To wonder why there are so many posts about how shit being a mum is?

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I get there will always be people struggling, and things like PND play a big part. But everything is so doom and gloom and everyone on here seems to despise being a mum. Am I the only one who thinks it's not that bad, more the best thing I've ever done? Why do people find this so boring and I find it amazing? And that is with having PND for 3 months after ds was born

People aren't allowed an opinion or circumstance different from your own?

Also, a thread about a thread... YABU.

Because this is a place where people can have a rant and complain without any real life come back?

Sometimes we all just need to have a good old complain!

It's because if you're happy and content in life then you're unlikely to go on the internet and write all about it. If, however, you're having a rough day where you're thinking "why did I sign up for this?!", ranting on the internet is a normal (and reasonably healthy) way to vent your frustration.

I think most people aren’t disputing that they find it amazing. But it’s also acknowledging that it’s very hard at times, and it can be monotonous at certain stages.

Sometimes people find it helpful to share they’re having trouble so they know they’re not alone.

It’s great you have very positive experiences. But you aren’t the blue print, and everyone will have a different life and feelings.

The thing about life is every one experiences it differently and every one is different... Good job really.

I don’t know, but the one at the moment, it seems to be that there is a husband issue that’s making it so difficult. Being a single parents or someone whose partner does nothing makes it feel much worse.

But I noticed during lockdown, many people desperate to get the kids back to school (funnily enough these were mostly the stay at home parents) and also the same group who always moan and hate the summer / school holidays.

Yes it is a hard relentless slog and there are times i feel resentful for my lost freedom. But on the whole I think my kids are smashing and I absolutely loved the last six months being with them every day and I always look forward to the school holidays and try and have as much annual leave with them as possible.

I think when you are feeling down in the dumps everything feels very permanent and difficult.

YABU. You know full well you are not the only person who enjoys being a mum.

The only part I don't like about having children is the school run which I have been doing for 15 years! Only 3 years to go!

Depends what type of home set up you have how much support, how maternal you are, how happy you are to do kids things (I for one find playing with children mind numbingly boring), what kind of children you have, your mental health etc. Not everyone has a lovely time of it. Not everyone enjoys it. If find it odd that you can't understand that.

If people are getting on well they're not very likely to post because there's no reason t

As a pp said, people don't usually come on here to say how wonderful everything is.

And if they do, they get accused of being smug.

I love being a mum, I just don't feel the need to boast about it by posting a thread.

People posting the threads you're talking about are doing so because they need some friendly support from other parents.

I blame lockdown. I’m your stereotypical positive, active, doing things mum and even my smile was a bit stretched after four months of trying to home school while wfh. We’re all frazzled and most of us haven’t had any kind of break and that includes the dc. Parents need to go easy on each other because nobody else is at the moment!

Yeah this year has been really really fucking tough on parents and, as usual, mothers in particular. Lots of have been juggling working from home with childcare and home schooling and now the kids are finally back to school and the prospect of schools closing again is starting to loom. Don't even know what the mums who can't work from home are going to do, that's even worse.

Because for many of us, it is shit!

• because there's a global pandemic and any existing issues you may have like an unsupportive spouse or a mh issue are intensified

• because it's becoming less taboo to talk about the negatives

• because parenting is a marathon not a sprint and most people have stages they enjoy and stages they find harder

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Yanbu. I feel sorry for the kids to be honest. They've got only one childhood and are at the mercy of their parent's. I've had certain difficulties and challenges in parenting but I've never regretted being a parent or tried to do the best for my kids. People here are moaning about being bored with parenting. We should be grateful, some parents are watching their kids starving across the world and would do anything to be in our positions. You've got one chance to get your kids childhood right. Even if you are poor or a single parent if you care about your child you can make something good for them. You can love them and see something good in your life. Who can live with themselves if their children grow up and look back on their childhood and feel it wasn't special in anyway?

I guess no one really knows what it’s like until they actually have children. It’s not like you can give them back . Not everyone will enjoy the same things.

My children are brilliant, I love them. I just hate parenting. In general the people who enjoy it more are those with more compliant children. I got children who you have to say no to at least 5 times. They have to be nagged to do everything, it’s a massive fucking day to day grind. My best friend has a child who naturally does everything first or second time around, it’s no wonder she enjoys it more!

^^this

Because you get ripped apart for saying anything is remotely good in your life.

Wrong post. I agree with Spinakker