Flatmate’s hygiene

[rainyday03]

I had a new flat mate move in a few days ago. They haven’t showered since being here. Whenever they use the bathroom it smells of unwashed person. They’re also a bit messy but I’ve overlooked that so far because I’m a clean freak. But I’m really struggling with the fact that my home now smells of dirty smelly person! When you walk past their room it smells even more strongly. Is there anything I can do to broach this or make it better without being rude? :(

So..any updates?

The flat is smelling really bad now and I need to raise it with her soon as I feel a bit sick when I am in here now, forever lighting candles etc. I’m going to draw up a cleaning rota and maybe mention it then

Has she still not showered op?

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I find it hard to believe someone smells that much after a few days.

My daughter stinks after less than one day. We have an ongoing investigation regarding her hormones. She’s 21 and I feel so sorry for her because it’s a really horrible and powerful smell. She showers twice daily.

@rainyday03

The flat is smelling really bad now and I need to raise it with her soon as I feel a bit sick when I am in here now, forever lighting candles etc. I’m going to draw up a cleaning rota and maybe mention it then

Unless she is doing explosive Cross Fit in her room, I simply dont believe that the flatmate, nor the flat smells this bad after a few days. I think you are projecting your own "neat freak" tendencies into the situation and causing far more drama than is reasonable here.

Your statement that she isn't brushing her teeth/ washing etc just because you haven't seen her, or her paraphernalia, in the bathroom is absurd. Perhaps she brushes her teeth in the room with bottled water. Its dental advice these days not to spit out the toothpaste etc, so a sink isn't really a "must-have".

Stop being so dramatic and leave the flatmate alone. Stop assuming people are filthy, smelly and disgusting if they don't make an elaborate show of their daily routine to you.

@FatBottomedGurl - it's totally reasonable to believe this! If someone has bad hygiene, it doesn't take long for clothes, sheets, towels to all smell. You know that smell of unwashed bodies? It's so disgustingly pervasive. There was a guy in work who didn't wash his clothes properly, I used to have to avoid him when he was in the kitchen as everything would smell, it was so bloody offputting.

I don't think the OP is assuming anything, the smell is the problem!!!

Print this off and leave it for her to read:

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-8807291/Woman-reveals-shes-struggling-new-flat-mates-body-odour.html

Honestly, the Mail takes the biscuit. Yes, a good idea to leave the article lying around if the op can get hold of a copy.

People, their clothes and surroundings do smell bad after a couple of days of not washing properly; the flat mate shows a total lack of respect for the op.

It doesn't seem fair to ask the op to move (though I think she might if the situation is not resolved), she was there first and has made it her home.

@SBTLove

Only on MN have I come across this; new flatmate you’ve never met and just turns up, very odd. Every flat I’ve shared or known of the main tenant finds the flatmate or replacement not some random shoved in by landlord.

Actually I have friends who live in shared houses and the landlords have found people to replace others that have left, without the tenants knowing or being able to vet who they are. This is very common.

I can't believe you still haven't said anything to her 😂

Good luck OP

[quote SlopesOff]Print this off and leave it for her to read:

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-8807291/Woman-reveals-shes-struggling-new-flat-mates-body-odour.html[/quote]
Can Mumsnet HQ not do something about the fucking mail making stories out of posts? I know some of the posts on here are redic. But this op has posted looking for advice. This is just gross and preditory of the mail. I hope whoever 'writes' these stories is proud of their shitty job.