Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

[whatshardknock]

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

Only contact people on holiday in an emergency.

I wouldn't text or call someone I knew to be on holiday except if it was urgent etc. If DH and I have gone away and left our now just about grown up DDs at home then I want to hear from them daily, but that's about it.

Yes, I'm afraid what you are describing would irritate me.

I've decided I won't message him now until he initiates.
Yes I might want to chat but not at the expense of looking Clingy/needy.

If your on the phone on a call and a message comes in

You can send an automated text

It sounds like that. You can rely with a certain message

However. Leave it now lovely. You sound desperate. Don't mean that horrid

Have fun whilst he's not here! Do the things you need to get done etc.

@Redraptor

Ha. Same here! My husband went on a stag do and the only time we spoke was when he was drunk and rang me to tell me how much he loves me.

The plonker!

If you have to sit and fester over something simple like texting then this really is not the relationship for you. Something like this should be a complete Non Issue in a healthy friendship, let alone a relationship and having to analyse every detail of ‘Am I texting too much..? Am I being annoying..? What does that reply mean...? etc tells me you are insecure and don’t quite trust him.

It shouldn’t be this hard....move on.

Honestly depends who it was... Family, okay. Friends probably not.

I have a friend who goes through cycles of texting constantly, and then radio silence for months. When it gets too much, I start ignoring.

On our last holiday my sister was texting asking for pictures and updates. I sent a few (to keep the peace/stem the flow of texts) but I’m on holiday for me and my family. The rest of you can wait till I get back.

@whatshardknock

I've decided I won't message him now until he initiates. Yes I might want to chat but not at the expense of looking Clingy/needy.

I think that is the best option Op, and perhaps play it a bit cooler than you have been, when he does get in contact again.

I would comment on his social media posts, like looks fab or something positive so he doesn’t think you are sulking but I wouldn’t message him unless he messaged me first

Never chase a guy. If he's into you he'll make the effort. I don't believe in playing games but at the start it's best to look unbothered, confident and busy. Good luck!

If you don't want back with him though then why is it so complicated and taking up so much headspace, why are you dissecting how you are coming across to him or caring that if he doesn't care enough to keep in touch with you?

You wouldn't be feeling like this if it was a friend or another person you hadn't framed as a partner in some way would you so maybe you have to reframe this as it sounds like you are just causing yourself unnecessary pain.

Sorry I read your post as you don't not that you do

Yup, I'd leave him alone and concentrate on doing fun stuff for you so you have stuff to talk about when he gets back.

I'm fairness I did full on bootycall my current partner. I left him stewing for a week first but he had made it perfectly clear that he wanted me.

It naffs me off if I'm on a DAY out! If I was on holiday I'd be seriously pissed off!!

You sound terribly needy and borderline stalkerish.

Let him enjoy his holiday. He’s an ex ffs, move on.

For what it's worth I read his text as being more "I just arrived so haven't found out yet". It's hard to tell tone with texts, so I'd give him space on holiday unless he texts you and then continue texting when he gets home.

To me it sounds a bit clingy/needy/pestering but then I don't get why people have to have their heads in their phones all day and night and be in constant contact over nothing in particular.

Leave him to get on with his family time on holiday. If he texts don't reply straight away...in other words cool it!

It would annoy me if someone at home was texting me every single day.

If he's initiating it then fair enough, but don't expect it.

By saying I can't answer that he probably meant he didn't know as he hadn't been to/seen the entertainment?

I think you need to chill right out tbh. He's on holiday with his family, he's probably not thinking of home or keeping up daily chit chat.

It would piss me off massively and it's also rude for the people you are on holiday with.

Wouldn’t bother me. On holiday I tend to text more as I have the time and I never feel pressured to reply within a certain time.

I would also have a phone time such as when I wake up or while I’m on my own waiting for others to get ready etc

No, why would it?

Do you think me playing it cool is the best way?
I would seem needy wouldn't I
I might as-well scream "please talk to me"