is there a 'clique' on MN?? my posts just get ignored/ unnoticed/disregarded

[LittleMissTroubled]

maybe i am just being paranoid, but i only joined last week and have tried on numerous occasions to join in the threads and it all seems a bit cliquey, anyone else feel the same? or is it just me?

It is MN law that we have to have one of these threads every four days.

See, you're part of the very fabric of the place already!

Can I just say for anyone worried about being 'controversial', My first thread was right up my own arse, I still believe what I wrote in the op (that people shouldnt pick on poor grammar spelling just to win an argument, although I try my damnedest not to myself now)

I also posted on another thread where I was quite rude to franny, I have never had it mentioned in a thread since, EVER

So unless you drag it round the board with you to every thread, dont worry about what you write, just be yourself and be honest.

People will soon recognise you and your name, its just that there are so many names!!

People who say "oh don't be controversial, you'll get yelled at" are generally the people who had most of the board going "oh shut UP!" about something (and there are looooads of posters who started off that way!)

lol, good point.

My first thread that I remember (not my first thread though) was a ruck about breastfeeding (and for some reason I was yelling about a right to bottlefeed )

getting into the spirt of things now

I think I actually said something to franny about laughing at her thankfully she ahsnt hunted me down and made me hang for it.

lorayn; you are the most wonderful person i have ever read. you really are. so forgiving and polite.

littlelapin. oh yeah, agree lots of people start wrong. usually just to draw attention to themselves i think.
dont agree with it myself.

LMVS - much better!

like the name!

i also defended bottlefeeding

my first row was about early weaning

Boco, Bocotheboogedyman?

i guess i wont be ignored now now that every knows im littleMissParanoid! but the good thing is, now i have realised i can change my name to suit my mood or is that a good thing? that could potentially be disasterous.....

lol, you could be LittleMissSunshineAndShowers

hello! are you a freind of nemo's? we are having a xmas meet up in southport , you are more than welcome to join us ! see , no ignoring or cliques here

i dont know nemo? what do you do at these meets?

littlemiss whoever;
seriously, ive only been here about 3 months, but even ive lost count of the "is mumsnet too cliquey" threads.
you will find the mums that seem to share your sense of humour etc, (im still looking but im hopeful) and talk more to those mums than others, just like in rl.

oh sorry, i misread that then !! erm, drink wine, eat crips and giggle

we are meeting at my house and then staggering into town ! if we are not too giddy....!!!!!

they get drunk

there is also a liverpool girls meet up thread !

LTVS i think LittleMissIfItDoesntRainItPours is more fitting of my life right now! Im thinking of changing to LittleMissMagic for halloween though

lissie ! for shame , drunk indeed

sounds good LM, thanks for the invite, LittleMissTipsy might come out to play

Well for someone who's paranoid about being ignored, I would say you've proved yourself wrong with this thread Welcome to mumsnet. I don;'t think its cliquey, some people have just 'known' each other for some time. The more you post, the more familiar people will be with your name and vice versa.

This question was posted a while ago. Maybe some other kind person will find link because I'm c**p at that sort of thing.

I think the consensus was that it wasn't deliberately cliquey but could seem that way to a newbie which (speaking as a relative newbie myself) I think, on reflection, is true. The fact that this question keeps coming up (or variations on the same theme) would indicate that a few people share your concern though.

I used to, but I now put it down to how much time people have to post. Some days I post all the time, then rl gets in the way and I don't visit for a while. But some do post much more regularly - so they are bound to become more familiar with one another. And a certain select few post so eloquently that they become "well known" and everyone likes to read their postings.

So don't be put off ... ... we all take things personally from time to time ... but the majority of the postings - even if they do seem a bit cliquey are very, very funny and intelligently written. And Mumsnet IS great if you need advice or support on a practical matter - people really rally around in a crisis. Have personallyr received tons of good advice and interesting links etc & pmsl at some of the threads.

I agree counting, there are some posts I've posted on and not once been replied to, but sometimes my messages just arnet as interesting as others. Whereas times I have really wanted/needed help people have rallied round (even if I have had to shamelessly bump the post- remember the people with the best advice/knowledge might not have been on when you posted.)