Meeting girlfriend Christmas Day

[Hm28]

Husband’s brother (who has only bothered to visit my 6 month old twice since born) wants to bring his new girlfriend over for Christmas Day. We’ve never met her and only heard from relatives that he even has a new girlfriend. Only know he wants to bring her as I asked my MIL today and she said he plans to. Am I wrong to not want to join our family Christmas and the first with my son? I feel like it will take away from the day and I won’t be as relaxed as have a stranger in my house for the day. Not particularly close to my BIL and he’s very self involved so know they day will be all about her.
Obviously the is only if Covid restrictions allow!

I think you get to choose your guests whatever the occasion.

agreed

@Hm28 you sound so immature

Wtf?? Twice in six months is loads. My mum hasn’t met my baby yet due to Covid restrictions. Sounds like you just don’t like him in which case why invite him? Saying that, bringing an extra person without asking you is just rude. If you want an excuse tell him you’ve already sorted food, crackers etc and there’s not enough to go round.

You'd get on well with my sister OP. She stopped my auntie from bringing her boyfriend to a family birthday celebration for her son as she'd never met the boyfriend before. They even lived together.

I think you are being mean tbh and not everything I'd about you.

This will no doubt go down like a lead balloon, but one of my siblings has inflicted a series of new partners on my family at Christmas and tbh, as you can tell, I still hold resentments. Especially as you'd think that after having done this the first couple of times, this would have not continued to recur, but oh yes it has!

I personally think that given he wishes to spend the day with the gf, you've new babies, that I wouldn't want an additional unknown stranger in my home with the covid risk.

I also think that assuming she can come is absolutely rude. I love family Christmases, but I think not asking if she can attend, not bothering to visit more frequently than once in 3 months doesn't bode well.

Well if your having your BIL who you clearly hate, it would be unfair to refuse his girlfriend who could be perfectly lovely. Presumably you'd feel uncomfortable with him there anyway? Just don't invite him at all if your so worried it will detract from babies first Xmas (not sure how someone could make ' a whole day about another adult'. I think you're catastrophising there because of your feelings about bil) Also I've seen my sister only twice I. The last year never mind 6 months. There was a certain pandemic that started early in the year that kind of put a stop to family visits. 2 times in 6 months is not bad at all for 2020

Poor woman. She's probably dreading it.

Are you 100% certain your BIL hasn't already spoken about it/asked your DH? You could be harbouring all this outrage for no reason if it is just your DH being too nervous or forgetful to tell you!

@165EatonPlace

Poor woman. She's probably dreading it.

Tbh I struggle to understand why a new gf or bf would want to impose themself o4 out up with their new gf/bf's family at Christmas when they are not known to one another. It's selfish. Especially given that many won't be around in a year or two anyway.

You hate her already don’t you?

I see the op hasn't returned as the thread hasn't gone in the way she'd hoped.

Not very christmasy of you OP. He may have no family. I'd hate it also tbf! It might surprise you though, she may be lovely.

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