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Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

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whatshardknock · 20/08/2020 11:59

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

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Lyricallie · 20/08/2020 12:01

Depends who it was. My fiance and I'm on a girls holiday I wouldn't mind but I wouldn't feel any pressure to reply instantly I would just reply whenever.

Another friend who is doing it because they feel put out because they're not there then maybe...
Tbh no it wouldn't really bother me I would either reply if I want to or not.

OuterSpaceGirl · 20/08/2020 12:03

It depends. My sister or close friends, it would be fine. We would send each other pictures every day too.
Not anyone else though and I’d find it annoying.

CoraPirbright · 20/08/2020 12:03

Gah! That would annoy the piss out of me!! I’m on bloody holiday!!

Crylittlesister · 20/08/2020 12:03

It would piss me off massively, although I am very anti high volume texting generally, but especially when on holiday. I cannot bear that thing where someone texts, I respond and then they come up with more sodding questions. I feel very harassed by my phone though and do not like text conversations, whereas I'm guessing you do - so each to one's own!

TinyMetalBirds · 20/08/2020 12:03

It would annoy me!

piscean10 · 20/08/2020 12:04

I dont think there is any problem. Seems like they are just making conversation. You can just ignore it.

ChangeThePassword · 20/08/2020 12:05

Honestly when I'm on holiday I'm not really in the zone of focusing on the people at home. I want to focus on the people I'm with and what I'm doing.

Every day would be annoying.

PuppyMonkey · 20/08/2020 12:05

Depends who it was tbh. My boss, no. My DP, probably ok. Every day might be a bit much. Once or twice during the week, maybe better.

If the holiday maker is using FB, then the texter can see the situation anyway couldn’t they? Texting is a bit needy these days. Grin

Muggedoffa · 20/08/2020 12:05

It would annoy me but I'd just ignore. Phone on do not disturb. Not obliged to reply

GhostCurry · 20/08/2020 12:06

I don’t get how anyone could be annoyed to receive messages. Just ignore them or turn your notifications off. It’s not on other people to try to gauge your openness to receiving messages Hmm

That said, it works both ways, and people don’t get to be stroppy if you respond in your own time.

GinWithASplashOfTonic · 20/08/2020 12:07

Depends on the reason for the texts and who from.
Boyfriend, best friend close family member Then fine. Talking crap, asking about plans for the day l, something serious
Work then no

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whatshardknock · 20/08/2020 12:07

A guy who I'm speaking too is on holiday.
We normally text every day.
Yesterday he put a Snapchat on his story and I replied to it.
Then he text me on WhatsApp and we had a convo.
He was sending pics of his hotel and the beach.
Then I asked if there was any entertainment at the hotel? He replied ..
"I can't answer that right now"
I thought maybe I was annoying him so I didn't reply and he hasn't text this morning.
I don't want to be that annoying woman texting him on holiday if it annoys him.

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AfterSchoolWorry · 20/08/2020 12:09

I'd leave him to it.

ChangeThePassword · 20/08/2020 12:10

I don’t get how anyone could be annoyed to receive messages

Generally I'm totally okay with it. But when I'm on holiday I'm escaping the day to day. If someone is messaging me every day knowing I'm on holiday then they clearly think that their need to hear from me is greater than my need to enjoy my holiday.

If someone is on holiday and they want to hear from me, they'll message me.

PuppyMonkey · 20/08/2020 12:12

Is that one of those automatic texts?

Yeah, leave it now.

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whatshardknock · 20/08/2020 12:12

Automatic texts ?

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AryaStarkWolf · 20/08/2020 12:13

No it wouldn't annoy me, but I'd wait until he got back to you after his last message

Muggedoffa · 20/08/2020 12:14

A guy you're speaking to? Have you met? Are you dating? Texting every day in normal life is one thing. I'd be annoyed if someone I'd never met kept texting, yes. I like to disconnect on holiday. He probably feels obliged to reply . Give him some space!

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whatshardknock · 20/08/2020 12:14

I don't think I was being annoying (hope not ) as hell kept sending me texts and initiation topics etc
Il leave it now I think tho and let him enjoy himself.
He is with his daughter and parents and he hasn't spent time with them for months.

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whatshardknock · 20/08/2020 12:15

@Muggedoffa he's an ex,now we are speaking again (it's a strange set up )

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Muggedoffa · 20/08/2020 12:16

Yeah leave him alone if he's with his family

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whatshardknock · 20/08/2020 12:20

What about a "hope your getting a good tan "
Or "don't forget the sun cream"?

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Fleamaker123 · 20/08/2020 12:21

I wouldn't text someone if they were away on holiday, I would feel like I was disturbing/pestering them while they were having a break from everyday life. Likewise I turn my phone off when I'm away, can't stand it.

Muggedoffa · 20/08/2020 12:21

Why? Why do you need to be in constant contact?

tatasa · 20/08/2020 12:22

Wouldn't bother me, but if it was constant/daily I would think a bit odd.

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