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Original poster

is there a 'clique' on MN?? my posts just get ignored/ unnoticed/disregarded

222 replies

LittleMissTroubled · 15/10/2007 13:28

maybe i am just being paranoid, but i only joined last week and have tried on numerous occasions to join in the threads and it all seems a bit cliquey, anyone else feel the same? or is it just me?

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Carmenere · 15/10/2007 13:29

Nope, just you, I have never heard of such a thing.

RGPargy · 15/10/2007 13:29

Who said that?

flowerybeanbag · 15/10/2007 13:29

I've not found that. Keep at it I'd say.

And welcome

TheEvilDediderata · 15/10/2007 13:30

At this time of day things can move pretty fast, LMT. Your thread could have disappeared from active convo's in minutes.

Just get stuck in. No one is deliberately avoiding you, promise

WeeWitchyWilkie · 15/10/2007 13:30

Can feel that way sometimes - there are A LOT of old timers on here. Are you PG or anything cos I have always found the post/ante natal clubs more friendly.

Having said that - I do post a lot on other threads.

Don't take it personally

mrsmerton · 15/10/2007 13:30

Yes, it is cliquey at times.

Sometimes threads get taken over by private in jokes and conversations that have nothing to do with the thread.

But don't take it personally. We are all just people tapping away at computers FAR TOO MUCH, when we should be out enjoying the sunshine.

Carmenere · 15/10/2007 13:31

I know some people find it bit difficult to join in because as it is so, so busy on here. I am pretty sure that no one will have been ignoring you on purpose.

Tamdin · 15/10/2007 13:31

Hi LMT. it's not that it's cliquey more that some of the people on here have been here years (i'm not one of them)and so know each other very well. It's not personal. posts get missed if the thread moves quickly etc. try again.
the tea shop are always very friendly if you just want somewhere to 'go' for a chat. hope you have better luck from now on

GibbonInARibbon · 15/10/2007 13:32

Awww always feels like that at first LMT - just post away regardless...it's not so much cliquey, more people have got to know each other over time, as hopefully you will

olala · 15/10/2007 13:32

No i don';t think its cliquey at all. Just persevere. Sometimes everyone cross posts with everyone else and there is no time to answer or to have a clue what is happening!

GibbonInARibbon · 15/10/2007 13:32

Tamdin!!!!

(good example here LMT - I haven't seen Tam in ages so am all excited )

Original poster
LittleMissTroubled · 15/10/2007 13:33

no WWW im not PG! thanks for not ignoring me though, guess im just new

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MaureenMLove · 15/10/2007 13:33

Welcome! keep at it, its only been a week. You need to find a topic that really interests you and then people will get to know you and the Chat topic becomes easier.

screaminghousewife · 15/10/2007 13:33

Like rl, some people know each other, some don't. So I s'pose it can seem a bit like that sometimes but, it isn't, I promise. Everyone gets ignored at some point, 'tis mn law and I personally feel you haven't made it on here, unless you've been ignored.
So welcome, now you've been ignored you're one of the chosen.

Tamdin · 15/10/2007 13:34

Gibbon!

bobsmum · 15/10/2007 13:35

I "bump" threads if I find they've disappeared or been missed. Lunchtimes are a good time to post - lots of napping babies or working mums able to post over a sandwich. 5pm is bad - teatime and hometime - not many folks around iME. The it picks up again once children are in bed and the bottles have been opened

Persistence and a brass neck is often crucial

All the best!

omeN666 · 15/10/2007 13:35

can be quick moving so you dont see threads unless they really stand out. Love your profile pics by the way

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LittleMissTroubled · 15/10/2007 13:37

Thanks SH, also getting used to the acronms for everything dc's, dh's, dp's! didnt know what it all ment to begin with!

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WeeWitchyWilkie · 15/10/2007 13:37

BTW - to bump a thread you just go back to it, write bump in the message box and press post message.

It basically brings it back into Active conversations where someone might see it.

omeN666 · 15/10/2007 13:38

LMT see on another thread you went to JMU are you still in the area as the Liverpool lot are fab!!

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LittleMissTroubled · 15/10/2007 13:39

thanks omeN666!

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littleNonSpecificHolidaylapin · 15/10/2007 13:39

Yup, be remorseless. Bump bump bump!

Welcome to MN anyway. Maybe we should form a "geek cleek" - there's quite a few of us techy types about! Just answer one or two of the "argh my laptop's on fire" questions and you'll be eternally loved!

Original poster
LittleMissTroubled · 15/10/2007 13:40

yes im still in liverpool, born and bred here, i work in Manchester, planning to move to the lakes one day where its quiet

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MaryAnnSingletomb · 15/10/2007 13:40

yes, agree with bobsmum - just bump your post to get it noticed ! I've been here for ages in various guises and it has sometimes felt that people know each other really well and I'd felt a bit out of it, but you need to persist and you'll soon find that you'll get recognised ! welcome btw !

Flamesparrow · 15/10/2007 13:41

You slot in aftr a while