To not let our gardener use our toilet!

[OverTheRainbow88]

Me and my OH has a disagreement about this because of COVID, pre covid this wouldn’t have even been a discussion, he would have been welcome to use our toilet! wondering who is in the wrong!

YABU. Saying no to use our toilet

YANBU saying no to use our toilet

I would let him, why not? You can always clean it with bleach afterwards. It seems a bit mean to deny someone use of essential facilities.

our gardener, how else should I describe/address him?

I think our Gardener is more personal than the gardener .

Pre covid this wasn’t an issue of course he could use the loo, it was a snap second decision and now asking opinions as Wasn’t sure it was the right one.

(I hope he shit behind your shed)

He’s obviously not Bob Flowerdew or he’d have just pissed on the compost heap.

Oh God, op has said no! Was she reasonable or unreasonable, that is the question... Hardly relevant now that the poor bugger has probably gone in her bush, in a manner of speaking.

I think our Gardener is more personal than the gardener
So what? This is someone you wouldn't let use your toilet. That's not much of a personal relationship.

I'm Shielding extremely vulnerable group
I would let him use toilet

Because it's not just 1.5 hours, he's probably going from site to site during his working day and when you gotta wee or whatever, you gotta wee. Better it is in your toilet than behind a bush in your garden 🤪

Just disinfect everything and air out room afterwards and leave all doors open so he doesn't have to touch lots of door handles

When one or two of my DCs friends come round to social distant meet up in our garden, once it was allowed, they have on occasion needed to use the loo. I let them! (They all disinfect hands with hand wash afterwards as well as wash well and i disinfect toilet after they've left. They go in through back door right by toilet)

If he needs to have a shit in your garden, should he bury it like a cat?

@OverTheRainbow88

I guess we were caught off guard as previously he’s never asked or maybe literally twice in 8 years.

I don’t know what he could do... I went for a 3 hour walk through the woods today with no toilet near and waited until I got home to wee!

Not everyone can hold it, your experiences and body aren’t the same as everyone else’s.

@LST

Lovely

I think he should be allowed to use the toilet.

I'm confused (what else is new) but I voted YABU because I think he should be able to use your toilet.

So what would you do OP if someone in the house was frontline NHS, working with Covid-19 patients every day? Would the recommendation be that they peed and pood outside, had their own loo or perhaps moved out?

Nothing that disinfectant and soap and hot water cannot put right.

I would absolutely let him use the loo.

'OvertheRainbow', to say 'our gardener' is absolutely fine. Nobody thinks you own the man/person. I would say 'our gardener', 'cleaner' or whatever and presume so would everyone else who employs them.

Not as lovely as you though OP ay?

Your options make perfect sense to me. Either being unreasonable or not being unreasonable by not letting gardener use toilet. What is so difficult to understand?

I personally wouldn't want someone coming in and using my toilet at the moment. But I would say yes and would give everything a good clean afterwards. No, I dont think covid can be transmitted through urine, but from touching taps, light switch, flush etc.

@Thisismytimetoshine, well, it did! He used a concrete-y bit at the back of our shed and the shed wall, and it minged for a good few weeks! Urine smells are horrible, the bane of life for shopkeepers in big cities.

@LST

(I hope he shit behind your shed)

I was saying lovely to your statement not about you as a person.

YABU. Saying no to use our toilet
YANBU saying no to use our toilet
I’m still puzzled. If I click the left button that represents “saying no to use our toilet”. And if I click the right button that also means “saying no to use our toilet”. Regardless of which button I click, they both mean “saying no to use our toilet”.

Well I wasn't...

Ok thanks. I will take on board all the polite comments and will speak to my OH.

I guess we were naive in assuming as he was working outside he wouldn’t want/need to come inside, i see that now, As we have made the decision for people to not come into our house just yet- be it too cautious or not is personal opinion. But th

its unreasonable to say no, of course it is. It’s a basic human need.
You could’ve gone outside/ a different room and disinfected afterwards.

@Whenwillthisbeover

So what would you do OP if someone in the house was frontline NHS, working with Covid-19 patients every day? Would the recommendation be that they peed and pood outside, had their own loo or perhaps moved out?

We are not in this situation so I’m not sure what we would do.

The law says that if you employ him you are responsible for providing facilities for him.