To say third marriages....

[PinkAndFabulous]

Are nothing to be ashamed of?

Vows are meant to be for life, till death do you part, so if you’re doing them again they’re totally pointless.

I can only assume you’re bored and looking for attention.

I had a really low key wedding (still married, first and hopefully only marriage)

It was my DH second marriage, they had a really big wedding. It's never been my thing, I never wanted a big wedding nor a party but DH wanted a party so that's what we did.

Should I get married a second or third time, it will be a registry office followed by a meal with my new DH and child.

That said, I quite like my current DH and would like to keep him lol.

@Readandwalk

They just like parties.

Why so nasty?

Try reading the thread.

My DSis and her DH had both been married before. My DSis’s first marriage had been abusive and his XW had left him to raise their DS as a single dad. They’re both really happy, she was the main carer for her DSS (though his mum did become more involved again later) and they’ve had 3 DC together.

Second marriages can work really well, and can mean a happy ending for a couple who have both had their fingers burned in the past.

To be honest unless it's death after standing up in front of all my family twice promising to be with someone for as long as we both shall live and then one or both parties reneging on it. I would probably give up on marriage. Certainly i wouldn't expect any of the guest to believe any of the vows.

@SuzieQQQ

Why on earth you would get married for a third time is beyond me. Even second marriages to me are pointless.

Perhaps if you took the time to read thread, instead of rushing in with your nasty opinion, you'd know why people get married a third time. Heaven knows you might also stop being so judgemental.

My Mother is happily married to her second husband which is actually a third wife for my Step-Father. They are very happy and I would say marry as many times as you like!

Nobody WANTS to be married more than once

Lots of people marry when they aren't terribly serious about staying together for ever. I know someone six times married, they clearly wanted to married more than once.

Don't you just get to a point where you realise that marriage is not for you, or that theres no point to it?

I don't think I'd get married again if mine didn't last. I went into my marriage with the hope it will last forever and for me personally that is the point of it. I would wonder why someone would repeatedly get married if nothing had worked out before, but really it's no one's business but theirs and people have all different kinds of circumstances.

I couldn't be less bothered if I tried about how many times people marry.

I do dislike people who expect their guests/bridal party to spend huge sums of money to attend their wedding - whether it is the first wedding or the tenth!!

the wows can simply be

I do solemnly declare that I know not of any lawful impediment why I (name) may not be joined in matrimony to (name)

I call upon these persons here present to witness that I (name) do take thee (name) to be my lawful wedded wife (or husband)

No to death do us part or best friend ever... wows like that will be true as they are spoken even if spoken for the 80th time if that person is free to marry.

Nobody WANTS to be married more than once

Some people will. There's probably some people addicted to having weddings, like how some people are addicted to being pregnant. But realistically in both cases, you should be speaking to someone to work on the addiction before it ends badly.

Not something to be ashamed off but definitely not something to be proud off either 😅. Youve already done it.twice. and it failed. Why do it all again. The track record of marrying the wrong person is already to big. Dont need to add to that

Gets a bit sad really ..
And a 4th or 5th marriage? ?😂 that is bizarre. Tacky and just.. wrong. Marriage is a joke to them.nothing sacres about it. Just a way of making their relationship 'facebook official' ... smh

A good friend of mine had her first husband have an affair with their next door neighbour, and he ended up leaving her and her DC. Her second husband sexually abused her teenage DD. Both times she thought it would be for life. I would hate to think of her being judged if she were to choose to marry for a third time.

The judgemental comments on this thread really have saddened me. Everyone's life story is different.

Nobody WANTS to be married more than once

Obviously lots do given the large weddings I’ve seen where it’s not a first marriage.

I can only assume you’re bored and looking for attention.

UsernameNeverAvailable Nope, just have a different opinion to you.

How sad that so many people appear not to have read the thread. I can't think of any other reason for the very judgemental attitudes and assumptions that anyone on second or subsequent marriages are automatically divorced. This is despite the number if people who have posted about being widowed.
I know several people who are on their third marriages. One has been widowed twice - one after only 6 months of marriage in her mid 20s, and then her second husband killed in a road accident after seven years of marriage. Another was married for 20 years before her husband died and her second husband turned out to be a bigamist. The only person I know with two divorces behind her has recently married again. First husband decided he wanted a younger wife when he hit middle age. No2 ? Suffice to say I don't think any MNer would reasonably expect her to remain married to a man who turned out to be a danger to any children in the family. I truly hope that this marriage is the one.

It depends. Friend had an advise 1st marriage very young, then 2nd marriage they guy turned into complete twat once kids arrived. 3rd partner is lovely and they have kids together but she says she wont get married again even though he would love to

Advise - abusive

Third marriage ,perfectly happy 15 years now ,my soul mate . First and second marriages 7 years and 14 years First marriage he was abusive and controlling ,second marriage online gaming and wanting to go on fetish sites.I am very lucky to find someone who puts me first and adores me. Did I not deserve a 3 chance .

I know someone on their 5th marriage, and heading for divorce. I go to every wedding but have to admit I wonder how long this one will last.
3rd marriage I wouldn't bat a eyelid. Nothing to be ashamed of, whatever makes people happy.

@Sunnydaysstillhere

Currently 5 years into marriage 4... Nobody should comment on anyone's personal circumstances imo..

Spot on

If anything this thread is proof positive that people who've been divorced twice should be judged harder, not less.

The typical story seems to be 2x abusive relationships, then finally marrying the white knight who comes to save them. We're supposed to feel this is a happy ending?

But who bore the scars of those terrible abusive men? Their children. So after putting their children through an awful abusive childhood, these women don't even have the decency to safeguard their inheritance. No they immediately hand it away to the first non obvious twat who buys them a bunch of flowers then run back down the aisle to play the virgin bride. Disgusting.

The problem with being a "romantic" and "loving love" is the poor children who have to live with the disrupted and unstable childhoods but it doesn't surprise me that people who have had three, four, five marriages fail are inherently selfish. These women only care about themselves.

I think third marriages are a bit embarrassing to be honest. If you can’t get it right the first two times it doesn’t bode well for the third does it?

Currently 5 years into marriage 4...
Nobody should comment on anyone's personal circumstances imo

Four?? Honestly why keep doing it?