To feel 65 to 70 is too young to pass away

[thedaywewillremeber]

I’ve recently lost my father at the age of 70. I feel he was young to pass away but I’ve been told by others I should have been expecting it any time due to his age. My dad lost his mum at 65 so i suppose it could be genetic.

I wouldn't say it was young, in my mind young is below 50. However when I get to 50 I might change my mind! It's still upsetting whatever age you lose a parent though, I'm so sorry.

Very few people spontaneously die without warning. I think 70 is an age where you should be prepared for people to start getting lots of conditions but not to just keel over

Sorry for your loss. I feel like 65-75 is still in the realm of ‘they should have had longer’ but a lot depends on circumstances and demographics as to what is normal in different areas.

Longevity seems to run in families. On my husband’s side, most of the older generation have got to their 90s. My dad is a walking heart attack waiting to happen so I worry he hasn’t got long now he’s mid 70s.

My father died at 63 and had dementia from around 58. I felt he'd had his life stolen from him. Given the state he was in it was a bittersweet relief really. I'd have hated him to bumble along in that confused state for any longer but my goodness he is and has missed so much.

It depends on the person and things like grandparents age of death. Mine mostly died aged early to mid 70s so that seems normal to me. My dad is heading into his late 60s but isn’t healthy because he smokes, drinks and eats badly. I wouldn’t be surprised to receive the news anytime now. He knows his lifestyle is bad and the consequences, he chooses not to change and I suspect doesn’t care. A slim non smoker who eats healthy and exercises would be expected to live longer. Although not everyone wants to live to 80 plus. I don’t think my dad wants to.

It’s very young these days. I lost my mum at 66. She was a very young 66 too. So unfair

Yanbu. Is anyone going to argue? People were devastated when David Bowie died at just over 69.

It's old that it wouldn't be a huge shock. But it's still not really old.

So sorry for your loss

My Dad was just 60 when he died of a very short cancer diagnosis, seemed far too young.

How dare anyone say that the loss of your father is not a tragedy?

70 is no age and I am so sorry for your loss.

How dare anyone say that the loss of your father is not a tragedy?

Literally no one said that.

Good god of course you shouldn't have been expecting him to die at 70. My DH is that age I am certainly not expecting him to pop his clogs any time soon! My dad was 67 when he died (I was late teens) and although it didn't seem that old then it does now looking back. I'm sorry for your loss @thedaywewillremeber .

@SerenDippitty

Good god of course you shouldn't have been expecting him to die at 70. My DH is that age I am certainly not expecting him to pop his clogs any time soon! My dad was 67 when he died (I was late teens) and although it didn't seem that old then it does now looking back. I'm sorry for your loss *@thedaywewillremeber* .

Sorry I meant to say it didn't seem that young then.

I’m sorry for your loss. My darling Mum died at 75 which felt too young. I think particularly because her Mum, my Nana, only died three years before her, at 100.

I agree that it's too young, if the person is in good health and could potentially have had 10-15 more years of an active life. My FIL died in a car accident not long before his 65th birthday, which was an awful shock and devastating for the whole family.

I'm really sorry for your loss, OP.

I think it’s young, but even if he was 105, it’s still sad. Your friends are seriously lacking in empathy.

I think that’s young nowadays. I would expect 80+ as being the “good innings” zone. 70 is only five years over normal retirement age.

My mum died at 46 and my dad at 70 , I think 46 is young , anyone over 70 is old .

It is young. My dad received a terminal diagnosis at 70. It felt too soon. He had only just retired and we were hoping for a few years at least of good health and able to take it easy and enjoy life. Life is unfair. Of course it's true that some people die in their 30s and 40s, leaving young families, and that is absolutely tragic, but that doesn't mean I'm not allowed to mourn the time we could have had. I'm sorry for your loss and that you've had your feelings of grief minimised like this.

ZOMBIE THREAD

THIS IS FROM LAST YEAR AND HAS BEEN REVIVED BY A SPAMMER

My dad died when he was 56 (less than 2 years older than I am now) and my mum was 67.

That's one of the reasons I don't want to retire at 67!

Sorry only just realised it was a zombie thressd.

Sorry for your loss. I think these days that seems young.
I'm 64 and don't feel old though of course none of us know when we might go. My mum was in her late 70s and my dad in his mid 80s so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that I have a plenty of years left.

Just seen its a Zombie thread drat!