AIBU to feel a bit funny about DH's comment

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This has been in my head all day and it may have been an off the cuff remark. Last night, DH and I were heading out for some (socially distanced) drinks with his friends. I was wearing a low cut dress and tights. When I came downstairs after getting dressed, DH said I looked fantastic but asked me to change. I asked why and he said 'because you look very booby and they're mine'. I laughed, thinking he was joking, but he just looked at me. I changed for an easy life and nothing else was said about it. AIBU to feel a bit funny about his comment? BTW, very happily married, sometimes he makes comments about what I'm wearing e.g. 'that's very bright and colourful, just like you' but nothing like this.

YABU - it was a joky comment, get over it
YANBU - it's your body, dress as you want

I’d be wearing that outfit for the next week, tbh.

I changed for an easy life
So he would have made life difficult if you hadnt? Thats key here. How would he react if you said no?

I’d have ripped his head off, the patriarchal wanker.

I would have answered actually they’re mine. And went out in the dress.
I would never change my clothes because of a comment from DH.

You shouldn’t have changed. It’s worrying that you felt that you had to.

Wear what you want to wear Op.

What a strange tale.

His boobies! Good grief. You are absolutely definitely certainly NBU.

My Dh would never make a comment like that. I think he was really rude and cheeky especially telling you to get changed you should’ve kept the dress on and not got changed. He sounds controlling and abusive does he tell you what else to do or is he just controlling over your clothes.

I like the option to veto DHs outfit and I’d give him the same option. But I think that’s probably if one of us missed the mark a little and looked horrendous? It’s not something we’ve ever really done but I have politely suggested a different pair of shoes, for example. So your husband saying he didn’t like your outfit isn’t a hard no, but “they’re mine”? Fucking awful IMO.

Could you have laughed, called him a silly prick and gone out or would he have got upset/angry/pissed off if you didn't change?

One is a silly comment, not funny but not offensive, the other is a red flag.

If its a joke, fine. I don't know why you got changed though...

Can't believe you actually got changed!

Dress for you. Not for your husband.

This clearly isn't the first comment, or you wouldn't have known you'd have to change for an easy life.

He doesn't own you, your body is yours and if you want to wear a boobie dress, where the boobie dress.

No chance I would have changed. I would have tod him "no they are mine, and don't ever think otherwise"

I’d be wearing that outfit for the next week, tbh
Same.
I would not have settled for an easy life as ut makes life harder in the long run.
You should have cut the convo dead there and then and wore your dress.
His boobs indeed! Pah!!!!
Tosser!

I can't believe you actually changed

I’d have taken the rights of and pulled the boobs up as far as they’d go.

*tights

You shouldn't have changed. In what other ways is he controlling?

Will also add that in my relationship we can say to each other, thats a bit too much cleavage for the occasion, or such, but DH would never make that comment.

You changed for an easy life? That's really something you had to consider? Sounds to me as though you deal with a lot of controlling behaviour from him.

The fact that you changed speaks volumes. There’s no way you would have changed if this was the first time anything of this kind had happened.

If dh said this to me I’d laugh - but if he for one second meant it seriously we’d be having the holy mother of rows and I definitely wouldn’t be changing!

7% have voted yabu I would like to hear their opinions.
I would definitely have worn the dress. My dh will tell me honestly if an outfit doesn't work but would never expect me to change because of cleavage.