Boys with long hair?

[len1234]

I just want to know why people are so against toddler boys or just boys in general having long hair?? I always thought it was cute but I've heard so many rude comments about it lately. It seems to really bother people?

[Poochnewbie]

My 3yr old has long hair. It looks all shaggy and ‘surfer-dude’ style. I think he looks adorable...or he did until I did a lockdown fringe trim and now could be in dumb and dumber

[BreatheAndFocus]

I think long hair on boys is fine. With young boys, I actually think most look better with long hair. It’s a personal choice, of course, but I hate the rush to cut boys baby curls compared to equivalent aged girls.

As long as the hair is clean and tidy, it doesn’t matter.

[Destroyedpeople]

Agree with a pp it does seem to be class based. Flowing surfer locks on a boy are like a middle class badge tbh.
Try having a blond boy with a buzz cut and blue eyes you really will get dirty looks.

[ImNotWhoYouThinkIam]

@BreatheAndFocus

I think long hair on boys is fine. With young boys, I actually think most look better with long hair. It’s a personal choice, of course, but I hate the rush to cut boys baby curls compared to equivalent aged girls.

As long as the hair is clean and tidy, it doesn’t matter.

I got told when ds2 was a couple of weeks old that I should cut his hair because he looked like a girl
Over the last 13 years hes had everything from grade 2 all over, to almost half way down his back, via "the same as Justin Bieber please"
He frequently gets mistaken for a girl now, although he is starting to get a very dark, and therefore very noticeable, moustache.i wonder what Joe Public will make of that

[lukasiak]

In my experience, most parents with little boys with long hair don't keep it groomed and clean. It's just a mob of knotted baby curls clumped together with some sort of suspicious brown substance. If it was beautiful, smooth and shiny, okay. I feel that way about little girls with long hair as well. If you can't care for it, braid it or cut it off.

[maxdash]

Our relatives keep commenting on DSs hair, things like "hasn't it grown long in lockdown" and "won't you be glad when you can get it cut" but he's chosen to grow it, he's not had it cut for ages pre lockdown. His dad has a barber appointment soon and he offered to take him for a connecting appointment but he doesn't want to. I personally think he looks better with shorter hair, but it's his hair, his choice, it's not doing any one any harm.

[Midsommar]

I for one absolutely love seeing toddlers and little boys with long hair! It makes them seem so free spirited and chilled
Anybody who gives a child a hard time over their hair is just ridiculous.

[haba]

My son's is half way down his back. He has grown it because he likes the feel of it (sensory ishoos) and also he's into rock music. He looks amazing and definitely not feminine in any way (he's 11).

[mynameisntlouise]

My toddlers is sort of a bowl cut length at the moment but messy from DIY trims, but it's really really fine and poker straight, and white blonde! I want to let it grow a bit but I can't imagine what he will look like being so straight.

Someone did call him a girl the other day and it's really not that long at all.

[40somethingJBJ]

My 14yo ds hasn’t has his hair cut in a couple of years now and it’s halfway down his back. He gets a bit of grief about it at school but it doesn’t bother him. He’s a bit alternative in his music tastes and wears black skinny jeans and band t-shirts out of school, plus plays guitar in a punk band, so his hair suits his overall look. My only input is to remind him to brush it properly every day, as he has a tendency to ignore knots!

[DramaDromedary]

In my experience, most parents with little boys with long hair don't keep it groomed and clean. It's just a mob of knotted baby curls clumped together with some sort of suspicious brown substance. If it was beautiful, smooth and shiny, okay. I feel that way about little girls with long hair as well. If you can't care for it, braid it or cut it off.

Completely agree with this. I know one 4yo boy in particular whose cool mother is always going on about how beautiful his long hair is. It’s not. They don’t take care of it properly, and it’s always matted and dirty. Perhaps I notice this more often with boys’ hair because girls wear things in their hair and boys don’t tend to? I dunno.

[Cattermole]

Junior Mole has long (mid-back) thick fair hair.
Usually filthy dirty and with a spanner in his hand poking the internal workings of some sort of steam apparatus (he's a steam apprentice) but the number of people who will say "isn't it great that SHE likes engineering?"

He's normally very nice and just smiles and says "my name is Boy Mole" and lets them squirm.
We don't say a dicky bird. And he's quite devastatingly polite, so....

[RiftGibbon]

Doesn't bother me. Anyone who comments in a negative way must have a very boring life.

[Wifeofbikerviking]

My son has long blonde curly hair..his dad has long hair and so does both his grandfathers. I'm hoping he can see it's perfectly acceptable growing up and doesng listen to any nonsense

[Passmethechocolatecake]

My four year old has lovely long blond hair. It’s quite a bit past his shoulders and if I so much as suggest cutting it short he bursts into tears. Strangers take issue with it all the time 🙄. He is constantly called a girl which will illicit his stock response of an exasperated ‘I a boy’. My grandparents hate it. My grandad will constantly find a new way to complain, currently it’s he must be hot under all that hair. Funnily enough girls don’t get hot under hair just boys!
It’s bloody annoying. I have no issue of whether he keeps it long or wants it cut off, it’s his hair!

[RIPworkingmums]

I know some boys with beautiful curls and it looks adorable. I have a 2 yr old son and I do shave his, but he is absolutely feral (joke but he is messy, loves mud, we do lots of baking etc) and I can’t be arsed to wash it every day!

[Mischance]

Love boys with long hair - why is it always their Dads who want to get it cut? Don't get it myself. Think it looks great.

TBH I hate these shaved off up the back and sides cuts that little boys have now.

[IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere]

I love long hair on boys. My son didn't have his hair cut as a teen and he had nothing but compliments. His hair was always clean and tied back for health and safety and loose for other lessons.

[Sexnotgender]

As long as it’s clean I think it’s fine. Same as for girls.

[Thurmanmurman]

I'm not a fan personally, but I'd never comment on other people's choices and if DS wanted his hair long, fine, it's his hair.

[Frazzled2207]

not properly long but my younger DS has quite shaggy hair, obviously shaggier than usual right now due to lockdown, he'll have it cut soon but has never been very short.
I like longer hair on boys. Round here (north west) it seems to be the done thing for small boys to have shaved heads. Fair enough if they are school age and want it like that but for younger boys, I'm not keen. Each to their own.

[OohKittens]

My youngest son has his long he's almost 8. His choice, he loves wwe and loads of the wrestlers have longer hair. He either wears it in a bun or a black elastic alice band to hold it back.

[JustAddCoffee91]

My 19 month old has dark brown shoulder length ringlets and it's so beautiful..people have referred to him as she a few times I also have a 7 month old and has blonde ringlets starting to some through I guess I'll have the same problem with him too lol
I get the comment "ohh he'd make a lovely girl"... what is all that about! 🙄

[RoLaren]

I will cry the day my son decides to cut his beautiful hair!

[FishOnPillows]

This is DS’s hair. Not dirty or matted! He knows if he doesn’t take care of it, it’ll have to be cut off, so he looks after it well. It’s his choice to have it long, it’s his hair after all.