proportions. Children grow up in situations far far worse than having a horror film playing in the same room and they are fine.

I really do think we have got to level of silliness here.