to think that watching violent films with baby is wrong?

[foodster]

I'm on maternity leave at the moment, our baby is 4 months old.

I take care of the baby during the day and my partner takes care of him when he comes home from work.

I take the evening hours to relax ( like taking a bath etc) as I still have a lot of postnatal health issues after the birth.

My partner is a very good dad, but he likes to sit on the floor, put the baby on his legs in his snuggleme cushion gently swaying him while he watches Samurai or Zombie films on Netflix. These films are all age 18 and I don't like them. He insists that he likes them and needs the films to wind down after a long day at work. He says the baby doesn't understand what's happening in the films.

I know our baby doesn't consciously understand what's happening in the films. Our son is quite fascinated by the lights on the screen and I worry that the grim content might influence him on a subconscious level.

AIBU to think it's inappropriate to watch these films when taking care of the baby?

@FTEngineerM

A baby shouldn’t be watching tv.. at all.

🙄

I wouldn't want my baby exposed to those films. I was cautious about what films I watched when pregnant.

What ??? What is the logic behind this?

I keep remembering and chuckling at Lynette and Crystal 😂

🤣 seriously? I can't belive

Currently binge watching Dexter via Sky Atlantic with my four month old! Although she's breastfeeding or asleep when we put it on. She only tends to 'watch' TV for 5-10 mins at a time if I can't get her to settle because it seems to distract her for a short period. That's not a daily occurrence though. I think differences in development will be noticeable amongst all young babies who watch TV regularly, regardless of what is on.

Believe the replies here!

Inappropriate for sure. Fine in the womb (to an limit because every emotion you experience I'm convinced they feel/sense it too). I actually stopped watching horror movies when pregnant for this exact reason.

People might think a baby doesn't understand what they see, but I think it's very naive to think they arent soaking it all up like a sponge. It's how they learn FGS.

Our local indie cinema does baby-friendly screenings of adult films up until the babies turn 1. Precisely because they can't understand what's going on.

I saw Midsommar and a very violent Western with my son. It was great and he was more interested in breastfeeding / crawling around on the floor than watching the film. As long as the volume isn't high there's nothing to worry about.

@Thickhead But surely the volume would be high in a cinema?

I watched the whole of Dexter whilst on mat leave with my first. To date he's not become a serial killer.

Just read the whole thread, Dexter is clearly the maternity leave choice 😂😂😂

I think this is one of those situations where whatever you think, you are right.

At 3-4 months, a baby takes pretty much all of its cues from its parent, not the lit-up box in the corner. So if you are uncomfortable with adult content being on then your baby will pick up on your stress and may be unsettled. Equally, if you are relaxed about such things then your baby will receive similarly relaxed cues from you.

So whichever side you come down on, crack on!

@peasoup8 it's turned down for baby screenings

@sapnupuas
My newborn used to love GoT.

I read this as - My newborn used to love G&T 🤣🤣🤣

How did any of you manage to watch all seasons of Dexter given how wooden and rubbish Jennifer Carpenter was?
I gave up a fee seasons in as I couldn't stand it anymore.

I don't understand why people find this funny or think this post is a wind up. I really believe that dark, grims things on the TV can be distressing for a little baby.
I think a baby has enough intelligence to distinguish between positive and negative sounds.

I can also understand the poster that said she didn't watch violent films while she was pregnant.

I'll probably buy some Bluetooth headphones for my OH as suggested by some on this thread

@foodster

I don't understand why people find this funny or think this post is a wind up. I really believe that dark, grims things on the TV can be distressing for a little baby. I think a baby has enough intelligence to distinguish between positive and negative sounds.

I can also understand the poster that said she didn't watch violent films while she was pregnant.

I'll probably buy some Bluetooth headphones for my OH as suggested by some on this thread

Just because you believe it , it doesn't make it true.

Millions of people believe in God or that they were healed by him.

I watched Shameless right the way through when DD was a newborn, kept me sane. Never, ever sworn in front of her myself. She's now 8.

(And perfectly normal)

And just becUse you think it’s harmless doesn’t mean it is.

Oh God shoot us we watching walking dead

I agree OP

I don't understand why people find this funny or think this post is a wind up

cos its hilarious
the ott-ness is crazy
Id have gone crazy just only watching kiddy safe crap when dd was a baby cos going by your logic even football is bad, i mean they boo and what not, get angry at umpire.

I'm sorry you're still struggling with your health OP. I had some pretty bad tearing so I empathise. But if your partner is working during the day and caring for the baby during the evening, when does he get time to relax?

Mental but hilarious thread.

9/11 happened when DS1 was a newborn. I sat in front of the news for weeks. He’s yet to bomb Afghanistan.

Just sat here trying to imagine the replies a poster would get if she said her DH was trying to control what she watched whilst looking after her baby.

U can bet your tush they'd he very different.