Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

[whatshardknock]

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

If youve not seen him since january because he is shielding, yet he is on holiday, youre wasting your time. Use his holiday to get out of the habit of texting him. Its all fake. Move on.

OP you need to read ‘he’s just not that into you’.

It talks a lot of sense. If you need to play games in order to try and make this man interested in you, he’s not that bothered about you. Desperately trying to find ways to get a conversation started is just that, desperate-sorry. If he wanted to be having a conversation with you he would be texting you. I don’t mean to be blunt but this is a bit painful to read. We’ve all been there, but listen to what people are telling you. If he likes you, he will show it and you won’t need all this stupid game playing. If you have to go through all this to get the odd text from him then sorry but he’s not that bothered and will be off like a shot when someone he’s actually into comes along. Keep your dignity intact and get on with your week. If he likes you, you’ll know about it. Sending him more texts now is just showing him how keen you are which is a terrible idea.

I'm trying to not be too available as it pushes him away

He isnt interested in you. He is using you.

Oh OP STOP! He's an ex, you're doing a dance to try and get his attention, second guessing your own perfectly normal behaviour and letting him get in your head. I assume he's an ex for a reason? You can't get him to want you via your text style.

He's a man. If he wants you he'll make it very clear. Personally, I'd stop making myself an option.

No more texts, he can call you and ask you out when he's back. Chasing an ex in this way is degrading.

I wouldn't text someone if they were on holiday and I probably wouldn't be answering any texts either. Apart from my mum, but she texts very infrequently so not an issue. If my bf was on a different holiday no way would I be texting him.

Sorry - if my ex bf was on holiday no way would I be testing him (remember you did say you don't want to push him away).

@whatshardknock

What about a "hope your getting a good tan " Or "don't forget the sun cream"?

Be careful he doesn’t think your a pest.

If he was that bothered he would be texting me.
Last night when we were messaging I could tell he was drunk.
He will be drunk all day every day no doubt.

Drunk all day every day?
That sounds dull.
Even before you add in that he’s with his daughter, so we can add “shit parent” to “dull”.

Why is it that you want to get back with him?

drunk all day every day

What a catch!

Keep busy, see friends, stop obsessing about him - you're too 'available'.

I wouldn't think of it as being cool or anything like that. Just get busy. Like others have said, foster your strong, independent side.

And yes, messages on holiday would annoy me too.

Drunk all day every day?

Each to their own but that wouldn't be for me.

[quote whatshardknock]@GarlicMcAtackney that's the way we speak to each other.
I didn't think my jokingly mentioning sun cream made me look desperate.
I was just trying to find a way to start a conversation [/quote]
Why not say?

You having a good day? What's the weather like?

It's a question

However me personally. I think it sounds desperate. Men love confident women. Be confident!

Drunk all day every day?
He's an ex?
Too much contact pushes him away?

Bloody hell OP what are this man's redeeming features? Is he good in the sack?

Are you sure you want to get back with him?

Having to pretend you're not available (it shouldn't push him away).

Worrying about what to say.

Him drunk all the time with his DD there.

What's the attraction?

I need to be busy don't I
Instead of waiting round for texts.

[quote chubbyhotchoc]@whatshardknock even worse. Look men who want to be with you, try to see you. He's not trying to date you or physically see you. They don't string you along with texts. Lockdown didn't happen until March and it lifted weeks ago. He's capable of going on holiday but he's not capable of coming to see you. He's just benching you for a bit of ego massage. [/quote]
I always say this

Men don't really play games

They don't really go 'oh. Shall I text her. Ooooh. Shall I ring her?' 'Oooh. Don't want to come across fatherly. Oooh. What if I push her away'

Men who are into you. Are Into you. They contact you. They see you. They are simple creatures.

Sorry I meant as he's on hol he will be drunk.
He's daughter is 20 so she doesn't need looking after.

Turn your bloody phone off

He sounds an arse but I still want to know if he will text

Probably on the way home when he's horny and wants some action

Oh op.... stop texting him
His comment "i cant answer that right now" re 'entertainment' should say enough.

Save your dignity

Do you want to be with a man AGAIN with whom you have to game play to keep their attention?
If he really liked you none of it would be necessary. Yes, when you’ve just met someone, too much too soon rings alarm bells, but this is someone you have already been in a relationship with.
Time to move on. It’s fucking humiliating to be racking your brain about the possible nuanced meaning behind every text or failure to text, at least beyond the adolescent years.

His daughter is 20 so I’m presuming he’s over 40. I thought you were all a lot, lot younger.

OK, even if he doesn’t need to look after his daughter... genuine question - what makes you aspire to date a man who get drunk all day every day on holiday? Trash