DH says I’m an embarrassing nerd

[Hindsite]

I play the Sims. I have lately taken to building and have built a number of homes. I’m getting really into it and have renovated a whole town. I have created an instagram page for my Sims game and share all my builds on there as well as my stories. My next project is making an abandoned Wild West town like the ones we have come across in America. This will likely take a month or so and then once I’m done I’ll move families into it who will then renovate the town.

Last night DH came across my Instagram and went off on one saying I’m a complete giant nerd and he sent the pics to all his family and to his mate. His mate asked if him if I’ve stopped playing grandma turismo because he kept beaten me. DH didn’t know I was playing this car game online with his mate and is now saying I’m an embarrassment and I’ll be the joke of his work place.

Wtf. Is it really so bad to have interests that don’t affect anyone else even if I am a Middle Aged woman?

Is he 12? That's school kid bullying, I can't believe a grown man would say those things! It's utterly ridiculous, not to mention outright mean. I play Animal Crossing and Yonder on the Switch, DP plays his own games mostly on his PC, it's a normal adult thing that people who have the time and means enjoy regularly. Tell him to fuck off.

Do whatever makes you happy. It sounds like he’s doing very little to contribute to your happiness, so I think I’d keep the Sims and ditch him.

Your DH needs to grow up. Everyone is entitled to their interests.

Your DH is a dick. Presumably he has no issue with male mates playing these games so why it it an issue for you to do the same?

If he's so embarrassed, why did he send pictures to all and sundry?

I'm actually envious - I tried to play Sims but I was just shit at it!

He's a knob
I like the sims too, nothing wrong with it

If you're so embarrassing, he won't mind getting a divorce will he?

He is the embarrassment, being immature enough to be getting at you for your interests and calling you names. What a cunt. Does he actually have any redeeming qualities?

What you are doing is completely normal! Him sending screenshots to all his family is just unkind, evil and childish and would have me think if I wanted to stay with him trying to embarrass me like that. It really would.

Fuck him! So his mate isn't a Nerd for playing, but you are?
I love games, i’d ditch a bloke and wear a ‘nerd’ badge with pride.
Rather nerd than bully

What an absolute shit of a man. That's so nasty!

Your husband sounds really awful.

I can imagine you enjoying a pastime that doesn't involve him.

I would be embarrassed by HIM.

Enjoy!

He's being a prat. Nothing wrong with. Lots of people have hobbies their partners don't get, no need for him to be so offensive.

I'm not sure it's normal to create an Instagram page dedicated to your Sims world but I think a lot of adults actually play Sims.

Is it taking up a lot of your time? Could that be his issue?

The Sims is ace, as is Gran Turismo. I don't play games right now as I'm studying so no time and games like sims are properly addictive. My family would think you're normal as we're all avid gamers at heart

Wow. If he's embarrassed over your hobby and interests, the problem is with him, not you.

I'm trying to imagine my DH's reaction if I started posting about Animal Crossing. He might laugh, but it would be an 'I can't believe you're into this game so much, what are you like' kind of laugh. He would be supportive and interested.

Make a Sim of your DH and start documenting him in all kinds of interesting ways. Is drowning your Sim in a swimming pool still a thing? It might be cathartic for you.

I love the sims! We only have it on the Xbox now but I’ve asked DH and the kids for expansion packs for my house coming birthday! I spend my time cooking watching sims you tuber videos on builds etc don’t care if people think I’m a loser for it

I love building too! I’ve just started my latest project. I was doing it yesterday while the little ones napped. I have DH a tour and explained it was an old 70s house that they’d decided to renovate and modernise so they’d build a glass roofed extension on the back and changed up the bedroom positions ... my DH said it’s cute I come up with these things

Also totally would love to follow your Instagram! I want to set up a purely sims one
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Sounds like he is an egocentric twat who just view you as an extension of himself.

I could understand his embarrassment if you were doing anything that was actually embarrassing, but this is just a harmless game ffs. What is his problem exactly (unless you somehow married a 14yo by mistake)? Should you be baking, flower arranging or knitting or something he deems appropriate?

Fuck. That. Noise.

@Hindsite if it’s so embarrassing he could have easily not told anyone. It seems unlikely that anyone from his workplace would randomly come across your Instagram so if they’re making fun of him/you over it then it’s because he’s shown it to them so he’s only got himself to blame. Sounds like he’s just trying to make you feel bad about something you love, and apparently encouraging others to do the same, which isn’t a very nice thing for a husband to do.

Wow, so if you're an embarrassement, what about his mate? Video games are frivolous fun and some people seem to think that women (past their twenties) should not have that. As opposed to knitting and exercising to stay slim, I guess, which show you're suitably domesticated. (not envy).

I'm 40, I play animal crossing and follow loads of social media with Animal Crossing accounts. I've got loads of good ideas for my island off them!!

What's your DH's hobby? Apart from being an arse and picking on everyone else?

Yanbu and can i follow you on instagram cos now i wanna see!

Can we be mates? You sound really cool to me

"Is it taking up much of your time?" Yeah,that's exactly the reason he's calling her names and trying to shame her. Why the hell would that be a justifiable reason for his reaction?

No idea what Sims is but can you build a house, shove DH in it and then brick up the doors. He sounds like a nerd, and a bullying one at that!

What a twat. And I guess you wouldn’t be willing to share your Instagram page? I love the Sims and it sounds great

Tell him you prefer the word geek and keep on doing what you enjoy. I'd also point out that being a geek is way better than being an arsehole.