To say third marriages....

[PinkAndFabulous]

Are nothing to be ashamed of?

Agree. But it is a bit when someone on a third or more marriage wants the Massive wedding, white frock and loads of gifts.

I think it depends on how fast you are going through spouses. Likewise cohabiting with someone.

Other than that, no.

I don't think I'd bother getting married if it meant I'd be on my 3rd. But I wouldn't care if someone else wanted to do that.

I don't know how seriously I'd take the wedding though. I love seeing people commit to eachother, say their vows, have their first dance, etc. It loses authenticity when it's the 3rd rodeo.

As someone who has been married twice (one ExH, current one should last ) I've always said one you can say was a mistake, by the second divorce there's a common denominator.

Not ashamed, no, but if I were sitting in the pew at at a third wedding of someone twice-divorced I would probably mentally give them 5 years.

"ashamed", no, but also I think someone entering a third marriage shouldn't be too offended by any good natured eye-rolling that they encounter when passing on the happy news.

When it comes to a third would-be spouse I'd recommend a good long stretch of cohabitation before tying the knot, unless I suppose the couple are going to have children together?

Personally if I was ever to divorce my DH I don't think I'd be able to remarry. I wouldn't want to be the woman that's had 3 weddings. One was stressful enough!

Me and DH are both on our third marriages. 20 years and still going strong. And nope, not remotely ashamed.

Currently 5 years into marriage 4...
Nobody should comment on anyone's personal circumstances imo..

I think 3 is pretty ridiculous. Very poor decision making unless you're unfortunate enough to be widowed twice. (In which case- surely you're a suspect by now.)

I know someone who has been married 3 times.
I don;t know what happened with the first guy, They had kids and bought a house together and have remained good friends and good co-parents (her ex has been married 3 times too actually)
Second guy turned out to be gay. He was in denial, married her hoping to change and it didn't work
Third guy is a friend she had in her teens that turned up in her life again. They seem to be happy.
She had a white wedding each time.

Is that you Meghan?

I suppose it shows the triumph of hope over experience.

Yep, big white weddings for 3rd marriages are pretty tragic. I mean it’s a bit eyebrow raising for a second marriage. Depending on circumstances, I guess if you are widowed it’s slightly different, but the whole white dress etc is supposed to hint at a virgin bride. I was pregnant at my wedding and thought better of a white dress.

By all means get hitched but making everyone cough up for yet another fancy outfit, present, or stay in a posh hotel for your third attempt at a ‘once in a lifetime’ big day is really pushing it. A quiet registry office do will do just the same job. And perhaps if you think the ‘big day’ is more important than that, then that’s probably a clue as to why you’re on marriage number 3...

@Callipygion 😂 😂 😂

@TrollTheRespawnJeremy

I think 3 is pretty ridiculous. Very poor decision making unless you're unfortunate enough to be widowed twice. (In which case- surely you're a suspect by now.)

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My mum is on her third. One dead, one divorced.. we’re almost certain she will make it to six!

I don’t think I’d attend the wedding, vows are meant for life and I enjoy seeing people make that commitment. Doesn’t seem t mean the same or have the same feel when it’s done numerous times to me.

There are many reasons why someone has multiple marriages. It is way above my scope of practice and sit in judgement. One of my Aunts jas been married 7 times. 2 times with the same guy. Yes she did have at least 1 child with each of them. Her next wedding is in January

My dad has been married 4 times. At the 4th I remember saying to my sister that I don’t think this will be the last one. It was a big white wedding in a church

Nothing to be ashamed of at all, however I admit when someone is on their 5th, 6th, etc, marriage, I do think WTAF.

Wouldn't want that for me personally, from what I hear one divorce is enough stress!

I think a lot depends on the life cards your dealt with.

@Callipygion

Is that you Meghan?

Gosh aren't you droll. Or maybe something in a rhyming manner.

I'm on my first marrage but his 3rd. No1 was a mutual decision to split, they are still friends. No2 she was abusive and he eventually found the strength to leave.
We've been married 11 years now, and have a child together. Small wedding, just close family and friends.

First time I was 16, he was an abuser lasted 8months

Second time I was 25, he was controlling, lasted 29yrs

Will be getting married next year, he is the person I have been searching for