Boys with long hair?

[len1234]

I just want to know why people are so against toddler boys or just boys in general having long hair?? I always thought it was cute but I've heard so many rude comments about it lately. It seems to really bother people?

[TreestumpsAndTrampolines]

I haven't come across it - my eldest prefers his hair short (not grade 4 all over like he had when he was younger, but short at the sides at least).

Youngest doesn't want his hair cut ever - but it's curly so he gets away with that, and my rule is he has to let me cut it, or wear a clip or headband as soon as it gets in his eyes (he normally goes for a trim at that point)

I've never heard any disparaging comments - but then curly hair lets you get away with a lot, no-one can resist a kid with curls.

[Regularsizedrudy]

Duh because long hair = feminine = bad

[SleepingStandingUp]

@SirSamuelVimesBlackboardMonito

Just because.

We need an upvote

[Cattermole]

@Regularsizedrudy

Duh because long hair = feminine = bad

I know, all those girlie Viking warriors eh?
(Restraining myself from pics of my own personal historical hottie here...)

Jason Momoa, nah, you're all good for that.
Devin Oliver, mind.

[Sheenais]

It seems to be a more recent thing. No one ever said a word 20 years ago. Or 40 years ago. Nowadays people are so regressive regarding perceived gender. Does my fucking head in.

[Flappingflamingo]

I personally can't stand long hair on males, whether it be children or men, I wouldn't date a man with long hair, I just don't find it attractive. BUT that's my personal preference, I would never say anything to anyone about their sons/partners whatever hair, that's just rude and ignorant, if they want it long, go for it

[Flappingflamingo]

Maybe I'm just jealous of their hair, mines fine and can't decide whether it wants to be straight, wavy or curly, it's got a bit of everything going on so is a bit of a pain in the arse!! 😂 😂 😂

[SleepingStandingUp]

@Flappingflamingo

I personally can't stand long hair on males, whether it be children or men, I wouldn't date a man with long hair, I just don't find it attractive. BUT that's my personal preference, I would never say anything to anyone about their sons/partners whatever hair, that's just rude and ignorant, if they want it long, go for it

More Jason Mamoa and Chris Hemsworth for me 😂

[LaurieMarlow]

Long hair on little boys always feels like the parents are trying to use their child to make some kind of statement

What kind of ‘statement’ would that be?

[SleepingStandingUp]

@LaurieMarlow

Long hair on little boys always feels like the parents are trying to use their child to make some kind of statement

What kind of ‘statement’ would that be?

Oh gosh, imagine if those long haired boys are also allowed Elsa dresses... 😂😂

[LaurieMarlow]

Oh gosh, imagine if those long haired boys are also allowed Elsa dresses

I know right 😵

[KfordMum1977]

I get more grief off my mum and sister about my 3 year olds long, curly blond hair. But i will also have random strangers stop me in the street to tell me how cool he looks.

[SleepingStandingUp]

@LaurieMarlow

Oh gosh, imagine if those long haired boys are also allowed Elsa dresses

I know right 😵

It's OK, ours is actually Princess Poppy...

[MsEllany]

Boys with long hair is fine.

I personally don’t like small children of either sex (pre-school age I mean) with long hair, it gets messy and everywhere - for girls it seems to be the desire to look princessy and for boys to put them in Ramones t-shirts.

[coldwarenigma]

DS2 has long hair and he is 31! It is dyed too.
Although he had short hair as a boy, as soon as he went to uni he grew it. He only got it cut once while job hunting. His current employer doesn't care as long as he is presentable.
I'm not keen on it now as he is thinning on top, his brother sports the Jason Statham look. think it looks daft now
On small kids long hair looks cute though if cut nicely and well looked after. DGSs though have the short on top shaved sides look. It looks so severe.

[EmpressSuiko]

My boy has long curly hair, it is annoying when people refer to him as a girl, he does not look feminine and it upsets him as well but he loves his long hair and doesn’t want to cut it, I will admit it does look unruly at times as his curls can get tangled especially on a windy day but I always get compliments on how nice his hair is.

I’m confused the whole middle class/making a statement thing though.
I’ve always loved long hair, I’m from a working class family, we’ve never been well off and myself and my husband have a low income (not poor but way below the “average”) surely its just a preference?

[TheFormerPorpentinaScamander]

I love the idea that DS2s decision to have long hair means I'm a middle class Mummy making a statement rather than the benefit claiming single mum I actually am

[Oliversmumsarmy]

Ds always gets mistaken for a girl.

He doesn’t even have really long hair now
He used to have waist length hair when he was younger.
He only had one negative comment when some other children in the park asked if he was a boy or a girl and when he said boy they said their mums said boys shouldn’t have long hair.

He replied that their mothers should get out more.

Most people mistake him for a girl because facially he does look like a girl, even with shorter hair and work clothes on.
He just thinks it is funny.

[thepeopleversuswork]

Because people are arseholes without enough to think about.
Seriously if you have time to worry about, let alone comment on this you're a dull person with too much time on your hands.

[StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes]

Ds 23 has long curly hair, usually in a man bun which i like, its very thick and sort of wide when he lets it down and i am less keen on it. to be honest with his beard he is unlikely to be mistaken for a girl 😁 he rather resembles jesus so i do enjoy saying ah jesus has risen when he emerges from his room with it down.

[NotMyTimes]

I personally don't like it in the same way I don't like a box fringe or bright coloured denim or odd socks.

It's not to my taste, as long as my kids are young enough that I make the decisions they won't be having it. However as they get older and develop their own sense of style they can do what they want, still doesn't mean I like it but as a parent the job is to be supportive. Also wouldn't comment on another kid/person doing it, just wouldn't do it myself.

You do you OP. I'm sure your little boy is gorgeous. Long hair (on anyone, boy or girl) is a fashion thing and people have different opinions/tastes in fashion. Doesn't mean we shit on those who's tastes are different. We're just polite about it and choose not to do what isn't to our taste to ourselves.

[SleepingStandingUp]

@StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes

Ds 23 has long curly hair, usually in a man bun which i like, its very thick and sort of wide when he lets it down and i am less keen on it. to be honest with his beard he is unlikely to be mistaken for a girl 😁 he rather resembles jesus so i do enjoy saying ah jesus has risen when he emerges from his room with it down.

My sister once loudly commented on the "ladies pretty hair". "Lady" turned around and had a full long beard 😂😂

[covidco]

Genuinely not goady but I'm interested in what you mean by:

It's not to my taste, as long as my kids are young enough that I make the decisions they won't be having it.

I ask ask as DS is 4 (pre-school) and I feel he looks better with short hair (though generally like long hair on boys and men) but he desperately wants long hair and any discussion about the hairdresser ends in tears and wails of "pleeeeaaaasssseee don't cut off my beautiful haaaaiiiiiirrrrr". So I haven't but would you just take him kicking and screaming to the hairdressers or would you consider that an age to decide?

It's odd, as DS has literally no opinion on any other area of his life re clothes, food he's given etc, just goes with the flow! But he is really attached to his hair!

[LolaSmiles]

Long hair on little boys always feels like the parents are trying to use their child to make some kind of statement. It's definitely a middle class thing.
What statement? That boys and girls can have long and short hair, just like men and women can have long and short hair.

DH has long hair. Out of interest, is he making a statement? What if I went for a short crop, what statement would I be making?

You might have a point on the class issue, but not for the reasons you think. To generalise, I'd say it's more likely that middle class late don't feel they have as much to prove so feel happier embracing the whole long hair on boys, less bothered about kids looking immaculate. If you know you're sat at home with 2 higher incomes, have friends who also have children in mismatched clothing (but all from carefully selected retailers and usually all unisex clothing), and are part of the whole 'let kids be wild' group then you're highly unlikely to be concerned that a small number of people might mistake your DC for a girl. It's a similar principle behind the fact that our local private school has regular second hand uniform sales, but when I worked in a school in a more deprived area the kids were very mocking of anyone who had second hand. It dawned on me that the difference is choice.
That's worded very clumsily, but you see what I mean. It's a much bigger picture and not just a case of 'middle class parents make statements by allowing their child to have long hair'.

[BitOfFun]

"Jesus is risen"