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to think heels are now out of fashion for teens/young adults?

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everwork · 25/08/2020 13:43

Please say I'm right! I think heels are dated weapons of misogyny!

Phew, that feels better:

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curlycat · 25/08/2020 13:46

My DD 20 and her friends never wear heels now. Lovely dresses with cons or chunky boots!

FinnyStory · 25/08/2020 13:47

Yes, I love that young women "dress up" now in lovely outfits with trainers.

I work with troubled teens and "inappropriate" clothing for the girls is a continuous issue but they don't wear heels, ever. No matter how tight or revealing the outfit is, trainers or sliders.

tiredanddangerous · 25/08/2020 13:48

Yes! I'm sure they'll come back in again at some point but having spent my teens/twenties teetering about on heels I'm quite jealous!

ilikebooksandplants · 25/08/2020 13:49

Yes, and I for one could not be more glad they’re out of fashion.

Give me a nice flat any day of the week!

everwork · 25/08/2020 13:50

@tiredanddangerous

Yes! I'm sure they'll come back in again at some point but having spent my teens/twenties teetering about on heels I'm quite jealous!
Me too! I would have LOVED to go clubbing in trainers
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FinnyStory · 25/08/2020 13:51

As an aside, have fancy places adjusted their dress codes accordingly?

In my day, even places where dress was fairly casual would have a no trainers rule and I still find myself wondering if it will cause a problem when dressing for the kind of day out that may end up in a fancy restaurant.

Yesterdayforgotten · 25/08/2020 13:52

So much better for their feet, I would have loved to have worn flats instead of the stupid shoes I wore on nights out when I was younger, not sure my outfits would have gone with them though!

InDeoEstMeaFiducia · 25/08/2020 13:52

My teenage DD has never worn heels and never intends to. She has loads of cool trainers and boots.

JaJaDingDong · 25/08/2020 13:55

I think heels are out of fashion for all age groups aren't they? Thank God!

I've never worn heels, and I've never seen my mid-20s DDs wear them either.

RegularHumanBartender · 25/08/2020 13:57

As an aside, have fancy places adjusted their dress codes accordingly

We were in a fairly fancy couple of bars on Friday and Saturday night, in Chester. Virtually all the young women were dressed in going out gear, with trainers/flats. It was women my age who were the ones tottering around in heels like we have always done, and thinking, could I really have worn my fucking flats?!!

seayork2020 · 25/08/2020 13:59

I have never wore them (well a small heel for my wedding) I don't like the look of them and they don't look comfortable at all

ShirleyPhallus · 25/08/2020 13:59

As an aside, have fancy places adjusted their dress codes accordingly?

Some have, but not enough according to Jess Glynne

www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-8497111/amp/Jess-Glynne-reveals-discriminated-against-based-attire-Londons-Sexy-Fish.html

everwork · 25/08/2020 14:00

@RegularHumanBartender

As an aside, have fancy places adjusted their dress codes accordingly

We were in a fairly fancy couple of bars on Friday and Saturday night, in Chester. Virtually all the young women were dressed in going out gear, with trainers/flats. It was women my age who were the ones tottering around in heels like we have always done, and thinking, could I really have worn my fucking flats?!!

Exactly, I think heels are for my mum's generation, and maybe the older half of mine.

I live and work in London too and no one, bar no one gets on the tube in heels unless they're not from round here!

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Initforthecake1980 · 25/08/2020 14:00

You see, I would never wear them out & about in the day, but I quite like a pair of heels with a smart outfit at work or going out (as long as no long walks involved).

HellsBills · 25/08/2020 14:06

Maybe I'm just old but when I was a teen in the early 90s no one ever wore heels, it was all trainers or dresses with DM boots.

AntsInPenzance · 25/08/2020 14:07

Aside from the rare instance of corporate dress policy, women wearing heels is entirely their own choice. 99% of men either wouldn't notice or care if a woman wore flats. Most men don't even care what shoes they wear.

Chrispackhamspoodle · 25/08/2020 14:11

No heels when I was a teen/early 20s in the nineties either.Then again my teen is wearing the same 90s clothes as I wore then..DMS,little dresses,Jean's,combats,little tops ,hoodies and trainers.Heels were not cool in the crowd I hung out with.

Laiste · 25/08/2020 14:13

@RegularHumanBartender

I agree it's quite aging to be in high heels nowadays.

However - the shops are still full of them and a lot (if not most) of the photos of models modeling clothes still show the outfits with heels.

I used to be in 5'' stilettos for every occasion. And i still think certain outfits look better with heels as they lengthen your legs.

Yes to the comfy flats though. Perhaps bunions will consigned to the history books soon Grin

CountFosco · 25/08/2020 14:54

@HellsBills

Maybe I'm just old but when I was a teen in the early 90s no one ever wore heels, it was all trainers or dresses with DM boots.
Exactly. I only wore heels a) when my mother insisted when I was in my 20s (in the 90s) and b) for a few years in my 30s. But that soon ended and my work wardrobe is all loafers and brogues these days. And I have several pairs of fancy flats for evenings out. Heels seem very dated.
Michaelbaubles · 25/08/2020 14:57

I’m 40 and I used to wear heels to work every single day! In fact for about 10 years I didn’t own a pair of flat shoes! Now I haven’t worn heels apart from the odd occasion for a few years. In work the other day (first day back with lots of people) I noticed that two women were in heels and it seemed a very dated look (although they had nice outfits/shoes).

BadDucks · 25/08/2020 15:05

I’m in my forties and don’t think I owned a pair of flat shoes or trainers until my mid 30’s. Wore heals everyday for work even though it was never very practical. I’m flats all the way now! I think stiletto’s are very dated, can’t imagine ever buying them again.

RegularHumanBartender · 25/08/2020 15:15

I'm forty too and I still wear heels to work because I just prefer the look in a suit. They aren't comfortable though and part of me thinks I have probably been conditioned to think that I should wear them/look better in them.

I will definitely not be wearing heels on nights out in future. I end up carrying them and walking around barefoot after an hour anyway!

Yesterdayforgotten · 25/08/2020 15:26

Wedges replaced heels for nights out last time I went (not sure now) I have young dc so abit out the loop!

Waxonwaxoff0 · 25/08/2020 15:29

I'm 30 and I stopped wearing heels about 5 years ago. I hate them, so uncomfortable! I wear chunky boots on a night out.

Fairybatman · 25/08/2020 15:33

I think lockdown might bring about the demise of heels, especially stilettos. If you wear them all the time you get used to them, after a break of months most people are going to struggle to get used to them again and I bet a lot don’t bother.

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