To feel 65 to 70 is too young to pass away

[thedaywewillremeber]

I’ve recently lost my father at the age of 70. I feel he was young to pass away but I’ve been told by others I should have been expecting it any time due to his age. My dad lost his mum at 65 so i suppose it could be genetic.

Yes I think it is too young 😢

It is young.

When this thread was started my 65 year old mum was still alive

(She died suddenly and unexpectedly in September and even though I am 40 and have my own kids I feel like it was way too young for me to lose my lovely mum)

too young op,
my condolences to you

oh zombie,
yes, still too young at 65-70

I'm sorry for your loss, and yes it is too young. There are so many people in their 90s now, so of course 65 - 70 is far too young, many in that age bracket are still working, and some still have parents alive. I'm in NZ by the way, but I can't imagine anyone here would think a death should be "expected" at 70!

My Dad was 75, and I got told that I shouldn't be too upset, as 'he'd had a good innings'. Given that I was 25, my response was 'I didn't'!

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's always too soon.

Depends a lot. My dad died aged 68 but suffered from terminal cancer. My mum and my PIL are still going strong, 83 and 88 now.

This is an age we do expect sudden notices more and more, but not end Sixty/beginning Seventies.

It’s relative. My df died age 49. My dm is nearly 70 and living her best life so I very much hope we have a good few years with her yet. Whoever said that to you is an insensitive fucker and I wouldn’t be wasting any more time with them.

I’m 67 and very fit and active. Yes, I agree OP, 70 is too young. So sorry for your loss.

@LillianBland

The average life expectancy for men is 80, in the U.K., so whoever is telling you that you should have been expecting it are unsupportive ass holes. In saying that, there is never a right age, because the people left behind will still be grieving for their loved one. I’m so sorry for your lose.

80 is the average. It doesnt mean people only die at that age. Or over. It means for every male who dies over 80 there would have been males dying at a significantly younger age.

It's young. My DH is 70 and I'm not expecting him to die any time soon.

I'm sorry for the loss of your father.

My df passed away at 63 and 4 of his 5 brothers died before 45. He oldest brother is almost 90!

It is young as in younger than the average age for dying.

But it’s not young in the sense that at 70yo, people are old.

It's young, in the last few years I've lost bil in late 40s of copd, a friend in his late 50s cause unknown and a same age fiend of alcohol related conditions , and a school friend has died in the last few days ages 56/57. My mum died in her mid 40s of cancer. Saying that my granddad was late 70s in 1976, my Grampy in his late 80s and both my grans in their 90s and my in-laws are both 91.

My dad died at 60, he was a big drinker and had heart disease , mum died at 65 , heart attack .

Yes, definitely too young! My beautiful mum died suddenly 2 weeks after her 67th birthday, she was full of life and due to go on holiday with her sister, no health issues and very active. Far too young.
Sorry for your loss

I have known a lot of people who have died around this age (including 3 grandparents). So while it is 'young' as we expect people to at least be able to enjoy some of their retirement years, it isn't unusual at all.

@Rockybooboo

My dad died very suddenly of a stroke. I was sobbing outside when a neighbour came over and said 'we can't expect our parents to be around forever'. He was 46 and I was 22

I’m so sorry. I was widowed at 44 - he was 47 - and someone said something very similar to me. In front of our three year old. People are appallingly under prepared to deal with grief - or any other normal human feelings, it seems to me - in this country.

OP I am sorry for your loss, it’s definitely not an ‘old’ age these days.

Oh bugger ZOMBIE THREAD SORRY

It's too young.
My dad was 68 when he died. He was so full of life and fun. I was so angry when he died at the unfairness of it.
My mum is 74. Still working and full of life. I hope she's here for many years yet.

I'm sorry for your loss

@SummerHurryUp

I have known a lot of people who have died around this age (including 3 grandparents). So while it is 'young' as we expect people to at least be able to enjoy some of their retirement years, it isn't unusual at all.

This. ^

@SummerHurryUp

I have known a lot of people who have died around this age (including 3 grandparents). So while it is 'young' as we expect people to at least be able to enjoy some of their retirement years, it isn't unusual at all.

This ^

70 isn't young, it's elderly.

And I don't think it's too young to die no.

It's maybe slightly younger than average, but not too young IMO.

The fact we have to work almost up to our 70s now, doesn't mean 70 isn't quite old...

Too young to die, would be someone under 60 IMO.

Sorry to hear you lost your dad though @thedaywewillremeber