Mum says she wishes she never had children as 'life was better without them'

[toothfairy73]

I have just seen this headline in a Newspaper. A anonymous mum has written this letter stating the above.

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What are your thoughts? I'm sure we have all had moments where we miss our old lives. It sounds like it is written by someone deeply unhappy and in need of some support. AIBU to think this is someone who is desperate for a bit of time alone and some support?What do you think?

I worked in psychiatric hospitals for 10 years with children and adolescents who had tried to kill themselves and can tell you this is not uncommon. Some are horrible enough to tell their children which is abusive and disgusting, but I also worked with a lot of families where it was clear that the parents were not really interested in their kids and missed their old lives. This kind of letter pops up every few years (I remember one in a womens magazine about 20 years ago). It is a good idea to think really carefully before you have kids and I wish more people read stuff like this before they tried.

I have never once regretted having dc, even briefly. Well, maybe while I was in labour, but never since! Being a mum has been incredibly rewarding for me.

However, my very good friend really regrets it. She is a great mum, and I'm sure her kids don't realise, but if she had her time again, she wouldn't have them.

I suspect it's quite common to feel like this.

My mother always tells me what a bad child I was and is currently giving me the silent treatment. It has been on and off silent treatment for my whole entire life.

I used to think it was me that was the problem but now I imagine myself as a lovely baby and a lovely child and know she's sick.

My life was definitely easier without a kid but I don't regret having one, I think it's the best thing that has ever happened to me (just not the easiest!)

@user1493413286

I think it depends what you measure life by; before children I had more sleep, my career was better, more money and I was in some ways a nicer person because I was less tired and had more time for people but since having children I am more content in my life and I have a lot more fun. I also think that for a lot of people their life may have been better without children but once you have that urge to have children then your life is no longer better without them because it’s deeply painful to want children and not be able to have them

People can and do get over it.

I am a 48 yr old woman, has taken all the degrees I have wanted, love my work in health care, has travelled all over the world, single, hikers and kayaks every weekend and would love to raise a healthy little child. If you know anyone who is looking to put their little one up for adoption and could connect us, i would be overjoyed!
Open to a conversation on how that could look.