Would it annoy you if someone kept texting while you were on holiday ? Aibu ?

[whatshardknock]

If you were on holiday abroad for a week and someone was texting you every day would it annoy you ?
Asking if you were having fun
How the weather was etc
Aibu to think it wouldn't ?
If you were on your phone anyway on Facebook etc

They se nice and interested so I wouldn’t be annoyed no. I wouldn’t reply necessarily though

i'd play i cool but just reply slowly to show your not that interested in talking and have better things to do. they'll understand i promise

Don't do it.

You said he rarely sees his daughter and parents so let him enjoy his time with them.

Poor man - back off! I'd run a mile if someone did this to me. Let him be in the moment of his holiday and time with his family.

Could not be doing with all this game playing. If you want to text him, text him. If it annoys him then he's not right for you. Relationships where you can't be yourself are doomed from the start.

Back off, or he will think you have changed your perfume to Eau de desperate.

How old are you OP? Picture yourself in a relationship with him. You've decided that your off on holiday with your family or your friends. How would you feel if you knew he was at home obsessing about you and overthinking your messages. I can imagine youd feel suffocated and would just like him to relax and let you get on with your holiday.

Chill out. Your a strong, independent woman and he will message you when he wants to. Do not make this man your 'life' or your 'world'. Do your own thing and he will be back before you know it. Dont let him know your obsessing like this, it gives men the wrong impression that they have the power

1. He’s an ex, which is usually a good reason to stay that way

1. You’re twisting yourself in knots about what you should do and talking about playing it cool like you’re 13. That doesn’t happen in a good relationship

1. You’ve already been texting daily for a while yet you haven’t got your aim of getting back together

I’m sorry to be blunt, but it’s better to save yourself heartache down the line: he’s not interested. There will be others that are, that you don’t play stupid guessing games over.

Your texts would be annoying to receive, yes, I cannot bear small talk and such inane texts would be difficult to reply to. ‘Don’t forget the suncream’? Several posters have said you sound desperate, do you find desperate men attractive? Would you think it’s an appealing quality to have, yourself?

@GarlicMcAtackney that's the way we speak to each other.
I didn't think my jokingly mentioning sun cream made me look desperate.
I was just trying to find a way to start a conversation

Let him initiate - respond if he does, but otherwise let it be.

Good grief OP!! Why do you have to ‘play’ anything??? 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ How old are you? 🤯

Who is he on holiday with?

Every day? Really annoying.

Oops sorry just saw your post, yeah leave him to initiate any contact, you don't want to make replying to your texts feel like a chore.

I'd get into a rhythm of responding once a day, irrespective of how many texts they sent. They soon get the message.

@whatshardknock I agree with @GarlicMcAtackney it does sound desperate. Like you're trying to mother him. Who is he actually? Someone from old? Or someone you've met out? Have you been on a date yet or has he suggested one? If not at this point I wouldn't even be bothered keeping a conversation going. I'd let him arrange a date when he gets back. You should be busy with you're own life as he is

@chubbyhotchoc he is my ex boyfriend.
We split in jan but started talking again in feb.
I still have feelings and want to get back with him.
I'm trying to not be too available as it pushes him away.

What do you mean by "talking"? If you've been shagging casually since Feb and no sign of an official relationship I think I'd give up!

No we haven't slept together.
Lockdown happened and he was shielding due to his daughter being high risk.
I haven't seen him since jan.
We have just been texting and talking on the phone.

Oh ok, sorry, there is talking and "talking" these days apparently.

@whatshardknock even worse. Look men who want to be with you, try to see you. He's not trying to date you or physically see you. They don't string you along with texts. Lockdown didn't happen until March and it lifted weeks ago. He's capable of going on holiday but he's not capable of coming to see you. He's just benching you for a bit of ego massage.

@hammeringinmyhead

Oh ok, sorry, there is talking and "talking" these days apparently.

I thought it was talking and linking?

Leave it until Friday evening. Then text with a breezy message - “are you having fun? I’m off to X tonight / tomorrow” etc

Don’t just ask him a question, let him know what you’re up to too (and make it sound interesting!)