DH's "DVD day" whilst looking after our baby twins

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Last weekend I went out for the afternoon for the first time since having twins 6 months ago. DH said he was going to have a "DVD day" whilst looking after the babies. I just chuckled to myself, and thought I'd let him work out for himself what an afternoon looking after two 6 month olds actually involves

Anyway, for some reason he posted a Facebook status about it and one of our friends made a really nasty comment basically saying what terrible parents we must be, having the TV on all day and "ignoring" the babies. This led to a bit of an argument between me and DH. I was pretty embarrassed that he'd put the status, especially when a DVD day is the last thing I'd be doing if I was in charge of them. I do think it's bad parenting. But on the other hand I also think the friend was way out of line. DH says that of course the babies' needs come first and, needless to say, his DVD marathon did not happen anyway. The DVDs he tried to watch were nothing gory/violent/inappropriate.

A week later I still feel really annoyed at both DH and the friend.

YANBU - Friend was right and DH was being a terrible parent
YABU - DH is right and attempting a DVD day at the weekend is ok

On the plus side, DH now knows I don't sit around watching TV all day while he's at work

Having twins is difficult and at 6 months you are really in the thick of it. You are stressed and tired. I am a twin parent plus 1. You will have to develop a thick skin. A couple of comments came out - that your husband would know that you don't just sit around all day doing nothing and worried about what this friend has said. This is worth exploring.

We didn't do TV with ours. It was easier and we were out a lot, but I wouldn't worry what others say. Find your path and trust what you are doing. If you believe your husband does not support you, this is a bigger issue, which does not sound like that is true.

Your ‘friend’ is an absolute arsehole calling your DH out like that on a public forum. I bet that everyone who read that comment thought it said more about the ‘friend’ than you or your DH.

Bet your friend is one of those #makingmemories performance parents who aren’t actually that great at parenting off social media or when an audience isn’t around.

Anyway why was the mummy martyr ‘friend’ stalking people on Facebook instead of staring at her babies all day? Have your DHs back and call her out for being on social media instead of parenting her kids. Rude woman.

I don’t think it’s either as regards the Facebook post. Rather, why are you still annoyed about this a week later?

He learned that a DVD day wasn’t possible , which you wanted him to. You agreed with the friend that it’s bad parenting IF that had happened (which it didn’t). So why are you still annoyed?

How old is your husband ? I’d be more annoyed his posting pointless shit on Facebook !

Haha I spent my life in front of the television when mine was 6 months old... but she slept ALL the time.