to think heels are now out of fashion for teens/young adults?

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Please say I'm right! I think heels are dated weapons of misogyny!

Phew, that feels better:

I think the heels thing is also because people don’t really dress up anymore. The last time I really dressed up was the Christmas party. Maybe it’s different elsewhere in the UK but it’s fairly casual around here (Hampshire).

Saying that, went to New York in October and thought it’d be like Sex and the City but everyone out in bars etc was so casual I ditched the heels never the rest of the holiday and wore trainers every night. Felt like I fitted in much better.

@nestisflown

(not doubting that kitten heels look good on you but just suggesting you might not be the gatekeeper of style)

Bit bitchy. Who rattled your cage.

You like the look of them, and you feel good because of conditioning. No choice is ever made in a vacuum. But it's fine to wear what you want, but you should understand why you want to in the first place

I totally get that, I don’t believe anyone truly has free will in their actions - we are all conditioned by something. But the vibe here on this thread is that we are either unfashionable, stupid or trying to please the menfolk if we want to wear heels. This thread is full of PPs are trying to force their agenda of ‘heels should be banned’. Why? As they have pointed out, it is now acceptable to wear flats in the workplace or on a night out. If they don’t want to wear heels then they don’t have to. Why make others feel small if they do want to wear them?

I never feel that I have to wear heels. Few people at my work wear them, so I could easily get away with a more casual shoe. But I want to wear heels sometimes. On other days I might wear Birkies or loafers and no one bats an eyelid. Maybe men created the heel and forced it upon women through decades of marketing but I do feel confident that I could wear a flat alternative to any event, even a wedding, if I chose to.

Yes, I’m sure all of my fashion choices are made based on the media I consume. That’s probably the same reason I bought DMs, Birkies and Converse. No I didn’t wear heels in my house if I’m not going anywhere, I also don’t wear my trainers or hiking boots around the house. I wear slippers.

After reading this thread this morning, I arrived at work today in my bike shoes. I put the dress on that I had brought with me and looked under my desk at my work shoe collection and actually I felt sad when I picked up my beautiful heeled ankle boots because of the comments here. Normally I have the confidence to put on the footwear that I fancy, but today I wondered if other women would be looking down on me for my fashion tastes, thinking I was unfashionable, or some sort of fool who was just out to please/entice the menfolk. So much for the sisterhood.

Just look at all those tech billionaires - I love they way they give 2 fingers to the stuffed-up suit brigade

They still look shit though don’t care how many billions they’ve got

@MangoFeverDream

Just look at all those tech billionaires - I love they way they give 2 fingers to the stuffed-up suit brigade

They still look shit though don’t care how many billions they’ve got

But the point is, they are comfortable. They do not need to impress people with their clothes.

It's not just a covid thing, heels have been on the way out for a couple of years now. The last wedding I went to it was all chunky block shoes or sandals, very few women were in heels.

I think it's great and I hope they never make a comeback. They were all the rage when I was in my 20s and I hated them, I'm actually quite jealous of the kids today!

Wear whatever shoes you want.
Who gives a flying fox about what other people think.
It's quite sad on this thread that there are some women ( I'm presuming women?) are scoffing & sneering about a woman's choice of shoe!
But it's their problem not mine.

Although I love shoes, I actually prefer no shoes or socks or tights, and I hate slippers with a vengeance.
I love to feel the texture of grass/concrete/tiles/sand/earth under my feet.
In an ideal world I'd just wander about bare foot & only wear shoes if I felt like it.
And if blokes want to wear high heels, I say go for it. Fashion coming round full circle after a few hundred years.

Prise my stilettos out of my cold, dead hands!!!

I power dress for work and will NOT stop!

@SurreyHillsGirl

I walked past the Ritz in London yesterday on my way to a meeting and two very smartly dressed women were walking in.. they both had very high heels on and they looked SO dated! One of them had red soles so were obviously Louboutins but just goes to show money can't buy style.

I'm mid forties and wear flats most of the time but if I'm wearing a skirt, I will wear a kitten heel, they just give my leg more shape than flats, while not being too try hard and dated like a full on court shoe.

Says courts are dated and try hard and out of style

Wears kitten heels

LOL

The sale of heels are going down year on year and it's usually older women buying them. I don't really care what people have as somebody who works with muscular skeletal just orders I am definitely looking forward to treating this people with damaged Achilles tendons and shortened calf muscles.

@Frenchwindows but kitten heels ARE more fashionable than stilettos right now, 90s revival and all that. There's no power in heels right now, there's more power in looking more casual like you've tried less. I fully sympathise as I love my pencil skirts and heels, but have reluctantly shelved them!

[quote OverTheRubicon]@Frenchwindows but kitten heels ARE more fashionable than stilettos right now, 90s revival and all that. There's no power in heels right now, there's more power in looking more casual like you've tried less. I fully sympathise as I love my pencil skirts and heels, but have reluctantly shelved them![/quote]
Why have you shelved them if you love them? Genuine question

That's the bit I don't get. Earlier in the thread those of us who wear heels were called out as doing it for other people (i.e. men). Surely choosing what you want to wear is more powerful than anything fashion related?

It's bizarre that I'm labelled as some kind of saddo for loving heels (because I'm 5'1 and I hate being a smurf), but people following trends rather than their own wishes aren't? Baffling.

I wish newsreaders would stop wearing tall heels. It winds me up. Well I wouldn't mind if Krishnan Guru-Murphy and Jon Snow wore them, but it annoys me that Cathy Newman does.

@The80sweregreat

In the 80s the dress codes were different for any clubs and you couldn't wear jeans or trainers ( men or women) Not sure when it all changed but it is good that the heels are out now ( I didn't wear them anyway as can't balance in them!) A few of my friends have older teen girls and they seem to wear heels if it's a party photo on face book and they are clubbing ( pre lockdown) Maybe it depends on where they are going etc? Men never have these dilemmas about shoes.

@The80sweregreat - unless you were into illegal raves, then it was trainers, dungarees and smiley t-shirts all the way.

I think the heels thing is also because people don’t really dress up anymore. The last time I really dressed up was the Christmas party. Maybe it’s different elsewhere in the UK but it’s fairly casual around here (Hampshire)

I find people don't really dress up anymore either. I'm in the north-west and the only place I can think of where people, of all ages, really dress up is Liverpool.

As an aside, this thread took a weird turn...predictable but weird!

Actually not just illegal raves, just proper good clubs.

Lily Allen kicked off the trainer and dress style, trainers are so glitzy too. I draw the line at a wedding with trainer's even if they're diamante white converse.
I do believe for me wearing heels in my teens helped my posture I'm small in height but get away with it more with a straight posture.

@Emeraldshamrock

Lily Allen kicked off the trainer and dress style, trainers are so glitzy too. I draw the line at a wedding with trainer's even if they're diamante white converse. I do believe for me wearing heels in my teens helped my posture I'm small in height but get away with it more with a straight posture.

I was wearing trainers and dresses long before lily Allen was a thing. Early rave days, she was at least ten years later but had a great style

[quote OverTheRubicon]@Frenchwindows but kitten heels ARE more fashionable than stilettos right now, 90s revival and all that. There's no power in heels right now, there's more power in looking more casual like you've tried less. I fully sympathise as I love my pencil skirts and heels, but have reluctantly shelved them![/quote]
Kitten heels are definitely fashionable atm in magazines, but they look vile on me, I have very heavy calves due to overcompensation for disability.
I never think they look particularly attractive on anybody though, maybe in old model pics from the fifties / 60s but otherwise supremely unflattering

I'm 42 and have always worn what I want to wear never once given a thought about pleasing anyone else. That's meant some days I wear trainers, flats, sandals, heels (not stilettos), boots...you get the drift. We as women can wear what the hell we want; I personally don't appreciate the sneery undertone of some posters who equate a certain shoe choice with a certain age/type. We'll all be old one day (if we're ever so lucky) and fashions come and go. It's not about what you wear it's about your choice to wear what YOU want.

I used to wear heels to work but I've changed profession and have loafers and flats instead (I can say goodbye to the suits too which is great).

I find trainers a little casual for being dressed up, and I love being dressed up, but I have lots of cute sandals and flats and boots that go with dresses, so I'm still comfortable. But I am American and hate being mistaken for a tourist.

@lyralalala because I work in an industry where it's important to look current - I don't haunt Topshop any more or try to wear every new style going (cross-body bags are a hard no), but also don't want to look like the ghost of someone's mum from the 80s, which is definitely how I'd feel if I wore a power suit at my office these days...

I wear heels sometimes. Right now it's generally flats, trainers, or whatever for lots of walking.

I'm not likely to be in the office for quite some time to come, will be wfh, so heels won't be high on my list of choices for a while.

I have boots with heels, which will be out of the wardrobe when the weather has turned.

But this is also making me think about the clothes I keep for wearing at work. They're less casual than my usual clothes, so it'll be interesting to see if work places change their dress rules at all in future.

I wear heels for some height most days a wedge sandal in summer a block heel boot in winter if I'm home it is trainers.
I'm 5.2 nearly 40 I'm wearing a heel from my teen years.
I could never walk in skinny heels my balance has always been terrible.

I'm 30 and I've never worn heels. They are painful and I'm too bloody clumsy; I'm currently strapped up in a huge moon boot because I tore the ligaments in my ankle walking over a dodgy paving slab in sensible trainers last week!

I tried a couple of times for job interviews until I realised that nobody gives a shit. For my last couple of successful interviews I've worn tapered trousers, a blouse and black loafers, and a smart-casual dress, a blazer, black tights and black chelsea boots.