Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

[whatshardknock]

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

Is there a possibility that one of his parents commented on him always looking at his phone rather than concentrating on his daughter? Not necessarily testing you, but in general.

I've been with my husband for 10yrs and dont ever message him if hes on holiday. Sometimes he'll ring me drunk. If I'm on holiday (I've been away from my kids twice) I'll ask him about the kids but we barely talk. I know everyone is different but I certainly dont go away to be on my phone

Yes, he was a bit rude. Don't text him again. Just enjoy your holiday and put him out of your head. Let him wonder what you are up to.

'Texting'

I think your reading too much into it. Just chill out and let him text you when he can/wants to.

yes it would annoy me.
I like to switch off and focus on the holiday. the odd message would be OK, but I usually minimise all phone & SM in hols, unless I'm totally bored.

Sorry, OP, but this makes you sound very clingy and needy. That might not be the impression you wanted to send out.

TBH my phone would be switched off anyway.
Receiving needy texts all the time would drive be bonkers.

If he had answered you would have seen it as a sign to reply and I think he was trying to without saying it outright shutdown conversation probably because he is busy.

When I'm on holiday I am away! I send a couple of texts but I don't want regular conversation.

Sometimes it isn't annoying.

In this instance it would be.

Let them do their family thing.

If he’s on holiday with his children in a hotel, it’s likely he’s sharing a room with them and therefore doesn’t have much time to be on his phone. He seems to have been happy to chat to you but now is busy. Enjoy your holiday and when he responds make sure he knows that’s what you are doing - rather than letting him sense you’re more focussed on what he’s up to.

When DH has been on holiday with friends (I never have, personal choice!) I hardly ever message him. He texts/ calls and obviously I'll reply, but never me first because I assume he's busy having fun.

I do think it's up to the person who is away to make the contact. My MIL always wants to call/ facetime when we are away and it drives me crazy. Why on earth does she need a tour of our hotel room and to know what we are doing all the time? I go on holiday to get away from people

Would depend on who it was. If it was a close family member, my boyfriend or a close friend I'd be fine with it. If it was a less close friend I would think it was a bit odd but would probably let it go.

I don't really understand these people who are massively upset and offended by overzealous texting/messages though. If its annoying you just ignore it, its not such an awful violation to receive a message. Each to their own but I think its a bit OTT.

Definitely don't text him now, let him message you first.

I completely relate to how hard it is though. When DH and I were first dating we'd been chatting via text loads and then he went away for a fortnight. He said he'd probably not be able to email/text (this was back before wifi everywhere!) but that we'd talk when he got back. I sent him a couple of emails of things I'd seen (we're both news geeks) in the first few days to read when he got a chance, but as soon as he got the chance to message he did and it actually made us realised we'd missed each other and it ended up kind of moving along the relationship from a FWB to the realisation we wanted to be more.

Really irritating. Back off and let him enjoy his holiday! You won’t have any chance with him if he thinks you are insecure and clingy, which is what this behaviour is demonstrating. And no, he isn’t being rude. He’s on holiday. With his family. Doing holiday stuff.

I’d think it was more rude to be on holiday with a family member who couldn’t get off his bloody phone and spend some quality time with us and exploring the place we were holidaying in.

It would annoy me a bit. But I’m not a big texter.

[quote whatshardknock]@lyralalala yeah last night was first night there.[/quote]
I would think "I can't answer that" is more of an irritated "I don't know yet" in that case

Why do you have a strange set up? People can't really give you advice without knowing the situation. Just general advice

Maybe he's enjoying the entertainment and will message after the entertainment has finished

No texts at all to or fro, only for an emergency,

Yes, YABU to keep texting him. Just back off and wait until he initiates conversation again.

Oh that would annoy me no end. He'll text if he wants to chat OP

When I'm on holiday, I love just switching off and forgetting about my phone tbh. Maybe he's the same. Sure he'll text later though

If he messages you today reply but not with a question.

Sends a picture. That looks lovely!
Its really hot here. Keep applying the sunscreen!

Just, back off a little bit.

He's on holiday. He's single. You're not his wife. You're being clingy and over invested.

@hammeringinmyhead

If you think he's been rude, texting back all shiny and happy about suncream in an effort to reassure yourself you haven't annoyed him sets a really bad precedent for the relationship.

This, with bells on. If you think he’s been rude, why are you not questioning whether you’re interested in someone who is a bit rude? Why is your response to agonise on an Internet forum about whether you can acceptably throw yourself at him a bit more?!

You’re setting up a dynamic whereby it’s all about you trying to make him like you, with no regard for whether you actually like how he’s treating you and how he makes you feel. Focus on yourself, set your bar high, and if he tries hard enough to meet your standards then consider letting him in. That’s the way to healthy, functional relationships where you’re not being desperate and doing all the running.

Yes, very much.