DH says I’m an embarrassing nerd

[Hindsite]

I play the Sims. I have lately taken to building and have built a number of homes. I’m getting really into it and have renovated a whole town. I have created an instagram page for my Sims game and share all my builds on there as well as my stories. My next project is making an abandoned Wild West town like the ones we have come across in America. This will likely take a month or so and then once I’m done I’ll move families into it who will then renovate the town.

Last night DH came across my Instagram and went off on one saying I’m a complete giant nerd and he sent the pics to all his family and to his mate. His mate asked if him if I’ve stopped playing grandma turismo because he kept beaten me. DH didn’t know I was playing this car game online with his mate and is now saying I’m an embarrassment and I’ll be the joke of his work place.

Wtf. Is it really so bad to have interests that don’t affect anyone else even if I am a Middle Aged woman?

Tell him how he is embarrassing and tell him if he's that bothered what work colleagues think of him he can go live with one of them.
Personally, I think people who play games need to grow up, but it's not for me to say what others do, it's up to them.

As long as you are enjoying it who gives a toss what he thinks! He sounds very childish.

He’s an arsehole I love Star Wars dr who my dh doesn’t he’s into rock and music I loathe doesn’t matter. He has his things I have mine. He encourages me he let me buy one mug per dr,

I'm a nerd too and proud.

I think YABU not to share the Instagram page

@SoulofanAggron

Oh and I love Pokemon Go. *@Timeforabiscuit* I had someone say animal crossing is great a while back, but was a bit put off by it being 'pay to play.' Is it expensive? I end up buying stuff in Pokemon anyway, so it's not really free.

@SoulofanAggron You can play AC just fine without paying anything at all, but if you want to visit other Islands to trade items or play with friends you have to subscribe to Nintendo Online which I think is £3.99 a month.

Can confirm that the someone was right, it's GREAT

my dh plays games hes in his 50 's im not embarrassed how does it affect me

same with your h why does it affect him-sorry showing what youve done to everyone and laughing is bullying

Wow, what a terrible way to find out you're married to the Fun Police.

Seriously your "D"H sounds terrible.
There's nothing wrong with having hobbies.

He sounds nice

@AuntyPasta

I follow both of those two ... Plumbella is an interesting one as I believe she was doing a history degree at one point. Anyway she shared a video of herself building pre war terraced houses from the north of England and explained all about those times where big families were cramped in tiny rooms and landlords were under no obligation to make the houses safe or sanitary. I would imagine the Americans would love the British history lesson and I really enjoyed it too. Especially bring from the north of England myself.

It’s the Sims 4 I play but I have been playing since the Sims 1 release date. I used to write game reviews as a teenager and EA sent us a free copy of it. 20 years later I’m still hooked 😂

I'm 40 and love Lego. It takes over a large chunk of the house. DH might roll his eyes occasionally but would never be so cruel.

Like wise, I roll mine when he goes out to wash his precious car yet again!

Makes me glad my DP is as much of a giant nerd as me! I'd tell him to sling his hook!

@Hindsite It’s the Sims 4 I play

In that case you're very unreasonable.

refused to buy TS4 when it came out due to my outrage at lack of colour wheel swatching and no toddlers in base game on release

definitely also hasn't considered buying TS4 just to install the mod where you can make them graphically shag

That's horrible OP my DH is a huge gaming nerd but it is one of the things I love about him and wouldn't change it for the world! Tell your 'D'H to take that stick out of his arse and stop judging you - do what makes you happy! Sod what he thinks.

’20 years later I’m still hooked’

Me too

I am a late-middle-aged female professional (aged nearly 57) with a very responsible, cerebral and high pressure job. I also love playing Fortnite (new hobby in the past 2 years). What does that make me? (My brother says he despairs at why I play a game "designed for angry children", but who cares, it is fun). I have also enjoyed the Sims in the past but I am not patient enough to make it really interesting! Good luck to you with your designs, have fun!

What nasty behaviour! He's acting like a playground bully. Apart from all else, the only reason it can embarrass him with others, is because he's telling them all: you're not forcing your interests onto his workplace! You have a right to your own interests, which sound like fun anyway! And he is the one who is being immature, and not in a nice way, by ridiculing you for having different interests from him.

I got really into Animal Crossing during lockdown and loved looking at dedicated instagram accounts for ideas and funny memes - so did DH, we'd send them to each other!

Your DH is being a knob.

I used to love the SIMs but daren't get it now as I found it quite addictive!

’My brother says he despairs at why I play a game "designed for angry children"

A) it’s fun
B) no one can switch off our WiFi or use parental locks so we’re less angry

I do something similar. I love building the houses and decorating them. Your H is an idiot. Nothing wrong with being a nerd anyway.

@Quaagars

Your DH is a knobhead. I'm a sci fi nerd, love all things space, science fiction etc - difference is DH doesn't laugh at me and send pics to his mates and say he'll be embarassed at work (how old is he, 5?!) Ignore him, you're entitled to your hobbies and likes and it's his issue, not yours!

Yes. Exactly. Although you are not a true nerd if he wasn’t aware of the depth of your passion for it. If you hadn’t had numerous monological conversations where you explained every detail and nuance for a considerable period of time. If activities related to your interest hadn’t appeared everywhere, from pjs to monopolising sections of your home. He is an arse, he has broadcast information far and wide that he had no need to, and if he is a partner, he should be more tolerant and less critical.

@nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut

If you're so embarrassing, he won't mind getting a divorce will he?

He is the embarrassment, being immature enough to be getting at you for your interests and calling you names. What a cunt. Does he actually have any redeeming qualities?

This. Just this.

Bullying of the highest order behaviour from your DH. Absolute wanker.

Is rather be a geek than a dickhead

You sound awesome OP! I lost many days to playing Sims in my younger years and also spent far too much time on RuneScape. Now it is Minecraft that has that honour...

There are plenty of IG and social media accounts related to interior design, renovation and the like, and I personally don't see much difference in embarrassment levels - one is just real world and constrained by money and reality, the other is virtual and allows your creativity to flow unrestrained.

Agree with PP that Grandma Turismo sounds like an amazing game. Also now having fun imaging Grandma Theft Auto

So it’s okay for your DH’s male friends (and maybe him too) to play video games, but it’s weird if a woman plays? He sounds like a playground bully, bitching about you to all your friends and family. As long as you do other things as well as gaming, then there isn’t an issue in my eyes! Luckily DP and I enjoy gaming.

Instead of watching TV OP I play computer games in my spare time. It's how I relax.

Nothing wrong with it but your DH is a dick for shaming something you enjoy.