Boys with long hair?

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I just want to know why people are so against toddler boys or just boys in general having long hair?? I always thought it was cute but I've heard so many rude comments about it lately. It seems to really bother people?

My son has always had long hair. First hair cut it was half way down his back, got it cut to chin length ish then grew it again because it didn't suit him. 100% of strangers think he is a girl, and that's absolutely fine, no offense taken, I don't believe clothes have a gender either so I understand people struggle to guess by clothes and the English language means it's impossible to make friendly conversation without taking a guess and saying he/she. Anyway I digress, the only negative comments we've had is from those age 70+, neighbours, strangers and a couple of family members all in that age bracket. Literally noone else cares or is rude enough to tell us.

I wouldn't say anything (because it's none of my business and would be very rude to butt in with unsolicited opinions), but I prefer boys not have long hair, just as I don't care for many of the popular styles for young adults that have come and gone in recent decades-- for example, "the Bieber", the "long on top, shaven on the sides", the man-bun, and the frizzy full beard on men who are not aged prospectors or lumberjacks.

Again, none of my business, but I have an opinion, like anyone else, and sometimes that opinion is . (I keep it on the inside, though!)

I don't like much hair on either girls or boys tbh. It's a faff brushing it and it gets in their eyes. Short is best.

I'm not keen, personally. But I also think that many toddler girls would look better with a cute bob rather than tatty tangled locks. I wouldn't dream of commenting on it in reality though- NOMB.

Older kids can do what they like- you can't really force them to cut their hair if they don't want to.

One of my children always had his hair short (it was extremely thick and would just sit in his eyes if allowed to grow out). The other had fined hair so we let it grow. It looked lovely. One particular family member was obsessed with cutting it. I don’t know why, he has such beautiful hair I don’t see why we’d cut it. She has always been really concerned about appearance though.

Long hair on little boys always feels like the parents are trying to use their child to make some kind of statement. It's definitely a middle class thing.

@Grendalsmum

Both mine had short hair when they were really small but once they were large enough to have a preference they wanted it long. There was a certain amount of "you-look-like-a-girl" sniping which stopped once they got bigger DS2 has waist length locks now, he sometimes plaits them to match his beard. I don't see why people have a problem with it, it's only hair!

Ds2 sounds hot tbf 😂

@1forAll74

My son has long hair,and he is 48, he ties it back most of the time, but he is a bit unconventionable, and its like a throw back to his younger days,when he was into heavy metal music.

Oooh I'd say are you my MIL but dh refuses to tie it back despite me asking very nicely and the babies using it for pulling up practise!!

Not a fan tbh and would rather keep it short and especially in the summer months as DS 15 months gets really hot and bothered with longer hair. I've never been a fan of long hair even for myself as it's really difficult to maintain and look after and can't imagine adding drying and looking after DS long locks to the list of things-to-do in a chaotic house.

My eldest has long curly hair. He started growing it in year 8. He was devastated when a barber cut it short due to mis-comunnication and him not being confident enough to speak out. It's getting long again now and he's happy.

DS3 also had long hair for years until he was year 7 and joined sea cadets and decided to have it cut short. He's a surfer dude type and into surfing, kayaking, SUP, anything water based. His was always straight.

DS2 is autistic and has his short and can't understand why boys have long hair, girls have long hair not boys. He's going mad because his hair grows quickly and it's too long for him at the moment.

@namechangetheworld Trying to make statement? How so?

Personally I prefer shorter hair on boys because I think it looks smarter. My boys will not be allowed long hair until we are well out of the headlice years. I would never make a comment about another boy's long hair, though, as it's none of my business, as long as it is tied back for school, in line with the rules for girls.

I think many people get upset about boys having long hair because they themselves are too lazy to use other clues to try to figure out the child's gender, and are perhaps worried about making a mistake and being embarrassed. Same with girls who have super short haircuts.

They want it all clear and simple for their own convenience.

But I also notice it's always blonde children?

My sons is black.

I don't like long hair on boys at all but have never and would never make comments about it.

I don't like long hair on men either and could never date a man with long hair.

My five year old has beautifully long, curly strawberry blonde hair. There's no way it'd get cut off.

@namechangetheworld

Think you’d be hard pushed to find a boy who would tolerate having long hair forced on him...

@RoLaren

Your sons hair is beautiful

DS1 now has short hair but always had long hair, it was his decision to have it cut when he was around 7. DS2 is a toddler and has the most beautiful, shiny, straight shoulder length hair and I’ve never heard anything other than compliments.

In my daughter's class it seems half the boys have long hair (she's 9).its been the case for years. These boys are seen as cool! I haven't heard anything negative said about it.

I dont really like either boys or girls with long hair unless it's really tidy. The mums I know with girls who have longer hair usually clip or tie it out of their eyes, the mums of the boys dont seem to, they seem to be aiming at a scruffy surfer look which I dislike.

Yep all three have shoulder length but my 2 year olds is just heavenly! Ringlets to just past shoulders but when we wash it it's nearly down to his bum. I'm really going to miss it when it goes straight (other 2s did)

@KaitK but, but,Jason momoa?

Jason Momoa...ah...lost a bit in my thoughts there.

DS2 had the most gorgeous hair - fringe and to collar bone- until age 10 when exH persuaded him to go short. I cried inside that day. He's 13 now and still has it short- it's still so soft and fuzzy- he really would suit it long but he's having none of it, he uses excuse of ' in the way for rugby, hot under helmet for mountain biking' but i think he's bowing to the pressure to keep it short from peers/ society. I too, think it's a class thing.

Just because.