Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

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If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

@bellocchild

My neighbour texted every day, often more than once, to see if her cat was coping...

I'd say that's fair enough though, at least there was a reason for it not just idle chit chat.

My ex was constantly sending inane texts whenever I was away. It came across as him not trusting me and being jealous I was enjoying myself without him. He would get annoyed if I didn't respond quickly enough because he thought I was ignoring him or not thinking about him. He'd be constantly 'missing me' if I was away for a few hours and wanting me to reply in kind.

It's very off putting. I started to really enjoy my time away from him more and more and he just got increasingly needy.

I find the inane, breezy texts even more annoying.

Don’t reply, easy,

No, I would enjoy getting the texts - unless there was something unpleasant or 'naggy' about their content.

I would leave it now.

TBH if I'm on holiday I'm on holiday from everything and everyone: work, friends, family.

I wouldn't hate the odd "hi hope your holiday is great" message but I wouldn't be expecting to be fielding daily texts.

Holidays are a chance to escape from day to day life.

You've had some chit chat so I'd leave it now.

He’s not your guy, you shouldn’t have to “play hard to get”. If he doesn’t value you anyway. Walk away

@petelacey usually because the phone has a camera on it, maybe because it's to keep track of family members in case of emergency whilst on holiday if they're off on a walk about or even in case of emergency back home.

Just because someone has their phone on doesn't mean they want to be bothered by cling ons back home.

Nope, it wouldn’t annoy me.

We broke up because he was immature,he never took responsibility for anything and nothing was he's fault

Ah. So either your self esteem is lower than whale crap at the bottom of the ocean or he has a massive cock.

And he matured in a month?

@ViciousJackdaw

We broke up because he was immature,he never took responsibility for anything and nothing was he's fault

Ah. So either your self esteem is lower than whale crap at the bottom of the ocean or he has a massive cock.

Ha ha ha ha ....so true, it is always low self-esteem or a giant cock (on a massive cock). This made me split my wine out laughing.

Just wait.

Come in OP why are you chasing him? Inane chit chat texts irritate me no matter who they are from, but he sounds like a tool.

I would ignore the message until I got home and pretend I’d had my phone switched off / phone was broken.

It would annoy me if someone texted me every day, no matter where I was. Being considered to be "available" to talk/message all the time is the worst thing about mobile phones.

I only switch my phone on for calls/text if I need it in an emergency...

I am on holiday!

I switch my mobile off if I'm on holiday.

If I'm on holiday, I'm not checking my phone constantly. I'm barely checking my phone actually.
I'd be annoyed if somebody kept trying to talk to me whilst I was away. Let it go, let him have a nice time and he'll talk to you when he's back if he wants to.

Phones rule now no matter what or where people are. Afraid of missing something maybe!

That's fine, but why go away if all you want to do is connect with those who are not with you.

The world has gone a bit mad really

OP, I appreciate he initiated the conversation whilst he was away, however his last message in my eyes shows he was done talking.

Leave him to it and let him contact you, otherwise you come off as super needy if you send him inane ‘breezy’ text messages.
If you want him to miss you, then don’t go chasing him. Make yourself less available to him.
You’re sitting there wondering about him, but do you think he’s sitting there wondering what you’re up to? I’m guessing not. So go have fun with your friends.

Although given what you’ve said about why you broke up with him, I’m struggling to see why you’d want to get back with this guy in all honesty. How much could he have possibly changed in such a short period of time?

You’ve already stated you’re the one who generally initiates conversations with him. If he wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t constantly wait for you to contact him, he’d be contacting you himself.

Lots of red flags waving all over the shop here for me. I think you can do better. Firstly, love and respect yourself more. Then go find yourself someone who actually makes an effort to be with you.

OP, the phone thing is a red herring. You are trying to find reasons that this ex/current has been unreasonable, because otherwise it doesn't fit your narrative of 'I am right, he is wrong'.

Change that narrative. It doesn't matter who is right or wrong. He is not that into you, and he never will be.

Looked at from that point of view, everything will make sense. He may have many reasons for staying in contact with you. Love is not one.

Anything else is wishful thinking. Holiday texting is by the by. It's bunting on the Titanic.

God it sounds all so very complicated.

We broke up because he was immature,he never took responsibility for anything and nothing was he's fault.

So why on Earth are you going back for more?

Have you seen him on social media with another woman and got jealous? Sometimes when we think someone else wants a recent ex, we want them back. But just remember why he is an ex and move on. Take this holiday as the starting point for stopping contact.

YABU - MIL used to do this when we were away and I felt ‘We’re away! Leave us alone!’

My parents would wait until we were back and hear all the news, like normal people.

Perhaps being a bit harsh as PILs would phone very regularly when we were home, but it felt oppressive. MIL was incredibly kind but still just a very nervous lady who needed to know where her DCs were most/ all days, who they were seeing, any long journeys etc. She could just never let them go and be adults. Definitely anyone asking if I’d put sun cream on would drive me nuts.