AIBU to think that women don't want Cock Shots

[GreyShadow]

Just been chatting online to a potential date about cock shots, and he said loads of women ask for them on OLD.

I expressed surprise and said in my experience as a women and my also my friends, most women don't appreciate a doc pic.

Well obviously he's mansplained it to me, and many women do enjoy cock shots (apparently)

Am I so wrong? I would assume anyone wanting a dic pic was one of the online scammers and "normal" OLD women certainly DO NOT want pictures of penises in their inbox!

Am I wrong. Do some women actually want dic pics?

Right, Desperado, no one on here can or should invalidate your experiences. However, just as MN may not be a representative sample of humanity it may be that women who initiate an exchange of explicit pictures are equally not a representation of all womankind.
It's a bit like saying that all blue eyed people like eating chips because you know several blue eyed people who love chips.

For what it's worth, I hate dick pics. Not the image of the penis but the assumption that I will find it sexy because that signals to me that the sender hopes to have sex with me without finding much out about me and that's a nope in my book.

Unsolicited genital pictures out of context are a criminal offense. Its indecent exposure.

However, just as MN may not be a representative sample of humanity it may be that women who initiate an exchange of explicit pictures are equally not a representation of all womankind

Very true. But he's never said that! (Unless I've missed something). They're just assuming he has to have a go at him.

Yet other people have stated here that no women ever like them, as if they speak on behalf of all women. Which is bollocks.

Desperado it's not that hard.

Most women don't want dick pics. This thread has shown that with almost every reply confirming that except slappaplek.

Our lived experience, as women, is that other women we know don't want them. Unsolicited dick pics are an offence which is a bit of a clue about how much we love receiving them.

You seem to have had experience with people who either want them, or say they want them. Fine. That does not make them generally desirable. It's not that hard to understand that your experience is not reflective of the majority feeling amongst women.

I know you have your fragile masculinity to contend with, and that hearing that women actually don't like something you think is sexy is difficult, but it's the truth. Stop trying to respond as though we're all lying about what we want. We're trying to tell you, perhaps you should listen.

It says it all about how little many men consider female sexual experience. Many don't know what women like or how they get off, they just assume that a big willy (the thing men desire to own most) will be what women get off on.

Most women don't want dick pics. This thread has shown that with almost every reply confirming that except slappaplek

Untrue. A fair few others on here have said they like them during sexy talk.

I agree with a PP, if I was have a steamy chat with a guy I would MUCH rather see a picture of his torso. I dunno, it's just sexier isn't it, depending on the torso I guess.

Dicks just aren't attractive, even when you love the person it's attached to, never mind some random on the internet.

Or if things got really saucy, maybe even a pant bulge. But not an actual penis. Ugh.

@LonelySpider

I absolutely agree with you. Much more attractive.

Let’s face it, penises are ugly af why would you need a photo of one? Men are very proud of them though

Quite honestly I've been weight criticised so much by men on OLD I'm thinking of asking for dick pics then replying, sorry not big enough. Needs to be bigger before I will consider a date with you.

Thank you, Dizzy, just what I always wanted to see. Not! grin One looks pretty much like another after all.

Sadly, as a woman of formidable (previous) experience this isn’t true. The “they are all pretty much the same” trope is a lie.

I am too old and too married for dic pics but back in my Wild Youth there was an inverse relationship between the quality of the package and how much the man went on about his cock.

I wonder if that’s true for cock shots? Those who truly have the goods don’t need to advertise in advance.

Men love their penises, I think they genuinely think women do too and they have no awareness of how gross they look out of context. I wonder if gay men have different views about the images?

The only cock shot I've had is when I was a teenager and some bloke accidently (#bs) dropped a photo of his cock and being the helpful sort I said "excuse me, you've dropped this..". Then he showed me. He must have been before his Time!
A man's least attractive feature is his dick imo. I'm not sure what you're supposed to say? "Well done?", "wow that's so big?", "what IS that?". It may as well be a photo of a hairy belly button for all the excitement a picture of a willy would give me.

Men love their penises, I think they genuinely think women do too and they have no awareness of how gross they look out of context. I wonder if gay men have different views about the images?

Oh this. So this.

@nolongersurprised

Sorry, I was being tongue in cheek and responding to the poster who made the comparison with her cat bringing her socks. So it wasn't meant in a serious way.

But for me, a man's penis on its own, even erect, isn't a turn on in itself, it just isn't. It's about the man whose willy it is who I find attractive or not. A willy on its own is, well, just a willy.

And we do say things people want to hear. Like when our DC show them their drawings and we praise them profusely. It doesn't mean that we think it's a masterpiece that qualifies for the Tate.

“a fair few”?! You must be on a different thread Slap. It’s a glaringly small minority and of the small few who are happy to receive them it’s clear that there’s been previous mutual sexual “relationship” either by actually having met or sexting and the women in question ask for them. No one has said “I AM HAPPY TO RECEIVE UNSOLICITED DICK PICS FROM A MAN I DO NOT YET KNOW”

And even in a relationship I’d find it a massive turn off tbh.

Some men genuinely think that women are turned on by the sight of a penis. Really. They think that we get wet and hot by looking at a dick. I guess it's because they get hard looking at pictures of naked women (or bits of naked women) and they lack the imagination to understand that that's not how most women's minds work.

I'm not saying No Woman Ever wanted a dick shot. I'm sure there are women who do find them erotic. But a quick read of this thread should be a head's up (sorry!) that MOST women find unsolicited dick shots the most unerotic things in the world, followed by sink plungers and sick bowls.

In context, during sexting, I'm sure receiving a dick shot is fun.

But without asking, out of context and with no build up? Nope.

No one has said “I AM HAPPY TO RECEIVE UNSOLICITED DICK PICS FROM A MAN I DO NOT YET KNOW

That's not what the OP asked. She asked:
Do some women actually want dic pics?

I find it depressing that young women having their first experiences on the dating scene are at the receiving end of vile unsolicited dick pics. I also find it depressing that young men believe this to be something that turns women on and somehow impresses. I hate to think this could somehow be normalised and women feeling pressured to act as though they are happy to receive them.

@NameChange84

COCK SHOTS?!

Is that what they are calling it now? I thought it was dick pics? And from your subject title had a horrifying image of a line of semen filled shot glasses. I don’t want those or dick pics, no.

🤣 😂 🤣 😂 🤣

My first thoughts seeing the subject - that it was either an alcoholic drink or a sex act of some sort! I'm of an age where it was known as 'dick pic'

This thread has gone way off track.

I suggest some of you reread the op and rethink what you are posting

@Desperado24

This thread has gone way off track.

I suggest some of you reread the op and rethink what you are posting

I think you'll find that's how discussion groups work and one point can lead to a different one. We are not robots that are programmed to answer one question believe it or not.

@Desperado24

This thread has gone way off track.

I suggest some of you reread the op and rethink what you are posting

That's called 'conversation'.

Have you never started off asking about the late 8.45 to Macclesfield and ended up chatting about how your shower doesn't drain properly?

This thread going off-track is exactly why I like spending time with women.

They're so much more fun than men.

When I first met DH, we were in a LDR for a few years and I remember him asking if it would turn me on to receive a dick pic. He had it in his head as a fantasy that I would get so turned on by sight of said dick that I would have to go into the nearest toilet and wank off.

You will be glad to hear that I swiftly put him right. I like my DH's dick very much but during the day when I'm working/cleaning/doing childcare and other non sexually related activities, I really am not interested.

Sadly I suspect that some women on OLD pretend to like dick pics as they want to keep the men interested/happy.

Maybe the women who pretend to like dick pics from strangers are the women who will end up faking orgasms?